Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Let’s say you’re out and about and walk-up to a hottie and really hit it off.  Or, you’re at a party and your host’s best friend is an HB10++++ and she smiles just right while hanging on your every word.

For s$%@s and giggles, maybe you’re online and chat with a woman, seeing her on “cam” verifies she actually IS hot, and she’s just so flirty and cute and 10 minutes from you and agreeing to meet you, in the succulent flesh, firm booty and huge tits and all, for coffee the next day.

All of these scenarios make you feel good.  Hey, nothing suck-seeds like suck-sess, and few things crank up the dial on a sunny day like a beautiful woman’s smile when it’s meant for you.

Problem, though.

You start to feel a new state coming on…then it erupts within you like a volcano.  Next thing, you associate her sexy eyes and twinkling smile and the way she says “babe” in her awww-shucks way…

… and are consumed by RAGING LUST, DESIRE, AND HORNINESS that obliterates any and all other feelings or senses.

Clearly, this is NOT a good state to come from when approaching women.  You end up getting invested in the result of bedding HER (rather than “interested in the woman” and “invested in sharpening your skills”) but, nevertheless, there it is.  BAM.  Your girl-getting game and experience goes out the window and it’s a very, very short ride to AFC-Ville.

How Do You Put Carnal Desire In Its Place So You Get Her Back To YOUR Place?

You realize it.  You need to get yourself into a calm, centered, powerful, playful, exploratory place, or the only good those desires will do you will be to give Jimmy a fighting chance in the hand-to-hand wrestling match you’ll have in about an hour while thinking about her.

Yet at the same time, you want to USE and CHANNEL that energy that arises from this “desire states” to HELP you get the results you want.

Here’s a quick exercise you can do, at that moment, to get these desires working FOR you, instead of just working you.  (NOTE: this requires a certain level of self-awareness and if that’s an area where you need changework, you want to check out Nail Your Inner Game).

1. Ground into your feet. Bend your knees slightly and feel your feet pressing into your shoes and the ground pressing back up through your shoes/feet
2. Tune into the lustful feelings and see if you can find the edge or border where they fade out into almost disappearing. Then hold your attention on the very border/edge of the feelings, just before they disappear. That will help.

Think about it.  Your mind full of raging lust, desire, and horniness…. or HER full of raging lust, desire, and horniness as she presses her succulent body, firm booty and huge tits and all, up against you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame – the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to getting at least three to four times more women.  Learn more about this right here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

A lot of smart guys have various areas of life handled – kick-ass job, success in sports and hobbies, exciting lifestyle, awesome car, nice house – even plenty of hot babes swarming about.  But still, something is lurking.

Like you’re not “good enough” for whatever it is you really want to have.

Feelings of worthlessness, shame, self-doubt can rear their ugly head and kick your will to succeed right in the cajones and have you on your knees crying uncle so fast your head will spin.  And they can be serious as a heart attack.

So, how do you blast through these feelings and light a fire under your girl-getting game?

Have you ever considered how worthless, mostly, feelings of worthlessness are? They serve no one and nothing…but…

…There Is Also A Cosmic Truth Embedded In The Shit.

Like a nice shiny piece of summer corn buried deep inside a stinking piece of poop: MOST of the experiences we have in life are impermanent and don’t last.

That’s not a reflection on you at all. It is the case and part and parcel of how things are structured.

There is also an Aspect of Life that is everlasting and outside time.

Often “shame” or “worthlessness” is a corrupted view of a great truth: most things are impermanent, but at the same time, we all have one foot inside the Immortal.

Really, what we often seek, without naming it or being able to, is transcendence. The connecting in with That which is beyond locality or time and which is already the ground of who we are anyway as we move through the impermanence of life.

There is REAL suffering and REAL bliss in life. Birth is blissful once you are delivered, but the process fucking hurts; getting kicked out of the womb, squeezed with crushing pressure by the Cootchie of Life, being suffocated in the canal, coming out covered in mucus and goo, often choking on all sorts of body goop and fluids until it is cleared out, and then you are greeted with a SMACK on the ass and yet…

…What Relief!

