Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’m often asked about the best manner or vibe for a man to put out when he approaches a woman for the first time.

Though the specific questions vary, a few common themes emerge.  Are cocky and funny good attitudes to exude toward women when you’re Sarging? Or, will a friendly and warm approach work better?  Can you mix the two?

Well, first, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: postulating that ONE approach ALWAYS works is just silly.

Being cocky and funny the whole time is like trying to drive your car around in one gear. You have to be able to shift gears as the conditions warrant, or you’ll strip your gears.  When that happens, you won’t be able to move forward.

So with that being said, why just have one approach?

A good approach toward women can start from any one of four basic positions, and move rapidly in between, back and forth, amongst the others.

You can start from ANY of these:

1. The put on: saying something funny, designed to make her laugh
2. Comment, question, observation
3. The blurt-out, where you just say whatever is crossing your mind or whatever you are experiencing seeing her in that moment
4. Genuine intuition

The best approaches combine 2 of these or start with one and move rapidly to the other.

As for being “cocky and funny”; many guys are quite capable of it, but you need to know when to drop it and rapidly display other aspects of yourself, unless you want to come off as a joke machine or an insult comic.

It’s one thing to approach life with a smile. It’s another to approach people with a sneer. Sneering shows some serious insecurities, doesn’t it?

The larger point is this: calibrate to the person(s) in front of you and notice what response(s) you get.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Having the skills and confidence to approach and stimulate any woman’s subconscious sexual triggers using your words is one of the best skills in the world to have because it will give you complete seduction mastery even over the choosiest women.  So you won’t have to just rely on making her laugh.  For more great teaching on this (and many other) topics, click here now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names when it comes to scoring BIG with the ladies.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

Hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin’ loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I’m proud, delighted beyond delight’s sweet delight.

So, imagine my good feelings when I read the following email, from an attendee of a previous 3-day seminar in London, UK (note: the DVDs he mentions are all inside the Speed Seduction@ Power Pack):

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you – especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things  were off to a great start – the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD.

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING  GUYS.

I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD.

Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING – he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching  him, and there was no more fear of approaches – he hit the 100 openers’ mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed  some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I’m sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein – Cork, Ireland

RJ here again.  John, what can I say? A huge “right on” for helping out your fellow Speed Seduction® students.  May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist pink relief!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say?  This is one of many topics we’ll be covering in our Speed Seduction® 3-Day Seminars.

P.P.S. For the “in the box” version that gets you in HER box more often, you’ll want Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Either way, let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

Whether you want to have more success when it comes to how to pick up women, how to approach women, how to seduce women or how to get them into bed, everyone keeps repeating the same old mantra: “Confidence is the key”.

The problem is that “confidence” can and does have different meanings.

There are actually 4 different kinds of confidence and if you try to apply the wrong one to your situation, you will fuck yourself up royally.

Here is a video I shot on a very important kind of confidence. Could it be exactly what you need?

Give it a good viewing and share your comments and thoughts below

Click here to view the embedded video.

Well, what do you think? If you would like to find out how to gain the right kind of confidence that you need for your unique circumstances, situation and history, check out my Nail Your Inner Game Program right here.

Click here to view the embedded video.

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

In this video(which is #3 of 10 in my Youtube  Beyond Dating Tips Playlist) I discuss the nature of approach anxiety-what it really is-and how to destroy it so you can enjoy the ability to approach and pick-up(and seduce) hot women with ease.

I have a radically and fundamentally different view of approach anxiety; I don’t view it as being about fear of rejection or even fear of the approach

Rather I view it as neurological friction; the result of two equally powerful and conflicting desires arising in your neurology at the same time.

What are these?

The desire to move forward and talk to the woman(or women) and the equal and opposite desire to stay right where you are and not say a word until you are certain that what you are going to say and do will work.

Let me give you a metaphor to understand.

Suppose I gave you a radio-controlled toy car.  And you gave it the command to turn left and turn right at the exact same moment.

What would the car do?

I think you know the answer.

It would freeze up and spin its motor until it burned out or the battery ran out.

Is this beginning to make sense?

A huge breakthrough will occur when you now realize that approach anxiety isn’t really that at all. It’s internal conflict manifesting as neurological friction and cognitive confusion.

Now there is one more complicating factor and that is the meaning you give to the feelings of neurological upset.

If you conclude that the anxious, or rather FRICTION feelings means that you face some external threat-that you are about to be rejected, defeated or humiliated in the external world, then you are going to create secondary anxiety about that.

Now, in addition to the internal conflict, you get to add in a nice dose of fight or flight syndrome.

So what is the solution to all of this?

Watch the damned video. And if you’ d like to go directly to Youtube to watch, and so you can help me spread the word by rating and commenting on it, then it’s How To Destroy Approach Anxiety And Approach Women With Ease.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Hey, could you please do me a favor and help me out? If you’ve found value from this article, and/or the video, could you please help me spread the word by Twittering the video’s Youtube URL: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8R4tJjXqJ7k.

P.P.S. Did you know when you follow me on Twitter you can ask me anything and usually get a reply within just a few hours?

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