Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’ve said before that pretty much every woman, regardless of her position on the HB scale, is probably at some stage of “seeing someone” or at very least, is no more than a couple phone dials away from an on-demand booty call.

That doesn’t make it any less annoying when she says she’s “seeing someone”, as this student relates:

> I’ve been casually dating this smoking 24 year old (I’m 50). I’ve run some connection patterns and done some values elicitation and she has been quite responsive, but she says she’s seeing some other guy.

> The other night I was out and she was at a bar a few blocks away watching her “guy” play in his band and texted me to come to see her at said bar. I texted back, told her thank but no thanks, I’m not interested in that scene.  Ten minutes later she shows up where I am, we talked some, I ran some patterns and we ended up making out in the corner.

> She’s calling me but I’m not interested in being friends (which she is hinting at) haven’t run the boyfriend destroyer or blammo yet. Your thoughts?

RJ here.

Sounds to me like you are waiting for an engraved, gold-lettered invitation to get physical. Mistake.

You are over-valuing her because of her looks and youth. Re-position this in your mind as an opportunity for her to get a real f@@king from a seasoned guy who knows his ass from his elbow in the sack.

Don’t worry or even think very much at all about the other guy.  He doesn’t know Speed Seduction®. You do.

Rather than look for too many more patterns I’d adjust your thoughts and attitudes towards being more sexually forward and owning and claiming your sexual intent with your women who please, satisfy and delight you in every way.

She’s waiting.  For you.  Now what in Nicole’s knickers are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So let me tell you about this one weekend where I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine shared with me a situation he was in with an HB9 he was Sarging.  He found she had many qualities that appealed to him.  The “diamond in the rough”, the “needle in the haystack.”

One thing:  she had a ‘borefriend’ and, so she claimed, she had never been “in love.”

His initial approach was to explore with her the values she needs to see in herself in order to be in love, and among these she listed “vulnerability.”

Now, one of the mistakes in his thinking was he was going to try to give her an experience she never had before…being in love…in order to get her away from her current “borefriend”.

I asked him…

What if he just had to be a bit more tempting… a bit more exciting… a bit more tasty… a bit more aggressive than her borefriend?

I took an approach counter-intuitive to what my student was thinking… and that is, first focus on turning her on, opening her to a place where she could have feelings and responses she’d never had before.

Thing is, “vulnerability” is not an end value. VULNERABILITY is only valuable in that it would allow her to experience emotions and BODY FEELINGS she wasn’t having with her borefriend.

She THOUGHT she had to have that experience in the context of being “in love” and in going along, my student was buying into HER limit.

Bad thing.

Instead, I suggested he say this… “If you could imagine being totally vulnerable to this person… because for whatever reasons you knew that this person had all the qualities that let you FEEL THAT WAY…  what do you imagine being vulnerable would allow you to experience and feel… that you know you’ve always wanted?”

And once he said that, to be ready to anchor the responses and feed back her words.

So, let’s say she would reply, “Swept away… enraptured… totally taken and out of my own self”.

My student would need to be sure he anchored this… do something… tap on a packet of sugar or on the table with the intent he was anchoring the state.

Then say to her, “Wow… so if you could have THESE feelings… where do you imagine you’d first recognize on the inside… what is the first signal on the inside that would let you know… these feelings of swept away… enraptured… totally taken…are even now… beginning to flow through you?”

Get what I told him?

You want to be able to produce the feelings, anchor them and not get caught up in HER limited view that she has to be in love first.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I’ve dealt with the ethics of boyfriend destroying.  Today, I am going to share an actual Sarge report from a student who successfully used this technique.  Stay with me for a moment as I lay it out for you.

There’s a scintillatingly hot clerk at his local convenience store.  After seeing her and chatting her up a few times, he realized he needed to step up and claim his results.  So, on his third visit, he made his move.  Setting aside a plan to go back and say “when I was here earlier I forgot to pick up a few things” he decided instead to clearly state his intention when he saw her.

She heard what he had to say, then nicely told him she has a boyfriend.

His reponse?  “So what?  I wasn’t expecting you to LEAVE HIM FOR ME.” (Embedded command).

Then she said, “I really care about him, and he wouldn’t like it, and I just don’t do that kind of thing.”

He replied, “I really respect that. I hope someday you change your mind, and have a great day.”

And Then, HIS Day Got Much, Much Better…

At that moment, the most incredible thing happened.

She just melted. She OPENED UP she had been going through a really rough time lately, etc. He looked her in the eye and said “I’m so sorry. I know what it’s like, and things just get worse and worse no matter how hard you try. And I hope things get better for you soon.” He turned to walk away and she caught his arm and said “Wait”, wrote her phone number down and handed it to him.

The Keys To The Kingdom Are Dangling Before You

Just like the most delicious, perfectly shaped, more-than-a-mouthful boobies that have ever made their way to your face while she straddled you.

I tell you, when you get results like this, you are not far from the Kingdom of Sarge. When you hear my words and do them, you shall live in moist, pink abundance, forever and ever, Sarge without end.

The ability to see where the other person is at WITHOUT HAVING TO GO THERE YOURSELF is a key skill in any form of persuasion/seduction/influencing.

When you can combine equanimity with uncertainty – being ok with not knowing what is going to happen AND giving the other person radical permission to have their FIRST response to you, it creates an unbelievably powerful doorway for something unexpected to occur.

