Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Whether you’re getting back in the game after a long absence, coming off the short end of a real-hate-shun-ship, or just really getting focused on mastering your girl-getting game, the frame you approach with makes all the difference.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Time and time I’ve heard it again, from students and other smart guys who approach women with a specific sequence of actions or memorized pick-up lines.  There’s a reason why I hear it.

One (or more) of three things will usually happen(and many times one leads from the other):  a) She’ll pick up on it and give back non-receptive vibes, b) He’ll choke and beat a hasty retreat, c) he’ll find himself in a place where he has to psyche himself up each time he approaches a woman.

It gets worse.

The now-despondent male will often seek the advice of friends or heed the “conventional wisdom” and buy into the beliefs such as “Just be yourself,” “Love will happen as soon as you stop looking for it,” and (it pains me to say I’m not making this up) “You have to BE a friend to HAVE a friend.”

OK, enough. 

Please, hear this: 

This is why I say there are NO “answers” or “information” or “one right way”. There are only POTENTIAL answers and information that only become actualized by your testing, experimenting and ACTIONS in the world.

A huge piece of the puzzle is that guys have a severely restricted and slowed method of learning what works with women.

The ratio of worry/thinking to acting is way, way off and the primary method of learning is not experimenting in the world, but thinking about things.

Remember: Free your mind, and HER ass will follow.

Free your mind means looking deep into the code of how you’ve been keeping yourself stuck.

If the real structure of “stuck” is doing huge amounts of thinking and very little acting, then putting MORE or different thinking through that system won’t give you much change.

And you won’t get far with just a little pocket change.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

All things aside, are you, as the gentleman, still obligated to pay for the lady’s drink?

Let’s dig into this.

So you’re at a social with a cash bar (and you can run a tab).  You’re just having fun, being playful, chatting up different women.  Then, you focus in on one woman, and vice-versa.  You approach her.

She seems attractive and bright.  She’s been drinking a bit, not too much and not surprisingly since this is a social with a cash bar, but just enough for a slight buzz.

You say and do Sargy things and the seduction seem to be progressing nicely.  This night just might have an Act 2 – a torrid, steaming-hot sex scene.

At the end of the night, it’s time to pay the tab. You pay yours.  She starts complaining that her friend had invited her, implying that she doesn’t want to pay her own tab.  You assume she wants her friend to pay.  Remembering how “booze” is one of the 5 Bs that desperate supplicators resort to, you don’t volunteer to pay.  Eventually, her friend comes back to where you are and pays the tab.

Outside in the parking lot, she puts you to the fire for not offering to pay for her drinks. Maybe you should have expected this.  (Thank you VERY much, social programming and Romance Racketeers, for f@@king things up AGAIN for both you and her.)

Now, she seems like an attractive enough woman that most other guys would offer to pay for her drinks. Instinctively you sense this might be the turning point that determines whether you a) go home with her, b) go back out Sarging, c) call it a night.  So what do you do?

A student of mine, when faced with this exact scenario, told her, pleasantly but matter-of-factly, “I’m not going to buy your affections.” It became clear she wasn’t going to give him her number, much less a ride on the O-Train, so he did the ol “Exit, stage left.”

I think he did fine. I would have suggested he say, also, “Do you really need the external validation of a guy’s buying things for you, to be reminded of your own value and worth?” Then shake his head and walk off.

Onward!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you no longer need a guarantee before you take a bold step forward and approach a woman, “make your move”, or what have you, some amazing things can totally open up:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

This is the first of two mini-lessons on hooking her interest that I’ll be sharing.  The second will arrive in a couple days.  (I know, I know, I’m a tease.)

What are some of the key, initial factors that come into play when approaching women that can enable you to hook or get attention initially?

It begins with a very important concept.  The first five minutes are designed to get her invested in the transaction. Yes, you can create connections, get her sexually turned on, etc. Remember, in the first five minutes, if you get her invested and really interested in talking to you more, you’ve gotten the job done for that portion.

Here’s what can hook attention: She might hook into the vibe you present as your approach.

Let me break that down for you.

First of all, she may hook in psychically. She may be really sensitive to NLP.

She could hook into the theme that you introduce. She may just like the theme that you introduce.

She may hook into the format you use. For example, she may really like jokes, games, quizzes and curiosity.

She may hook in to the vibe, theme, format or analog.

She may really love your voice. Many women initially tell me they just love how masculine my voice was.

She may hook in to the fact that you don’t care that she’s not hooking in. If she’s not hooking and you don’t care and are fine with it, that may really get her attention.

As part of that, she may hook into how comfortable you are with her first response. Let’s say she’s a little bit nasty or skeptical and you just laugh and are not in any way troubled by it. That may really hook her attention.

Any kind of pattern interruption or response on your part that’s positive and unexpected can really hook her in.

She may finally only hook in to your touch. You may have to touch her in order to start getting her hooked in.

She may hook in to your fun learning frame. You’re there to learn and have fun.