What triumph…you survived and now here you are!

I would say: when you feel shame or lack of worth, ask, “inside of this, how much is a true view of the impermanence of life? And from the part of me that is already taking part in the Everlasting, how can I transmute, purify and redirect as energy for my growth and my vision, all of what used be felt energetically as shame and lack of worth?”

Do not be shamed that you came out of cootchie and will die and leave a sack of flesh shell. That’s not who You are and the journey between is what keeps us entertained on the Everlasting side as we remain outside of linear time, always have and always will.

Is this making sense?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In an area of life that has been deeply challenging, and where you have experienced a self-reinforcing loop of limiting beliefs, ineffective skills, crappy results and limiting beliefs, there is seldom just one shift that needs to be made.

My experience with coaching literally thousands of guys over 20 years to the success with women they truly desire, predictably and reliably, without guess work or games, has taught me that usually there is a range of changes that need to be made and skill sets that need to be practiced and refined.

However, I can think of one “earthquake shift” that will reset your foundation of how you learn and how you show up for your learning and your loving the women you really crave.

When Your Glasses Are Dipped In Shit, Even The Roses Look Brown

Before I reveal what this big “foundational” shift is, I need to introduce the concept of filters.

Fundamentally, the idea is that we don’t see our world objectively and clearly. We look at our world through our emotions, our experiences and memories of the past, and our beliefs about what is possible, what we are capable of, and what we deserve.

As my favorite teacher, my late mom Sylvia used to say, “Kid: when you dip your glasses in shit, even the roses look brown”.

Amen, Mom.

Here Is The Shift Revealed

Here is the shift I am talking about.   When I can get my clients/students to this point, I know their learning is going to skyrocket.

Your world changes for the better and you become massively more capable,  inter-personally (with others) and intra-personally(relating to the different aspects of your “self”) when you can look at your filters instead of looking through them.

Developing a practice where you can see all the old stuff arising before it distorts your perception and drives your behavior in the same crappy directions is crucial.

Why?

Because once you do this, you are no longer fighting yourself.  The old programs and perceptions and responses don’t color the new learning.  So you can come in with a clean slate, and everything becomes much more efficient.

Look At It Like This

Have you ever felt that you were fighting yourself when it comes to personal change? Like part of you wants to go the new way but another part keeps dragging you back to the old?  Do you find that staying intelligently motivated is difficult-that you swing back and forth between wild enthusiasm and depressively dwelling on mistakes?

Get this shift and all of that stops. And then everything becomes much easier. Because once you are no longer blocking or fighting yourself, the only thing left is dealing with women.

And that’s relatively easy, believe it or not.

Peace, piece and I want to know your thoughts.
RJ

P.S. My new live learning/training schedule for 2011 will be up in a couple of weeks. Expect some new offerings including:

• In-field, day game boot-camps
• 2 day one-on-one exclusive training with me
• Week long, intensive, one-on-one residential training with me.
• The return of my Magick/Psychic Influence bootcamps

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In today’s installment I want to talk about the changes in orientation of thinking that are a big part of showing up attractive.

As I said last time, learning to have a good relationship with uncertainty is important, and in a sense, that helps in orienting a person toward having a fun learning frame when approaching women.

But today I want to talk about a few more shifts in thinking that are very empowering and useful.

Orientation Shift # 1: To First And Foremost Notice What Is Working And What You Are Doing Correctly

Here is a key understanding you need to really get: in an area of life where you have had significant challenges and limitation, it takes training to recognize progress.

If you’ve spent years ruminating and dwelling on mistakes, you have trained your mind to first and foremost notice mistakes. And sometimes only notice mistakes.

This can be a serious handicap to making progress and mastering skills.  Because unless you do everything 100% right and the woman you are Sarging responds totally the way you want her to, it is very likely you will view the entire exercise as a failure and slide right back down the learning curve.

So when students come to me for private coaching or a seminar or are part of my on line coaching program, I always require that they first tell me, however large or however small, what they are doing correctly and right.

