Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my recent post, I shared with you a way to leverage your way out of the “cold shower loop” by changing what you focus on. My point was: look at what’s happening in other areas of your life that might be stopping you or tripping you up.

Now, another form of leverage comes from creating something that isn’t in the system at all: an empowering, useful set of beliefs and processes for extracting maximum learning from every situation, so you cease viewing things in terms of “failure”, but really, for real, learn from everything.

Here’s a clue: can you learn to have legitimate desires for women WITH a sense of possibility and WITHOUT any of the pain / failure / limiting / sad feelings from the past, or as little as possible?

Yes, you can.

To summarize, here are three ways you can get more leverage through maximum learning:

1. Standing outside the system or process and seeing how you have been creating it in a process, rather than defining yourself as someone who “has” a “complex”. Seeing how this is NOT about “you” failing or having anything, but rather being trapped until now in a process that would guarantee that ANYONE would feel the same way and get the same results if THEY did this process.

2. Get healthy physically, have social interaction, and restore a sense of play and exploration to life, INDEPENDENT OF YOUR LEGITIMATE DESIRES FOR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN. The lack of success you have had in these areas, until now, may well be throwing ice water on your girl-getting game.

3. Install a new system for learning how to learn and learning from your learnings; this also would include learning to discern and separate out your legitimate desires for women from the entanglement and confusion with your old, painful, failing feelings that also have been driving you.

So, will you stand up, man up, and take a bold step forward, or do you wish to continue to wallow in shit?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The fulcrum lever that gets you the leverage you need to get things handled and “up” your game with women is contained in my Nail Your Inner Game course.  Stop wallowing… and start following this link to learn more.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Becoming a Speed Seduction® Master takes practice, and sometimes even trial and error, as confidently and powerfully approaching women and creating states of wet, irresistible arousal becomes part of who you are and how you go about life.

When everything “clicks” and you make that shift from “Average Frustrated Chump” to Amazing Fascinating Champ and the ladies are passing over the competition for YOU … that’s when it all comes together.

Experience the results this student shared with me yesterday:

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Ross, I had a wonderful time last night. But the night did not start that way. The club was full of babes, but I was in a terrible state. I was busy with self-sabotage telling myself all kinds of negative things.

At some point I noticed that two girls were dancing and showing some interest. While dancing with friends I tried to approach them. It started with eye contacts, closer dancing to them and then conversation. The conversation did not have a flow. It would be a couple of sentences.

Even when the one I wanted most was alone, I couldn’t dance completely close to her. She rejected at least 5 other guys who approached her, but at least she didn’t reject me when talking to her.

All of a sudden it happened. I don’t know what happened but my usual distructing self-talk and disempowering self-image was not there anymore. I could think clear. I just went to her, touched her waist and started to
bump-and-grind against me. She loved it and she said that she liked it. She started to dance with me with a lot of joy and a big smile.

When I think about it. I ask myself, “what the hell happened?” I was on auto-pilot. The inner audio and video were shut down. That is why I was not uncertain and not hesitating. How can I hold on to this state and recall it at will?

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Notice something about your reaction to the negative thoughts you were having. Instead of giving into them, you just noticed them, without judgment or getting upset.

What happened here wasn’t a super-glowing, super-power state (which can be useful, don’t get me wrong), but rather the ABSENCE or the turning down of what USED to get in the way, so your natural abilities could flow through.

Without the obstacles of self-doubt and self-sabotage in the way, you went from grinding your teeth in angst, to doing the bump-and-grind with that hottie who turned down five other guys for you. Tell me, doesn’t that beat a poke in the eye?

Peace and piece,

- RJ

P.S. Isn’t it awesome, to be able to create irresistible POSITIVE challenge, that draws women forward and massively magnifies her attraction to you, from the first word spoken to her last gasp of pleasure?

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS in my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Course, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation – regardless of what happened before!

The women (on the dance floor, and everywhere else) are waiting – so what are you waiting FOR? Get yours now!