She may hook into the fact that you’re screening her or the implied compliment.  She may hook in to the implied, playful screening and the fact that you’re screening her in a playful way.

The trick is to have fun, steady your ground, and get stable in your feet with a nice flow of energy in your body no matter what happens and plays out. Those initial 5 (to 10) minutes are about sparring in a friendly way and seeing where she’s open.

In Part 2 of this lesson, we’ll explore how to hook her interest with your closing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Really… how was your weekend with women?

Was it a vaginally-victorious, ripe-for-harvest, 69-acre field of moist pink abundance?

Did you meet a great new woman, easily and effortlessly, despite any imperfections in yourself or in her, and powerfully capture her interest and create a new space where the two of you could take things, together, in a new direction?

Did you get laid?

If some hottie threw you a curveball – gave you a nasty glare, shot you down cold before you had a chance to work your Sargy magic (or Magick), or otherwise threw a wrench in the gears – did you know what to do?  How to handle it?  How to turn things around your way to still get the results you want?

OK, so maybe you’ve been seeing someone.  Have you slept with her yet? Things heatings up between you two?

(Or you three, if she, like her salaciously succulent sorority sister, is the freaky girl that many of my students would like to meet at least once… or maybe again and again)?

I get it – maybe you’re in a serious, committed relationship and this is indeed the woman you think you might want to marry.  After all, you did take her home to meet your momma and it was already like your parents “didn’t lose a son, but gained a daughter”. 

Is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship? Are you sure?  Do you know what to do if you really like her but so far it seems like you real-hate too much?

Seriously, let me know.  I want to hear from you.  Leave a comment below, please.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday I shared with you Part 1 of the letter from my student who set the intention of approaching 100 women and the expectation that most of them would shoot him down.

In Part 2, let’s explore some of the techniques that helped him in his quest.

As you read the rest of his letter, pay special attention to his brilliant advice on overcoming the fear of “failure”.

Now here’re a few techniques you may want to use:

Talking with other smart guys about women: I cannot say enough about this. Just learning what others are doing while doing the above is both encouraging as well as enlightening. I just want to thank the thoughtful people who post quality emails … some of us really appreciate it.

Self-reward and -analysis: Always pat yourself in the back after making an approach or every few approaches. It works. It sounds funny but you feel better when you tell yourself ‘good job’ and give yourself a pat in the back.

Every, say 5 approaches analyze what you did… think how you could have done it concretely better… and replay in your mind how you’d have done it. DON’T analyze every time, do it every say 5 times.

Women are random and if you analyze it each time you’ll NOT see the real pattern. No pun intended. But the exercise (AGAIN) is not to get better, although you naturally will, but just to get across the X number of getting shot-down.

Fear of failure and safety: Early on I sat down and asked myself what in the world was holding me back from approaching beautiful (physically, intellectually, spiritually) women and making their lives sheer beauty, wonder, delight… and I realized… it was just a simple fear of failing.

What if I make a fool out of myself? What if I fall on my face? What if I just annoy her? Being someone who’s successful at a lot of things he’s tried in life this was a BIG one.

But then after some thought I realized it was a paradox. THE BIGGEST FAILURE IS TO FEAR FAILURE. If you fear failure, then you’re GUARANTEED to fail every time.

Think about it. Think about this for long enough and it’ll BLOW your mind AND any fear of failure you have out of the water. DRILL on any such feelings with this paradox.

If you fear failure, YOU WILL FAIL EACH AND EVERY TIME. It’s a complete guarantee. So THAT FEAR IS ITSELF the BIGGEST FAILURE.

Secondly, often we want to be ‘safe.’ But usually, safe from what?? Safe from success, safe from learning how to move women in ways that may astonish us. Do you want to be safe from success? Really? Think about your whole life … do you want to be safe repeating that SAME pattern?

If these are issues for you, I’d try meditate on these two ideas, after some breathing exercises, and you may find, like I did, that meditation affecting your whole life timeline, going to the deepest crevices of your being, and you will be decontaminated from those thoughts in a couple hours or days.

Don’t be surprised to see your whole physiology changing. This is not just pattern language… my whole body felt it. Use the titanium drill of the paradoxes to destroy those filthy mental microbes.

Best regards, Stephen/Angelo

Ok. Ross here again. This student really got it when he talked about the paradox of fearing failure actually being the biggest guarantee of failure.

You see, as I have said before, it is the meaning you assign to things that determines how you will feel about them. If you assign the meaning that you MUST “succeed” with every beautiful girl you see, you are going to drive yourself nuts with all sorts of unneeded fear and stress.

When you assign the right meaning to things; that you are just practicing and you are intending to fall on your face, just to practice, suddenly it loses its importance and paradoxically, you do a lot better with a lot less effort.

My own personal beliefs about meeting and seducing women are, “Let’s go have some fun with her and find out what she’s like” and “I will either get what I want or learn what I need to in order to get what I want or even better next time”.

Try THOSE on for size, and see what happens to any fear of approaching women.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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