Dear Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training,

Since today is Independence Day here in the United States, I want to share with you some thoughts about magic and freedom.

There is magic in the mastery of using language to capture and lead imagination and emotions.

There is the magic of knowing what to notice that remains invisible to the eye of most.

And, then, there is the deeper magic.

The magic of being willing to step into the unknown AND freeing the other person of any expectation about how THEY should respond or will respond.

Truly freeing them.

As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.

That doesn’t mean you STAY there or make their first response YOUR permanent “truth” about the situation.

Here is why this is so powerful, and why this brings you freedom:

Even the hottest woman has areas of her life where she feels stuck. Things or ways of being or feeling she’s like to try but doesn’t. And she wants reassurance BEFORE she steps out of the boat – so she stays in the boat and just watches the waves and wonders. EVERY WOMAN HAS A PART OF HER LIFE WHERE THIS IS SO.

So when she sees you, a person WILLING to step into what is unknown for you, willing to be open and vulnerable (but not needy) with life and living that is sexy.

She won’t be able to explain it, she’ll feel it.

By itself, that is sexy.

Now, so many people, when they finally do have a way to step beyond their comfort zone are SO filled with expectations and demands on the situation and on others.

“Hey, I opened up to you. I risked. Now I DEMAND you open up back”

So when you open up and step beyond the known as a choice for yourself WITH NO DEMANDS AT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON, that freedom, that “not doing”, that “vacuum” around you creates a pull forward.

You place no pressure. You have no “push” on them at all.

There is no-thing for them to resist.

These two elements combined create a deeper magic few will ever even see.

And the two elements don’t add up.

They MULTIPLY.

So it’s not 100 points of attractive vibe PLUS 100 points of attractive vibe.

It’s 100 points times 100 points. That’s 10,000 points of attractive vibe.

Now, add to that:

Basic walk up energies that enable you to effortlessly approach any woman, any time, anywhere.

Language skills.

The energetic touch secrets.

I think that puts you up near the 20,000 points of attraction – right out of the gate.

None of this requires arrogant swagger or being a loudmouth.

And NONE OF IT REQUIRES ANY PAST “SUCCESS”.

You can have it now, in a heatbeat, in between the passing of one second to the next, in between the fading of this thought and the arising of the next.

Strip away the nonsense and crap that has swirled and guess what: YOU ALREADY ARE THIS.

You just have to be quiet enough to remember.

And in that, there is freedom that goes beyond words.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Perhaps, in the past you’ve been so confused, and have screwed-up so bad with women, it boggles your own imagination.

To that I say: Welcome to the human condition.

So, then you make the decision to take massive action to improve your girl-getting game and start claiming the results you want with the women you truly desire.

As you continue to make gains in this area, you start discovering many of your false or limiting beliefs that you didn’t even know were there.

Please get this; discovering your false and limiting beliefs is 100% part of this process…..

…….And those discoveries ARE GAINS!!!

As you see what actually works with women in the world, you cannot help having your old beliefs challenged and changed.

As you change and challenge your old beliefs, you cannot help but make progress in the field.

This is one of the core and key distinctions between Speed Seduction® and all of the rip-offs, imitations and down-right bizarre mutations out there: Speed Seduction® requires you deeply re-examine how you think about women, what attracts them, and indeed, what “attraction”, “love” “desire” really are, as PROCESSES with a structure, sequence, flow, movement etc.

You can get some progress just by mindless imitation; but deep change and huge sastisfaction/suck-sess requires you change the filters and beliefs through which you address the world of women.

Why do you think I give guys tools for meditation?

So you can create ***spaciousness**** in your consciousness. Room to see your old beliefs and patterns WITHOUT BUYING BACK INTO THEM. Extract whatever useful and accurate info might be there, then move to something more fun, empowering, accurate and overall better.

And that, my friend, beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Sometimes what gets ignored in our search for success with women is who we are and what we are bringing into the interaction.