Don’t under-estimate the power in this shift in thinking and orientation.

Orientation Shift #2: A Bias Toward Action And Experimentation Over “Thinking Things Through”

Too many stuck guys think they can find “answers” by running more content through their internal dialog loop.  Or they will spend 100 units of “analyzing” for every one unit of experiment.

I encourage you guys to take on an empiricist orientation toward learning. Which means that you recognize that information about the reality outside of your own skin can ultimately only come down to experiment in the real world.

Try on this affirmation for size: “When I don’t know what to do, I find out by consistent experiment in the real world. “

Orientation Shift #3: De-Thingifying Your World/Looking At And For Process And Activity

This is perhaps a bit more difficult to understand, but the understanding yields amazingly great benefits. In fact, without this understanding I would say your ability to use Speed Seduction(R) will be restricted. Once you get this understanding, everything flows much easier.

Here’s the idea:  our language encourages us to turn into “things” that which is really ongoing activity and process.

Want examples?

Think of the term “attraction”.  There’s a big idiot in this industry who likes to say, “Attraction isn’t a choice”.

No; “attraction” isn’t a “thing”.  It’s a neurological activity that takes place inside of the person who is doing the activity and therefore having the experience. Outside of that neurological activity and process, “attraction” can’t even be said to exist.  It’s not even about a “quality” in you. It’s about the ongoing activity IN THE OTHER PERSON.

Whether it is attraction, love, confidence or any other “thing” you’d like to have or experience, the reality is that what is actually taking place is an ongoing process; a flow of activity with components, sequence, varying levels of intensity, etc.

This is a crucial understanding in which to participate.  Because once you get it, you begin to be able to see the the processes and activities that drive the people with whom you wish to play, influence and seduce.

And rather than thinking of the experiences/activities./processes that it would benefit you to command as “things” or “qualities” or events that happen TO you, they become what you create.  And that is where real power can be enjoyed.

Let me know your thoughts on this. And please, please, do me a favor and tweet and Facebook this post (use the buttons above).   It will really help me get the word out to those who need to see the intelligence and power of this teaching.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Would you like me to do a live video broadcast seminar on this subject?  Only those who Tweet and Facebook (using the buttons above) will get the invite!  So get out there and tell people!

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ten weeks.

In the grand scheme of things, not a lot of time.  Most people I know have gone at least ten weeks between a job interview and getting the job.  Some of the worst TV shows ever have lasted at least ten weeks before they mercifully pulled the plug. Many musical acts go from club acts to Top 40 legends selling out 20,000+ venues… in 10 weeks.

Ever been told that something would happen “within sixty days”?  Well, ten weeks is just sixty days with an extra week and change thrown in.

If you observe Halloween (a holiday less scary than Desperate Supplicators’ Day on February 14), that’s less than ten weeks away from right now.

So, what could YOU accomplish in ten weeks?  How could life be different for you, in ten weeks?

When students ask me “how long does it take for this stuff to work?” I ask them back: when you apply my girl-getting teaching, think what it could be like in ten weeks, if you start right now.

Not only having the confidence, but actually having it be commonplace and routine, to walk right up to any woman, anytime, anywhere.

Knowing that if she throws you a curveball, you’ll not only catch it, but you’ll pitch it back (straight into her glove).  And you’ll score a home run with her.

Instead of being a guy who waits, you’ll be a man who powerfully claims his choice of the most beautiful, appealing, exciting, compatible women.

Hell, imagine within ten weeks, going from a dry spell to getting laid repeatedly.  One of my students tells me again and again how in less than ten weeks (more like 20 days) he went from hoping that some hot chick might like him someday, to hoping he remembered to pick up the other bedclothes from the laundry because he had a “squirter” in his bed.

It takes effort.  It takes sticktoitiveness.  So does learning to ride a bicycle.  But once you acquire and master the skills, you’ll be two-wheeling for life.

What will YOUR life be like in ten weeks from now? Hell, what will it be like on December 31 (just over 16 weeks away) when you size up how the year has gone for you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Fans of the long-running TV show, M*A*S*H, will remember the exciting girl-getting exploits of camp ladies’ man, Corporal Walter Eugene “Radar” O’Reilly.

