Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A couple weeks ago, I issued a challenge to all of my students.  To repeat:

From now on… for the next 60 days… you will not get or accept a phone number, nor make a plan to later see/spend time with a woman until, unless and AFTER you and she have made out for at least 10 minutes.

How many of you are doing this?

Here’s a perfect example to illustrate why you must stop “getting her digits” and “asking her out” on “a date”.

A student reported this experience with a woman, and I’ll let him tell you in his own words (the names are changed to protect the innocent):

> So, I wanted this bisexual black HB 9 to hang out with us tonight. She verified her number when I ran into her last night, and said that she wanted to pick up women with us.
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> I call her and leave her this message: “Hi Debbie, this is Dick Dickerson. I’m not sure if you’re the type of woman to be fun and adventurous enough to hang out with us and meet some beautiful babies tonight, but if you are, call me at XXX-XXXX. We’re going to be at X area all night. Bye.”

His full Sarge report contains more detail that can all be summarized in one sentence: They texted back and forth a few times that evening but she never showed up. 

So, listen:

Someone like this moves toward whatever is most stimulating in her environment in THAT moment, whatever it might be. She’s not reliable and can’t make plans and seldom thinks beyond the next few hours.

You either f@@k this kind right away, or not at all, or serve as their attention supply when they are bored, lonely or feeling alone.

SHIT CAN IT and move on.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Just the other day I received an e-mail from a great student of mine, someone who TAKES ACTION, who read my recent post on The Great Disappearing Act.

Remember: one of the goals of Speed Seduction® is to give you not only the patterns and techniques, but also the success tools to apply the teachings to YOUR situation.

It seems this student had his own “disappearing act” on his hands.  It started off as a great success, as many of these do.  It was the first girl he’d had sex with in nearly two years – a former cheerleader at his college in fact.

Now let’s hear from him (I’ll leave his name out of it and edited it down a bit) because my response to him is something EVERYONE needs to hear…

We were hanging out for about a month and had great sex. Both sides were satisfied in that regard, as I gave her at least two orgasms every time we had sex. It seemed the intensity/chemistry was only growing the last time we hung out and then she started acting really distant. Finally, I told her straight up that I felt she’d been noticeably distant and I’m not going to keep expending energy if I’m not getting the same from her. Her response was just that it was a busy stretch at work and she didn’t think she could give me what I was looking for, especially since we live about an hour away from each other.

RJ: OK, let me briefly stop here.  The “work” thing is bullshit. A woman digs a guy, she will crawl an hour to see him!  To continue:

I asked a female friend about this and she said that sometimes when women aren’t confident – instead of expressing their emotions verbally they’ll put out physically because they know a guy won’t reject that. She suggested hanging out with her a couple of times, not trying to have sex with her but still being flirty and she will likely soon start coming on to me again.

RJ: Critical teaching point here: NEVER ASK A WOMAN ADVICE ABOUT GETTING LAID! E-V-E-R.

Well, I didn’t get that far. I suggested we get together sometime soon and got another vague answer – ‘possibly.’

I’m perplexed, yet somewhat intrigued too. I’m getting further each time but every other time I’ve been able to figure out where I went wrong. Should I just let it go? Or is there a way to get that smoking body back in my bed? Even though I’ve moved on to others I guess I’m just worried this will happen again…

Anyways, thanks for all you do. It’s really helped raise my confidence with the ladies. I was for sure the nice guy everyone came to with their problems but the psychology of speed seduction has given me the posture I’d been lacking. I’m still a work in progress but keyword there is ‘progress.’

Good attitude to have. I’d say this woman, for whatever reason, moved on. My guesses (and they are just that: guesses):

1. She wants more than sex and you don’t appear to be long term relationship or marriage material to her.

2. There is someone else who has re-emerged from the backround and you were her “filling station” to keep her excited and validated until he came back.

3. She’s got some other deeper issues she is running from. Trouble with the law, family crisis, alien implants, CIA kidnapping-who the fuck knows.

One thing is clear; she isn’t communicating with you. So she either can’t – in which case you are fucked.  Or she doesn’t want to/won’t, in which case she certainly doesn’t even have the decency to clear up the confusion and set you free.

To hell with her, either way.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Has a woman ever pulled “The Great Disappearing Act” on you?

It goes something like this.  A woman you meet appears highly interested.  You spend time together, then there are e-mails, phone calls, texts, and then perhaps you meet again.

But then, all of a sudden, it’s like she no longer exists.

When you call, her phone rings but it always goes to voicemail.  She never calls back (yes, pal, YOUR voicemail is working, you can stop calling your phone company to ask, she hasn’t left you one lately).  The e-mails you send her aren’t bouncing back, but you’re not getting replies either.  (She’s not in your spam or junk mail either.)  Those places where you used to see her?  Not there either.  Without a trace.

So what happened?