Believe what I say and you shall inherit the Kingdom of Poontang.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Seems that yesterday’s post on the failure vibe that stifles a man’s girl-getting game from the inside really hit a nerve.

To respond to several of you who wrote with substantially the same question – what to do when it seems like every woman you see is with a man or a group of men – I’m going to share an email from a longtime fan that captures the essence of it.

The situation he brings up is common – all too common – for guys who want to meet really hot women.

You see, hot women LOVE company. They often love MALE company, because having a guy around:

1. Keeps away the weaker, wimpier guys who assume that the escorting guy is the boyfriend.
2. It makes them feel wanted and needed.
3. Sometimes the guy IS the boyfriend but it doesn’t matter because, if you can approach it right, you often can STILL pull the girl.

Ok, here is the email/question:

“I had a question and I would like to hear your insight on following situation: You see a stunning girl and you would like to go and talk to her but she is surrounded with two or maybe more guys. Not in the bar or something like that..

My first thought is that one of them is her boyfriend and I should stay away. Especially if I see some touching going on. They could be as well close friends, but the question is, what would you say to a girl in this situation? I mean you really don’t know whether the boyfriend is next to her but in case he does what then?”

Ok, As I said above, NEVER make assumptions about whether or not a girl is “taken” or if the guy with her is her “boyfriend” (or “bore-friend” for that matter)..

For all you know, the dude is her “orbiter”. Someone who circles around her massive ego, to keep her feeling good about herself.

In any event, the key here is to approach and TALK TO THE GUY OR GUYS.

Do NOT approach the woman directly.

Simply go up to one of the guys.

Open your mouth and say, “You guys are a really cute couple. How did you meet?”

Trust me, if they are NOT a couple, she’ll quickly let you know.

From there, you are in.

Just remember: don’t ever make assumptions about whether a girl is taken or not.  When you ass-ume, you stand a greater chance of feeling like an ass because you didn’t step up, then you will of looking like an ass if you did.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

One of the patterns I teach is the “Boyfriend Destroyer” which you’d use when you approach a woman and she tells you she has a boyfriend.

This pattern has some naysayers.  Here are a couple of them:

“Doesn’t that make you a small man, having to go after someone else’s woman?”

“Why would you want to spend time on a woman who’s going to lie to you within 3 minutes of meeting you?  Why would you want to be with a woman who cheats?”

“Why would you waste your time on a woman who is taken or says she is?  What about these tens of thousands of women you say I can get?”

Well, today I call bullshit on the naysaying with a few facts about “boyfriend destroying.”

It’s just a sad fact that many women who SAY they have a boyfriend either are lying outright, responding out of auto-pilot, or they are stuck in real-hate-shun-ships by default.

The reality is, most very attractive women ARE probably going to be with someone.  Most women regardless of their place on the HB scale are “seeing someone” – but does that mean it’s “exclusive?”

If you wait until you find girls who are totally officially “single” you may be waiting a long time.

Think about this:

You can use fire to heat your camp at night. Or you can use it to burn down a building.

You can use a knife to stab an innocent person in the heart. Or you can use it to cut someone’s bonds and set them free.

I believe that not caving in to a woman’s first “knee-jerk” response is a good thing.

I’m creating a space for her to have a new choice, to respond with more freedom and act differently.  By doing this, I serve HER.

Listen: if she really, REALLY loves the guy, she will let you know and you aren’t going to get anywhere anyway.  So you “Exit, Stage Left” but she’ll probably think you’re a nice guy.  Maybe nice enough she’ll introduce you to her actually-single friends.  But what you WILL get EVERY time is the practice that sharpens the skills that will get you your next ten successes with women.

Is THAT such a bad thing?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A question I get asked frequently is, what to do when you have the hots for a woman who already has a bore-friend, BUT she seems to be into you too, and she says she’s “this close” to having a fling with you or even dumping him for you?

Just yesterday, one of my students told me he wants to reignite the spark with a “taken” chick he had flirted with before, get the Sarging energy back on full blast, and get her in his bed, even though she (says she’s) gone back full-time to that bore-friend of hers.

OK… those of you who have heard of, or used, my “Boyfriend Destroyer” pattern know that oftentimes, the chick will throw out the old “….but I have a boyfriend” line even when she doesn’t, and it’s your mission as a Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training to channel her vibe and move her past this objection, and into your love-lair.

That still leaves the question….

What To Do When She’s Really Taken, But You’re Still “Taken” With Her?

First, foremost, uppermost, important-most, let me ask the Captain Obvious question:

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

A while ago, I shared the story about a guy who was Sarging on this chick, only to find out she was his neighbor’s girlfriend, but he wanted her anyway. The guidance I gave to that student applies here too.

Furthermore, what is it about her that makes her so special? Could it be that she’s actually NOT so Goddamn perfect in every way, shape, or form, but because there’s no other hot items in your “little black book”, you THINK she is?

Next, take stock of what YOU want. Are you playing the field, looking to bang everything with a pulse that looks good in a miniskirt and get laid left and right?

Or, is your goal to find that one special, beautiful, enjoyable, compatible hottie and make a lifetime (or at least a long time) of shared enjoyment and passion with her?

If the latter, this “taken” chick who (claims she) almost cheated on and/or left her “borefriend” for you….what’s to say, if she becomes your “g/f,” that someone else (most likely another of my students!) won’t be hearing the same song-and-dance about YOU?

Think carefully about what you’re doing here.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding the real psychology of what gets women hot and bothered and ready to go will give you an advantage over almost every other guy out there…

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