Someone once said, “A monkey in a silk suit is still a monkey”.

This understanding is why Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the language tools with women, but how we can clean up our own pain and confusion so what we bring into the interactions as men is already a lot more attractive and fun before we even say a word.

Here is an interaction I just had, by email, with a student who was missing that point.

> Hi Ross,
>
> I first read the game in December of 2009. Up until that point, I had only had one girlfriend and had only slept with one woman (The same person… By the way, I didn’t even particularly like her!).
>
> Having come from a massively dysfunctional family, I had hugely overwhelming issues with social situations, especially involving women. I had desperately  wanted to find a girlfriend from a very early age, but just couldn’t do anything right. I always came across as needy, desperate and too keen.
>
> This year, I have been getting steadily better, but have still suffered some pretty devastating situations. Despite all the things I grew up with, I have  managed to make a fair go in certain areas of my life. I have become a very accomplished musician, I have a decent job, I drive a nice car etc, but all this stuff seems worthless without someone to share it with. Even though I have made some good advances with myself, I am still suffering massively in the area of women. I have certainly improved with them, but my abilities to communicate still simply suck!
>
> To cut a long story short, I bought your home study course. I went over it with a fine tooth comb, but I just can’t seem to make it work. I see other guys using it brilliantly, I see you blazing a trail with it, yet I just can’t seem to make it work! I’ve even got some of the other DVDs, such as Gold Walkups and a couple of other that were included as part of a package deal at the time. I’m not a bad looking guy and without sounding big headed, I’m pretty intelligent with it. I just don’t know where I’m going wrong and I am totally at my wits end! It’s even reached the point where I have considered flying out to the US to come and have a one on one with you, but I know I need to use my money to buy some property next year.
>
> I’m desperate, Ross and I know you’re a man with answers. I know your stuff works, otherwise I wouldn”t have paid for it.
>
> What can I do?
>
> B
>

B,

I think your question contains its own answer.

What we bring into even the very best technology for dealing with others, will effect how we apply that technology and the results we get.

Some people just come into this “game” with more pain, more unconscious patterns that get in the way, more confusion etc than others. All humans have some pain and confusion-that is the human condition. But some of us (as I did too) come with more pain from dysfunctional families and even a genetic load that  predisposes us to be more anxious than others.

The good news:

Remember Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the technology for dealing with women successfully. It’s also about technology for cleaning up who WE are and  what we bring forward into our interactions with women AS we use the language patterns, etc.

There is plenty in SS to deal with this.  I suggest the Nail Your Inner Game program, or even more precisely, my Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection.  This  is the past 2 years recorded content from my coaching program and contains modules for dealing with the emotional and other issues that you are bringing  forward into what you do.

You deserve a shot at having a clean slate.  NYIG and the Training collection will do that for you.

If you feel you want to work with me personally, try the Coaching Program. You get immediate access to all the vault content (but not organized by subject, as the Vault is – in the Coaching Program you have it organized by each month I create it), plus you get to talk with me live 4 times a month. Twice on a group phone bridge, once on my personal cell phone, and once by live group video conferencing.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. One more thought – if you’d like to experience 3 full days of immersion training with me, consider attending one of our live seminars – we have numerous dates throughout the year and numerous locations throughout the world.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

We are standing on the edge of a new year, once again.

Today, Dec 28, I received the following testimonial, a very moving story of how a student moved from the deepest depression and darkness into amazing success with women.

I offer it as my gift to you and my hope it will inspire you to claim the success with women that can be yours.

It is my deep honor to be teacher, coach and guide to guys like this one, and hopefully as well to you.

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Speed Seduction® Changed My Life

Hi RJ,

Many thanks for the phone conversation earlier during the office hours regarding walk up’s and approaching, I found your points very useful and insightful as always!

I also wanted to say thank you so much for all your efforts in this field, your work has literally changed my life!

