Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.

I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.

Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!

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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”

She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.

I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?

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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)

Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?

Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.

For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.

Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.

Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.

It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

About a week ago on my blog, I told you the story of the student who was facing challenges from a hot babe who kept cranking his faucet knob by “running hot and cold,” with the end result that she wasn’t cranking his other knob.

Last night, I received an e-mail from one of you who tells a similar tale, but with an interesting twist. And it got me thinking. So, let me share it with you now along with some more insights to help you create irresistible arousal and avoid the trap of “getting cranked”:

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My situation is that me and this incredible babe I’ve been seeing are probably more in the category of “intimate” in the sense that we are not just flirting and being sexual but there is also lots of holding hands and hugs, etc., and I have always stayed the night instead of it just being “hit and run.” We dont see that much of each other – maybe about once a week – so I can’t say things are really serious. Although, what I would like to know from her is would she like it to be serious!

However, and this is the big BUT…. I like affection, I like intimacy and the problem lies in that I will often if not always find myself initiating kissing with her, and sometimes I go to kiss her and she kind of doesn’t react at all, like she holds her mouth still, which I find weird. She is also texting me alot saying she can’t wait to get her hands on me and other flirty stuff. But when we are together in person she is far more reserved.

In the past, I would chase girls or frighten them away (especially the the ones I like), hence I want to learn from my mistakes and not do it again.

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I have three rules to share, or rather, axioms:

Rule/Axiom #1:

CONFUSED PEOPLE BEHAVE IN CONFUSING WAYS.

It sounds to me like this lady can’t tell what she wants, from what she’s getting, from what she thinks she SHOULD want, etc etc.
You’re spending the night on the “every so often” occasions you see her. She acts all excited with anticipation when there’s a date planned, but then when you kiss her, she doesn’t move her lips?

Rule/Axiom #2:

IN ANY CONFLICT BETWEEN WHAT A WOMAN SAYS AND WHAT A WOMAN DOES, PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE WEIGHT TO WHAT SHE ****DOES****

As a Seduction master, it’s your job to receive and interpret the “vibe” she puts out, and feed it back to her in a way that gets her hot and bothered and inserting you into her fantasies, so when she lives them out, she lives them out with you.

Rule/Axiom #3:

WOMEN ARE CHAOTIC SYSTEMS. AS SUCH, WHAT THEY WANT AND WHAT THEY “RESPOND” TO MAY VARY FROM DAY TO DAY, WEEK TO WEEK, EVEN HOUR BY HOUR, DEPENDING ON ALL SORTS OF ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS, HER OWN INTERNAL HORIZONTAL AND VERTICAL FRACTIONATION PROCESSES, HEALTH/MONTHLY CYCLE, etc.

Again, you need to remain in control of the situation and remember also that a woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” Using Speed Seduction®, you have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing. (And if not, you do “Exit, Stage Left!” and Sarge on the next hottie you see!)

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and start using your power to guide the path of her desires – TOWARD you!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A major challenge facing almost every smart man comes, at one point or another on his Seduction journey, when he is interested in a particular hottie who “runs hot and cold.”

One minute she’s all excited about getting together (giving you a chance to get her all hot and bothered and enjoy some crazy wild sex with her)… but in the blink of an eye, she cancels meetings, leaves messages at weird times when she knows you can’t answer, and then doesn’t answer or reply when you call back.

This student is currently getting his knob twisted in the wrong way by just such a woman:

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Ross, I have a bit of a problem. I have met a married woman who I made some plans with a week ago for this upcoming weekend. We were going to get together at my place on Friday afternoon and again on Sunday for the playoffs game – her treat. She said she would call to verify early in the week, and we’d go to a local club to watch the game. She said “hopefully I won’t get too nervous that someone will see me (at the game).”

Anyway, she called and left a message yesterday morning w/ no mention of our plans and said she’d call back. I called her back and left a message in the afternoon which she hasn’t returned. Obviously, we never got together.

When she was at my place once before, I was running all sorts of patterns with her and she was REALLY into it and then she got a call from her husband and got cold feet. I tried relaxing her, and did so to some extent but didn’t push the issue. Since then, we have not gotten together (she then cancelled plans we made subsequently), but this weekend seemed right b/c he was out of town and it was her idea to get together.

I want to stay out of a mindset within her of “cancelled plans” so she doesn’t continue to support this notion of me. Any suggestions on how to handle or shift this frame would be appreciated.

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Ev-ery time someone comes to me with a story like this, I start by asking one basic, important question:

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

Am I missing something here? When you were together before, she wasn’t completely available to you, especially after she got that phone call. She’s cancelled on you twice now. And you’re thinking she may be in a mindset of cancelling on you whenever?!?!?!?!

So clue me in here. Why, on earth, would you want to continue this? Do you live in downtown Sausageville where there are absolutely no available and willing hot women?

Don’t let this cheating married woman twist your faucet knob by running hot and cold. Drop her NOW. Let her husband, or some AFC, put up with her crap. You have better things (and women) to do, pal.

I permit you one cold shower, IF she’s THAT hot that you need it. But I assure you I’ve f@@ked women who put her to shame in looks, personality, and everything else.

So actually, forget the cold shower. Take a normal shower and put on your best clothes and favourite cologne that drives the women crazy. Get your Seduction a## back out in the field and find a new hottie who will twist your knob the RIGHT way and then share a HOT (in more ways than one) shower with you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. What if you had an effective, sure way to develop and nurture a “stealth charisma” that was subtly attractive, completely undetectable, and utterly independent of any external validation from anyone… so that you no longer let yourself be subject to the whims of one flakey woman who’s obviously just using you for a cheap thrill anyway?

Within the 3 DVDs and 3 CDs of my powerful Nail Your Inner Game System, you learn techniques to quiet and clear your mind, for maximum learning and empowered perception so you don’t get your faucet knob twisted anymore.

Claim your copy – and the RIGHT kind of “hot and MORE HOT” – today!