Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you ever met a stunning hottie who was everything you ever wanted in a woman? You meet her, you pick her up, you have great times with her. Things are going great, and you’re thinking “she just might be THE ONE!”

But then, she throws it down: she just recently broke up with her ex and she’s “not sure” about getting involved again “so soon.” BAM! NOW what?

Listen to this note from my student, who sums up the issue perfectly with his story:

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Hi Ross, I’ve been Sarging this hot babe for over a week now. The first week was awesome. But then, I she told me she is only 3 weeks out of a long term relationship and now is having issues with her old “borefriend” and says she needs some time away from me to ‘find herself’ Here is an excerpt from an email I got today:

“He is still such a great friend and person that I want him to stay in my life. I am sorry if that upsets you, I really am, but there is so much that is hard for me to explain. I had the idea that I was not going to get into a relationship for a couple of reasons. 1. I had just come out of a serious relationship and I needed some time to adjust. 2. Love got the best of me last year and I did not do as well in school as I should have, so I was not going to make that mistake again. 3. I have been “with someone” for almost 4 years straight now with no breaks in between and I wanted to enjoy being on my own for a while before I started getting all wrapped up in a new relationship.

So things were going smoothly…then when you and I started talking… I knew that I couldn’t just let it go. I feel so much care and love and passion from you in so many remarkable ways. you are the dream come true.”

I really like this girl and want to continue with her, but this is a stumbling block I was totally unprepared for. I’m SURE your students have encountered a situation like this. What type of approach should I take to this? What has worked in the past to get her to forget this other guy?

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She says she is not getting into a relationship for a “couple reasons.” Regardless of all the logical (to her) reasons in her e-mail, there are a few things that could be happening here.

1. This experience with you has opened up the floodgates of passion, erotic energy and emotion within her, and she is not sure how to handle it
2. She has a “checklist” of what her “perfect guy” is, and when she compared you to the checklist, she’s not sure if the answer to every point is “HELL YES“
3. How do you know for sure she actually broke up with this guy? Could be she’s still with him, not ready to end her “real-hate-shun-ship by default” with him, and was “testing the waters” with you

It’s not your job to “figure her out.” It’s your job to decide whether she is worth the Sarging effort necessary to take what she is giving you and feed it back to her (using techniques including the “boyfriend destroyer”) in a way that gets her dripping wet with desire for you.

While you’re making that decision, also ask yourself this all-important question:

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???

Think it over. Meanwhile…

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop competing with the out-of-the-picture (maybe?) “ex-borefriend” for the goodies!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So this weekend I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. From now on, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Get Yours Now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Many of my students – smart guys like you – have approached a woman, only to find out that not only does she have a boyfriend, but, small world, you know the guy! And he’s either someone you’re cool with, or at least, don’t want a problem with.

Hell, it’s happened to ME. I make my move on a hot babe, then find out that the boyfriend I was just trying to “destroy” is my neighbor, mail man, a guy at my gym with 32-inch biceps, whatever.

So what to do? Here’s a little situation my student got himself into last week…

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Hey Ross! I was at the gym the other night. Suddenly I saw this really hot co-ed on the treadmill right next to me. I did the small talk first and found that she is rather sweet as a person, but she has a “borefriend.” So I ran the Boyfriend Destroyer on her. Then, I decided it was time to leave. I went to set up a meeting with her. At first she paused…then smiled with her eyes looking to the left. Then she said okay. I asked her to meet at 5 the next day, and she said she’ll be at school. Then I said I’d pick her up at 8 then, and she said, “sorry I can’t.” Then she said…”why don’t you give me your number and I’ll call you.” I know enough and responded like you taught me.

Then, I saw her again today. Across the fence. Get this – her boyfriend is my neighbor! He’s a nice enough dude but I don’t wanna mess with him….ya know? Knowing I may have to leave an enticing message on her phone as the next step, not to mention handle this in such a way that my neighbor doesn’t come after me, do you have any suggestions for this sort of situation?

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EV-VERY TIME someone asks me what to do in this situation, I always ask the same question back …

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

Do you need drama in your life? Do you WANT your neighbor POed at you?

Look: get out of this scarcity/poverty mindset, and find women who ARE available and ready RIGHT NOW, who are ripe for the picking and don’t come with a poison worm already embedded in her apple. Use my teachings on someone whose “borefriend” doesn’t know where you live.

Getting action from the chiseled, goddess-bodied hottie at the gym sure beats a poke in the eye…but don’t do something that might get you … literally … poked in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. One more thought. Is it possible that something inside you has you flirting with the “low hanging fruit” – women who have boyfriends and are less likely to explore with you – so you avoid the risk of something life-changing actually happening – like getting the best lay of your life?

With no further need for assurance or guarantee of success before you take bold (and fun) seduction steps, what if you could get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” a%%, and get moving right now with the success with women you’ve always wanted?

Claim your copy of my Nail Your Inner Game Program and start turning things around now:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/nailyourinnergame/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

My success as a Seduction teacher is YOUR success. I am doing right by you when you take the principles I teach and apply them to their own situation.

If you’ve been out of the game for a while, going back and reviewing my material can jump-start your girl-getting game and have you making women dripping wet in no time.

Here’s a letter I just received from one of my students:

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Dear Ross,

I purchased your home study course a few years back but never really gave it the time it deserved – that is, until recently.

I got dumped by my girlfriend of three years a few months ago. I was really distraught and didn’t know what to do, so I pulled out your home study course and listened to it for a week straight. I began devouring everything I could about your principles, trying them out on all the women I met.

The first few times – nothing.

Then…I was with some friends when a beautiful brunette sat down next to me. After some small talk, I ran several patterns on her. Before you know it, SHE STARTS TALKING ABOUT REALLY INTENSE BODY FEELINGS! So I amplify and make the feelings bigger and brighter. I fractionate for just a second, then transition into a “weasel phrase,” then I go into what I can remember from the BJ pattern and I finally get it! The doggy bowl dinner look!

By this time all my friends are gone and and she just leans over and kisses me! At that moment she stops and says: “Oh my G-D I have boyfriend! I have to go meet him right now”

Turns out the guy is a friend. Yes, I know I should have run the Boyfriend Destroyer, but I didn’t have it memorized. As she left, she said with a wink “thanks for making me have to go change my panties!”

Since then, I’ve been getting better and better at Speed Seduction®. I’m still learning, but I want to thank you for introducing me to a world of endless possibilities. You are a Genius-with a capital G!

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See, this is what it’s all about. When life throws you a curve ball, don’t go sit in the dugout. Go back to school, and get back on your girl-getting game.

Look – the women are waiting. What are you waiting for?

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. When this student hit a rough streak, he went back to school and sharpened his seduction tools. If you have my Home Study Course, you have everything he mentioned – the BJ pattern, weasel phrases, fractionation skills, the Boyfriend Destroyer – and so much more. Dust off the DVDs and get to it!

P.P.S. If you don’t yet have my Home Study Course, the only thing stopping you – is you. I have copies available for you. Get yours now:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/homestudy/