Before I found SS I was pretty much a lost soul, I didn’t fit in in most places through out my life before now. I suffered from anxiety and paranoia and later depression brought on by an extremely bad and painful break-up with an ex-girlfriend back in 2001.

This was a four and half year relationship that was a living hell for the last six months. After the break up I had lost all my self-confidence, I didn’t want to speak or socialise with anyone (something I already found difficult at the time anyway), became introverted, angry and depressed. This was for several reasons, not just the break-up but also events surrounding the break-up and a tremendous amount of verbal and psychological abuse from her, and all the time she was doing this I was believing what she was saying!!!

Anyway, I drifted deeper into a darker state of depression and confusion over the months that followed the break-up that then turned into years. During which time, every six months or so she would crawl back into my life, start to ‘patch things up’ again and then do the same thing all over…

I made the decision that something had to change and it was going to be me and I wanted drastic, permanent change! After reading several books on nlp and trying countless nlp and hypnosis products, nothing was really bringing the kind of change I needed. Then I finally came to your material by the graces of good fortune (and that is no exaggeration).

I came across your e-book, “How to get women into bed without trying”. The title amused me so I decided to give it a read. I applied the affirmations and after a while found they were making me feel quite a lot better so I visited your website and bought the BHSC, the old one from 2000 as this was the latest one at the time.

I got the BHSC and listened to it over and over. I started to do the unstoppable confidence exercises and quickly started to feel better each day. I thought the stuff in the BHSC was so f*$&%!g cool I became addicted to listening and practicing the material. This was during the time of my university studies.

People started to notice a difference in me. I was feeling better, carrying myself with more confidence and I was starting to become more popular, being invited to parties. One of the most notable differences to me at the time was people actually started to stop to listen whenever I started to speak, I mean it was quite a difference, they would more or less stop what they were doing to listen to me!

In my class at uni there was a very hot HB 9 who I had a huge crush on throughout my uni years (as did almost every other guy at that uni). We would occasionally chat and it was obvious to her that I liked her, though I tried to hide it. She was the kind of girl that liked the attention from guys and wouldn’t hesitate to exploit it when she got the chance.

On the evening of our graduation party I ran a few short patterns on her which started to get me a lot of attention from her. Then a few hours later we were talking again and I decided to run RJ’s friends into lover’s pattern. Within 10 mins or running that pattern she started making excuses that she needed to lie down and that I needed to come with her (hmm what does she mean..!) After a few minutes she was banging me senseless under a tree on the college campus, an event that took place a second time that night and then a third time the next morning, I couldn’t fucking believe it!!!

Anyway, this unexpected turn of events really convinced me that your stuff is real! I mean, I was very aware of a difference in how I felt and knew the affirmations and visualisations were working but this event convinced me that your language patterns are also real too! Well actually I didn’t doubt that completely but rather if I could also do this too.

To cut a long story short, I have since had several successes using SS but still have some challenges hence our conversation earlier tonight.

I wanted to let you know of the changes to my life your influence and your material has made. Since that fortunate moment of buying your BHSC and following and applying the material I have never been the same. From consistent practice of the meditations, visualisations and magik rituals that you teach I am now a very confident and popular person and in some circumstances I can even come across as somewhat charismatic.

I also wanted to point out that I feel it was the affirmations and visualisation exercises that brought me out of the depression. Later when I learnt your transmuter exercise, I feel that is responsible for solving the paranoia, something I though would plague me for the rest of my life, since I had suffered from it since a child.

Since using your material I have also had several healthy and rewarding relationships with some great women. Although my time in these relationships did slow my SS progress as I chose to remain monogamous at these times, I continued to practice the exercises and study the material which, I practiced on my partner at the time making the relationship much more enjoyable and rewarding for both of us. Every woman I have used SS with definitely enjoy the experience and I truly believe it is something that is benefiting them too.

Through studying the material I have also been able to see what I was doing wrong in the past (I actually can’t believe it now how I use to be), have gained deeper insight into the differences between men and women and I have also become aware of the elements and the structure of attraction.