Sometimes it might leave you wondering if you said or did something (came on too strong, didn’t come on strong enough, said/did something that overwhelmed her) that scared her off.

There could be MANY reasons for her (sudden lack of) behavior, other than her having caught a borefriend…or a bad cold (same difference).  Consider the following…

Hint: how much of your attractiveness is based on your belief that you have to demonstrate these super-powers of deep understanding?

Hint: there are FOUR attractive vibes. What proportions are you mixing?

Hint: if you had incredible sexual confidence, how would what you are doing change? Not just in terms of behavior, but also, in addition to that, with your vibe?

Hint: are you being at all physically forward? At what point do you seek to test for physical openness and readiness?

Hint: do you think that you need the woman to make the first move? (Meaning, she got tired of you waiting on her and just “Exit, Stage Left”-ed YOU.)  Do you think you require an engraved invitation from these girls before YOU make a move?

Hint: How is touching and being physical intergrated into your Sarging from the very beginning – as opposed to being something you only do when you are ready to “close”?

Ok, think about these items as they might “hint” you in the right direction.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, you are in the course of Sarging and seducing a woman.  Everything seems to be going great – as far as you can tell, you’ve captured and led her interest, now you’re getting ready to buckle up for a rip-roarin, snatch-soarin’ ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Then, like out of nowhere, she starts flaking, going cold, losing interest.

“What happened?!?!?!” you ask yourself as you vision the cold winter sea water of a seduction-sliding-south engulfing you as things sink faster than the Titanic.

It’s Time To Take Stock, Not Slip Into Shock

Here is a “quicksand-stopping checklist” you can work through when, despite your best efforts, the seduction sizzle starts dissipating into soon-to-be-masturbatory fizzle. Learn it, and you’ll find a “jumping back in point” when you need one.

First, you can diagnose according to certain categories…

Add, Increase, Eliminate, Subtract

1. What needs to be added? Is there something you are missing entirely that needs to be put in?
2. What needs to be increased-maybe there is something you need to do more of-more repetitions, more intensity, more volume, etc.?
3. What needs to be eliminated-something needs to be removed entirely?
4. What needs to be diminished (subtracted)-ok to keep doing it, but less of it-less intense, less volume, less frequent?

Next, we need to look at levels.

1. Improve conceptual understanding. Is there a key concept or concepts you are not using or understanding?
2. Energy/vibe-do you need to correct something on the vibe/energy level?
3. Beliefs-is there something needing correction/improvement in your beliefs? Your cognitions about what moves women and what is required to bed them?
4. Tools/behavior-do you need to polish some individual tool or tools? Actions you ought to be taking but aren’t?
5. Analogs-do you need to correct body language, tonaity, volume, tempo?

Look: every girl-getting situation is different, but once you master the skills, you’ll be doing a lot more of it (girl-getting, that is).  The above is by no means an exhaustive list, but it gives some good “quick start” places to look when you’re trying to save a Sarge on the fly.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Should you ever accept a woman’s “excuses” for cancelling a date or meeting? Do you know how to successfully handle those cases where you really should give a woman another chance? Or do you keep getting sucked into another round of time and attention wasting female flim-flammery?

Bask In My Wisdom, Seduction-Master-In Training!

My rules for this are very simple:

1. No matter how good an “excuse” may sound to you, remember most women are excellent liars, and text makes it exceedingly easy for even a poor liar to do it quite well. After all, you can’t hear voice tone or inflection, which are two big keys to when a chick is fibbing.(Hint: another key is, she is moving her lips!)
2. The bottom line is that a woman who is truly interested in spending time with you but for some legitimate reason just can’t do so, will make her interest very clear, almost certainly by asking if she can see you another time and day.
3. What women do is far more important than what they say. What they say can easily play into your neediness, horniness, need for validation, etc. etc. What they do is clear and easy to see.

There’s No Excuse, For Date-Break Abuse!

So under what circumstances should you give a date-breakin’ chick another shot at the honor of riding your pink steel? And when should you shine her on as a waste of the space she’s squatting in?

Well, from what I’ve written above, it ought to be pretty clear, Buckwheat. The only scenario where I would even consider her as a prospect is if she makes it very clear in the text that cancels, that she really does want to spend time with you.

Anything else you need to either:

A) Forget it and move on

B) Put her in your mental “refrigerator” for 30 days. After 30 days goes by, text her and say, “Hey…if you see that cool fun girl I thought I met, have her text me. She was kinda interesting”.

Here’s the deeper truth: when you know how to easily meet women, anytime, anywhere, and quickly capture and lead their imagination and emotions, you won’t give two toots in hell if an occasional bimbo doesn’t get the value of having you bend her over your sofa and giving her the old “Sargy One Two Three”.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye, don’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A major challenge facing almost every smart man comes, at one point or another on his Seduction journey, when he is interested in a particular hottie who “runs hot and cold.”