Yes. Really. Radar.

The short, nearsighted, naive, teddy-bear-hugging, comic-book-reading, not-all-that-handsome farmboy from Ottumwa, Iowa. Radar.

You think I’m kidding? You think I’ve lost it?  Let’s go through the exhibits, and I’ll briefly recap what happened and share my feedback where I can.

(NOTE: All images are screen captures and are copyright to Twentieth Century Fox.  They are presented here as illustrations for a research project only.  I strongly urge you to support the actors by purchasing the DVDs, all of which are available for sale on leading retailers like Amazon.)

Here we see Radar, who has been studying up on Bach and Tolstoy to impress a highly cultured new nurse.  While he utilized his girl-getting game as an opportunity to expand his overall horizons, he was doing it to impress the girl – not good.  In the end, he got so bored with the seduction he fell asleep during dinner.  (There is no shortage of women, nor are there a shortage of women for YOU.  Don’t “settle.”)

There’s an unexploded bomb in the compound, and Radar encounters a bombshell of a nurse who has other forms of “explosion” on her mind.  He tries to wink at her, and for the effort, she takes him off to the supply tent.  A fine example of frame control, resetting the mood, and redirecting her energies in a Sargy sort of way.  Well played.

Radar was shy around this nurse who loved poetry.  He came over to her tent one night to share a book of poems, and she pounced on him like a tigress in heat.  Turns out she thought his shyness around her was him being a “heartbreaker” and “playing hard-to-get.”  Question: what women do you know might need just a nudge to pounce on YOU?

There are several scenes where this particular nurse comes onto Radar.  Sometimes he knows what to do and they dance or make out…sometimes he blows it.  I would ask, what would he need to get his game “on tap” so he can draw from it at-will?

Not his finest hour.  This Korean woman claimed (falsely) that Radar fathered her baby.  Sick of being teased by the likes of Hawkeye, Trapper, and Frank, Radar, in turn, falsely claims responsibility.  (Good thing Hawkeye had the blood test results in-hand to bail Radar out!)

But, two minutes later, the same giggly, flirty nurse from two shots up encounters Radar by chance.  Very excited to see him, she asks him out and he accepts.  Hawkeye recommends Radar wear the paratrooper scarf that seems to drive women wild.  Radar thinks about it.  (Awareness of your “style” that drives women crazy for you – and into your bed – is a critical factor.)

This nurse is fed up with Radar dropping off the mail and shuttering out the door. Her exact words: “When are you going to make a REAL delivery?” He resists because she outranks him.  (However, he soon gets accidentally promoted.  She then REJECTS him because she prefers the “underdog”)….

….However, once the mistake is corrected and he’s restored to Corporal, Radar drops off that package she was asking about earlier.  (Lesson: it’s who you ARE that is more likely to attract women NOW, than who you WISH you were.)

Radar spent an entire episode being shy, trying to figure out how to get this new nurse to notice him and using half-assed pick-up lines to attempt conversation.  Turns out, the whole time her eyes were wide open to what he offered.  All he had to to was tell her he was interested! Here you see him at the officers’ club with the “prettiest girl in camp.”  SCORE!

Radar’s on his way back to the 4-0-Double-7 when he encounters this sizzling hot farmgirl who grew up not too far from him.  If this is an indicator, I bet when he got discharged, his homecoming was pretty sweet.  (Gee, how many double entendres are in THAT sentence?)

Here’s the thing.  If Radar can do it, so can you.  Over and out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When Radar needed mentoring and guidance on how to work it with the ladies, who did he turn to?  Hawkeye, whose own girl-getting game was par excellence.  We learn from those who have succeeded before us.

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Today, I am sharing the fourth (and final) video in a series where I relate some key girl-getting concepts that I shared with a student during a one-on-one consult.

Here goes: so many of us try to “figure out” how to get women, but ultimately there’s something else more important.

Click below to watch, then leave your comments:

breakthrough4

Peace and piece,
RJ

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