Thank you once again Ross, you have had such a positive impact on my life and I am truly a better person for it.

Kind Regards

Steve Simms
London, England

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

When things don’t quite go your way…when you strike out with every woman you meet today (or all week long), when you feel hurt, it is natural to want to protect yourself.

It triggers off a “one-two-three-four” thought process…

• Why did this happen to me?
• This is ALWAYS going to happen to me.
• This ONLY happens to me.
• This happened because of something I did wrong.

The easiest way to protect yourself : don’t put yourself out there. Don’t approach any more women, ever.  Never Sarge.  When a woman throws herself at you, rather than run the risk she might not be THE ONE, just forget the possibility that it might be the best fucking lay you’ve ever had.  Rosie and her sisters are always there, anyway.  Right?

Wrong Song, Mr. Strong…

Newsflash: every person experiences fear, sorrow and hesitation and backsliding, suffering and restriction.

No need to feel bad about it, as the song says “Everybody hurts, sometime.”

Let’s see if we can oppose these lies with more neutral ideas. Let’s return you to neutrality before we aim to return you to other aspects of power.

Somewhere, somehow, you have some very vague representation of handling this better and want to find a better model for handling this.

All of the above are TRUE statements, no drama, no extra weight in that baggage.

Now, let’s tackle the lies and other less than useful things:

1. Why did this happen to me? Wrong question. Focuses your mind on what went wrong and your “failures”. Better question: what can I do to prevent this kind of thing from happening again without zapping my zest for life and openness to new adventures? If not, how can I now best view this as the worthwhile price to pay for having an open mind and life?
2. This is ALWAYS going to happen to me. Unlikely, if you learn what you need to. People can always change their feelings, that is true, but so can you. If someone can change their loving feelings for you because of your behavior then why can’t you change your negative feelings about yourself because of NEW behavior? Hmmmm… Change does and will happen. It’s how you choose to handle it. No guarantees on this rotating mudball other than naked baby in, stop breathing to leave.
3. This ONLY happens to me. Horseshit. Read “Dear Abby”. Watch Oprah. She had this guy on whose fiance called off the wedding 5 hours before it was supposed to go on. He wound up writing a book called Honeymoon with My Brother. Best thing that ever happened to him.
4. This happened because of something I did wrong. Here is a tricky one as it IS possible that some old patterns of emotional response or old patterns of behavior reared up and kept you from having the kinds of responses that would have kept you more in the drivers seat.

In which case, THIS GIRL WHO JUST DISSED YOU IS A GREAT SPIRITUAL GURU AND TEACHER HERE TO SLAP YOU AWAKE WITH THE PAIN SO YOU CAN SEE THESE PATTERNS AND RESOLVE THEM.

Look, what you did “wrong” isn’t the entire contents in the book of your life. They are just “markers” to show you what needs to be read and re-written.

ANYTHING THAT COMES UP COMES UP TO BE LEARNED FROM, HANDLED, PURIFIED, REFINED, RECYCLED, TRANSMUTED, RELEASED towards the vision of whom you everyday are more and more becoming.

So…find a place of objective, clear, grounded clarity to view what happened and find the patterns where you would like more power and choice.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Actually, I have two suggestions to help you with this, depending where you are.  One is my Nail Your Inner Game system.  The other is my classic course, Beyond Confidence.   Check them out.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I’ve had several students ask me why the following happens:

You’ve connected with a woman and brought her to “that place” where she is ready to “go for it.” It started with her giving you a curious “uhhhh, can I help you?” glance when you first approached her, and in less time than you thought, she’s now naked and on your bed and…yes…it’s on.

Just NOW, for some reason, Private Wood stops standing at attention.  He slouches on the job and can’t get back up.  Even when she goes into “drill instructor mode” (don’t you love when she gets all dominatrix-like?), your Johnson insists on tripping you up.