One minute she’s all excited about getting together (giving you a chance to get her all hot and bothered and enjoy some crazy wild sex with her)… but in the blink of an eye, she cancels meetings, leaves messages at weird times when she knows you can’t answer, and then doesn’t answer or reply when you call back.

This student is currently getting his knob twisted in the wrong way by just such a woman:

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Ross, I have a bit of a problem. I have met a married woman who I made some plans with a week ago for this upcoming weekend. We were going to get together at my place on Friday afternoon and again on Sunday for the playoffs game – her treat. She said she would call to verify early in the week, and we’d go to a local club to watch the game. She said “hopefully I won’t get too nervous that someone will see me (at the game).”

Anyway, she called and left a message yesterday morning w/ no mention of our plans and said she’d call back. I called her back and left a message in the afternoon which she hasn’t returned. Obviously, we never got together.

When she was at my place once before, I was running all sorts of patterns with her and she was REALLY into it and then she got a call from her husband and got cold feet. I tried relaxing her, and did so to some extent but didn’t push the issue. Since then, we have not gotten together (she then cancelled plans we made subsequently), but this weekend seemed right b/c he was out of town and it was her idea to get together.

I want to stay out of a mindset within her of “cancelled plans” so she doesn’t continue to support this notion of me. Any suggestions on how to handle or shift this frame would be appreciated.

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Ev-ery time someone comes to me with a story like this, I start by asking one basic, important question:

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

Am I missing something here? When you were together before, she wasn’t completely available to you, especially after she got that phone call. She’s cancelled on you twice now. And you’re thinking she may be in a mindset of cancelling on you whenever?!?!?!?!

So clue me in here. Why, on earth, would you want to continue this? Do you live in downtown Sausageville where there are absolutely no available and willing hot women?

Don’t let this cheating married woman twist your faucet knob by running hot and cold. Drop her NOW. Let her husband, or some AFC, put up with her crap. You have better things (and women) to do, pal.

I permit you one cold shower, IF she’s THAT hot that you need it. But I assure you I’ve f@@ked women who put her to shame in looks, personality, and everything else.

So actually, forget the cold shower. Take a normal shower and put on your best clothes and favourite cologne that drives the women crazy. Get your Seduction a## back out in the field and find a new hottie who will twist your knob the RIGHT way and then share a HOT (in more ways than one) shower with you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday on my blog, I told you about my student who had sex with the super-squirting babe who dried up and flaked on a planned meeting.

24 hours before their next scheduled meeting, she texted him with this: “I have to cancel our plans for tomorrow. I totally forgot about a previous engagement.”

He knew immediately (as did I when he told me) that it was a flake, a line of total malarkey, because she didn’t say she was sorry, didn’t immediately offer to reschedule, and tried to hide behind texting rather than calling him.

A few minutes after I wrote yesterday’s Steaming Hot Seduction Secret, I found myself AGAIN in teacher/mentor mode (the place where I thrive). I wrote out a brand-new Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern and e-mailed it to him. As you know, I do my best work when I am hands-on with my students, helping them succeed in their specific situations with women.

Some of the key points of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern (spoken in my student’s voice) are:

• I’m trying to figure out what’s going on and want to open the opportunity for you to tell me
• I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back (I use this in one of the screening patterns I use when I Sarge)
• I’ve enjoyed being with you and want to hear what’s going on

As a smart guy who is serious about success with the hottest of super-hot, wet women, he called her that evening and she answered the phone. After she tried to play him off and tell him she wasn’t “in the mood to talk” he had her pause and focus on listening, and then he spoke the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern to her, word-for-word.

For a “use a knife to cut the tension in the air” 20 seconds, she was silent. I would venture her previous men have been Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) and she’s never been in the presence of a real Speed Seduction® Master who powerfully claims his desire, his skills, his success, and his future. Now she was confronted by a man who doesn’t mess around when it comes to getting what he wants, and realized the “game” she is used to playing with men wasn’t going to work on him.

Then she said, slowly, “I’ve given this a lot of thought and I just don’t think we have much in common. You’ll make a woman happy very soon, but I’m just not feeling this. I’m sorry, I’m really bad at this.”

Whether or not this was THE truth, it was, as far as he’s concerned, “her truth” at the moment. And it wasn’t his job to “figure her out.” In fact, in my debriefing with him he said the only part he really heard was when she said “You’ll make a woman happy very soon.”

Like this pattern? Pretty cool eh? It clears things up so you can focus your energy and efforts on women who will be worth your time. That sure beats a poke in the eye!

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Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. The goal of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern is to get her to step out from behind her game and claim her truth (if she can). In this case, she couldn’t. This is an indicator of how she would behave toward him if their interactions progressed to “seeing each other” and then “boyfriend/girlfriend.” By using the Anti-Flake this early in the interactions with her – the VERY FIRST TIME she flaked on him, he sidestepped a landmine so he can refocus his Sarging efforts toward finding the RIGHT women for him.

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