Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There is a debate over whether it’s worth it to confront a woman when she gets all up in your face when you were trying to be nice.

Should you take it when a woman freaks out on you?  Conventional wisdom tells us it’s a bad idea.  Let her get away with it once – “be nice” – and never again (or not ever) receive “nice-nice” from her (and potentially other women).

See here’s the thing, though: this really to me is not about “nice” but about how much dominance people require to feel relaxed enough to be kind to you in return.

I prefer to treat people as equals and come from respect and affinity.

Most people handle that well; however some view it as a sign of weakness and a signal to go on the attack.

Case In Point: An Extreme Example (From A Long, Long Time Ago)

I remember years ago I belonged to this one gym, and a woman was blocking the turnstile to let me in. I said, “pardon me, m’am, but I need to get by”.

She just ignored me and kept right on talking, so I repeated it, a bit louder, “Pardon me , m’am, I need to get by”.

She sneered at me so I said louder and firmer, “M’am, I need to get by”.

She exploded at me, “fuck you. You gotta problem! Fuck you, fool!”

But she DID get out of the way.

Some people have anger issues, other people are used to bullying as a way of life. They don’t even know they are doing it.

I turned back on this woman, raised my self to my full height, got right in her face and yelled at the top of my lungs, “Hey…FUCK YOU! YOU have the problem. I was polite, I called you”m’am”. Fuck you and the hole you crawled out of!”

She looked scared, mumbled “sorry” and walked away.

Now, If I Could Get A Do-Over…

Now, in retrospect, I should have let it go. For all I know she could have gone to her car and gotten a gun, and being older and wiser today, I would have just let it go now adays.

My point is this: some few people WILL see courtesy as a sign to attack. It’s true. Deal with it. Choose to see it as their problem.

I think women will often turn on the jerky aspects of their personalities as a sign that they are seeking dominance, or as a fearful way to put the brakes on their own feelings. In this case, being “nice” is not the right response. The response is either to call them on it immediately and say, “Hey…wait a minute…what’s with the cold shoulder shit?” or to mirror it back and shut them out.

If a guy responds to this crap by getting weak and showing MORE interest in her, he’s probably gone to be gone. If she freaks out on you, you do have the option of “Exit, Stage Left” and in many cases that’s the best policy.  But if you are finding your own reasons to get to the bottom of it, either call her on it, or mirror it back, even stronger. Withdraw from her completely until she comes back your way. I strongly recommend pointing it out and calling her on it.

When the woman pulls this cold/rude stuff, don’t waste your time trying to figure out why. Call her on it and ask her what’s up with it.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction Students,
Wow. Just wow. You are really giving me some great stories about your own crazy chick encounters.

Please know that I read each comment and respond to each one. And I’ll pick a winner for “Craziest Chick Story” soon.

Now, as promised, here is MY crazy chick story.

About 10 years ago I met this chick at a party.  She was a bit wary of me, but after I literally walked away from her, she wound up running after me, outside the party, and handing me her number. (Was this the first hint?)

Cut to about 4 days later. She’s over at my place. I give her the art tour of my place, pointing out the various comic art, etc.

We go to my bedroom and I show her a painting done by one of my friends at the time; it’s Eve right after she took a bite of the apple.  She seems unusually fixated on it, but I thought nothing of it(Warning sign number two?)

She notices a book on my book shelf about remote viewing, and asks if she can borrow it.  “Ok,” I think. “No big deal”. So I lend it to her.

We wind up doing the nasty thing, she leaves my place, and that’s that. Or so I think.

About a week later I get a Hannukah card from her. It basically says how happy she was to meet me, what a great night she had, and Happy Hannukah to me and my cat.

It Gets Super-Werid HERE!

So I’m sitting at California Pizza Kitchen when I get a call from Nutso.  She says, “I just wanted to tell you that I only sent you that card to wish you Happy Hannukah and NO OTHER REASON(shouting this last bit with quite some anger).

Ah…say what?

“Ok….” I manage to stammer.

Then she drops the bomb

“I want to ask you a question. I want to know and I want the truth. Are….you…a….remote…viewer?”

(Pause here for a second: “remote viewing” allegedly involves the psychic act of mentally tapping into a “target” and describing information about the target, usually by sketching what the viewer sees . Google it!)

“Uh…no” I reply “Why?”

“Because I have your book that you lent me and I think you ARE a remote viewer. And I think you are part of the harrassment progrgam and you KNOW IT!”(Screaming that last part so loud the person sitting next to me heard it through my phone’s earpiece and turned to look at me!)

But she wasn’t done.

“That painting on the wall in your room?  Every night since my trip to Mexico where those two men who wait outside my house and follow me to work first met me, I have that electronic buzzing in my head that wakes me up. And the night before I met you at that party, the buzzing woke me up and I saw a holographic image of that painting, projected in the air in front of me. SO I KNOW IT IS YOU!”

Heard enough?

This dinged-damsel procedes to tell me that she is going to sue me, sue my “masters at the CIA”, etc etc.

My response? “Lady, you are fucking crazy.  CRAZY. Get help. Professional help. And never call me again.”

Can you believe it?

What do you think? Can you top this?

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. 6 months later I get my book back the mail, with a lovely “thank you note” telling me how much she enjoyed meeting me and inviting me to coffee! YOWWWWWSA! NUTTEEEEEE!!!!

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students

It would be no exaggeration to say that many women in today’s modern world are, to put it mildly “a little bit dinged”.

From the “Fatal Attraction” violent loonies, to the loopy New-Age “dolphin channelers”, whacked out femmes are in abundant supply.

Zack’s Nightmare Beyatch From Hades

Case in point: last week, I hung out with a friend I haven’t seen in years, my old buddy Zack. And he was telling me about his last girlfriend whom he dated for a year.

“Man, RJ, “he said. “She was fucking NUTS!”

Here is what he told me: after he told her he was breaking up with him, she walked into his apartment while he was about to fall asleep, after he had taken an Ambien(which he uses for insomnia).

She opens up his mouth and feeds him the remaining 5 pills in the bottle!

I shit you not.

The chick tried to OD him while he was already zonked out!

It gets better:  she gets on his Myspace page and proceeds to deface it with false confessions of liking kiddie porn, tax evasion, etc etc etc.

And so, dear reader, while you may not have had some savagely insane skank try to feed you dangerous meds while you already are in a stupor, I’m sure you’ve met your own nutty nut bars of some kind.

So I open it for discussion below: how do YOU define “Crazy Chick”? What are the various categories and types of Loop-de-Loop chicas that populate our modern world?

Best answer wins a “No Prize” from me.

Peace, piece and let’s hear what you have to say NOW!

RJ

P.S. I will share my wackiest chick story tomorrow.