HOWEVER…you don’t THINK it’s erectile dysfunction: after all, normally things are “functioning” correctly.  You don’t have a problem “enjoying” fantasies or your favorite porno.  You can close the deal with Rosie and her sisters on a moment’s notice, every time.  So overall, you believe the machinery works.

“It” seems to happen ONLY when you’re actually boarding the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with a live woman.

Let me get it out of the way: see your doctor anyway.  Every day of “I really SHOULD see a doctor” is 1,440 minutes of self-imposed flaccidity that might not have to be.  It’s YOUR life, only you can live it.

Now that we have that out of the way (made that appointment yet?), let me ask you three questions.

1. Think back to your feelings when Private Wood went AWOL.  What came up for you? Nervousness?  Fear?  Worry you might not “stand up” in the ranks of her previous lovers?  Something in your head saying “I shouldn’t be doing this?”
2. When it happened, how did you react? Did you give up?  Seek her support in getting things back on track?  Switch to pleasing her for a while until things started “looking up” for you?
3. How did SHE react? Did she throw you out (or get up and leave)?  Or did she say, with a sly grin and a cute gleam in her eye, “Hmmm, seems the ol’ hard drive is booting up a little slow.  Where’s the CD-ROM for this, so we can stick it in and get it spinning?”

It’s called “performance anxiety” because you’re anxious, not because you’re a bad person or something’s necessarily wrong with you.  (Though you still need to check with your doc – got that appointment booked?  The receptionist and/or the nurse, not to mention the doctor herself, might be sizzling hot and looking for a man like you.)

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

The overwhelming majority of you have responded by saying you want me to discuss my discoveries and thoughts regarding showing up attractive.

So here we go with that part of the discussion. I’ll be posting videos as well as written articles and I encourage your feedback.  As in my live events, the more you participate the more you receive from me.

Getting Out Of Your Own Way

Over the years, I’ve noticed that guys who come to this work are significantly getting in their own way by reinfecting and reinforcing  the very patterns of thinking and acting  that have been keeping them stuck. As by I’ve said, it’s very difficult to free yourself from your prison when you are consistently re-creating the prison from moment to moment.

Rumination, Rehearsal And Ruins

Whenever I give a talk or teach a seminar, one of the first questions I ask is: “How many here dwell on their mistakes with women? Raise your hand if you spend a lot of time running your mistakes or disappointments over and over in your head.”

At least 70 percent of the room will raise their hand.  The other remaining 30% are either returning students who are doing very well with women thanks to studying and applying my material or they are too embarrassed to raise their hands.

The fact is that ruminating on mistakes, disappointments and fuck-ups is a very common human activity, and even more common for the men who are seeking massive improvement in their love and sex lives.

The next question I always ask is: how many here think they are doing this because they have “low self-esteem”?  Or a “fear of success”?  Or because Mommy made them stay down in the basement and dress like a girl?

There is, in fact, only one reason “why” you might dwell on your mistakes with women: you are trying to find a solution to the situation so you can do better and enjoy the results you want.

But here is the thing: if you could have figured it out that way, you would have done so by now.  That process just doesn’t work, no matter what kind of content you put through it.  No matter what you put in the refrigerator it is never going to be a toaster. That’s not its purpose, function or design.

Even Worse…

Here is the greater challenge: dwelling on mistakes, over and over, is actually a very effective way to virtually guarantee the mistake gets repeated.

The basic rule is this: there is no basic difference between what you dwell on, over and over again, and what you rehearse. And what you rehearse over and over again, is basically what you are programming your brain to do.

Which means this: the very act of dwelling and ruminating on mistakes almost certainly guarantees you will achieve the opposite of what you intend.  Rather than find a solution to the challenge, you will program back in the error.

There is far, far more to say about this.  But for now I’d like to invite your feedback on this.   Tell me what you think and if you think it is an accurate picture of one of the challenges you have faced or currently do face.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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