Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Talk about a buzz kill.

How many times does it happen – you’re back at her place, snuggled together on the couch.  You’re making out with her.  Things are heating up, in every sense of the word.

Somewhere in the back of your mind you hear the train whistle (“Full Steam A-head!”), the crack of baseball bat hitting ball (“HOME RUN!!!”), or even a scanning of your personal inventory (“Did I remember the condom?”)

But then you hear a screeching noise.  As in, to a grinding halt, usually signalled by an abrupt end to the grinding.

So what just happened to your sexual agenda, your aggression, your desire? Where did it go?  Now SHE’s the one who turns it on and off, because suddenly she’s not comfortable. You, in turn, become uncomfortable and you shut yourself down.

Then what do you do? You wait for an engraved invitation. She has to write in gold letters “Please f@@k me now” and sign it.

Are you a recovering nice guy? 

If what I’ve just described sounds familiar (as it does to millions of smart men the world over) I’m willing to bet that one of your issues is you’re so emotionally in tune to women, when they start feeling something, you feel it for yourself.

Part of untangling this issue of being sexually aggressive is this ability to stay grounded in your body, see where she’s at, but not have to go there for yourself.

I didn’t say: you never go there or you can’t go there if you choose to.  If you’re making love with your woman and she’s feeling an incredible sexual desire, yeah, you want to go where she is. But it’s that matter of choice.

Dominant has nothing to do with having big muscles or pushing people around or any of that. That’s the imitation of dominance. That’s the counterfeit of dominance. That’s the impersonation of dominance.  That’s being a jerk.  Jerks literally cannot feel what their woman is feeling.

True sexual aggression mastery makes you a leader in every phase of your relationship to women.  It lets you see where they are at without having to go there yourself, so you can stay in the emotional lead.

Now, that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you’ve ever found yourself “choking” at the moment of truth, backing away from being sexually forward, or easily put off by the slightest “resistance” offered by a woman, my new Sexual Aggression Mastery course will untangle all that for you.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So let me tell you about this one weekend where I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. From now on, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

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Dear Speed Seducers,

One of the things that never ceases to amuse me is how women attempt to exert control that they don’t even really want.

Too often, as budding master seducers, we take women’s attempts to control us at face value and winding up blocking our own cocks.

Example: you are making out and she stops you saying, “I want this to happen slowly”.

Immediately, you take this as meaning that she ought to be the one to control the speed at which things happen and that the speed at which things happen is what it is all about.

I am firmly convinced that, in these situations, women do NOT want “control”.  They want us to understand their true emotional need, in that moment, and to take control based on our understanding of that need.

Now, in the example I cited, the actual emotional need could amount to lots of things:

1. Instinctively, she knows that in order to get fully turned on, she needs some “stop/start”. It’s not about going “slowly” but going with “pauses in the action” so she can feel sufficiently turned on to truly want to fuck you.
2. She is feeling very turned on and suddenly remembering past times when she fucked a guy right away and he ran for the hills.
3. She can’t wait for you to rip off her panties and fuck her then and there.  But she doesn’t want to appear slutty. (This is the well know “ASD” or Anti-Slut Defense)
4. She’s got some genuine issues with physical intimacy, including possibly packing some diseases for which medical science has no current cure.

My point being this: women seldom really even know what they truly want, and even more rarely are they able and willing to clearly express it.

So my rules are:

1. Almost never take a woman’s statements at face value.
2. Always ask yourself, “What’s the real emotional need she’s expressing?” And “how can I address this AND keep my intent intact?”
3. Even if you modify your behavior-what you do in that moment – NEVER let a woman shift your intent to something non-sexual, unless you believe in your heart of hearts and balls of balls, that being sexual with her will truly result in harm to either her and/or yourself.

Your comments are most welcome.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Fans And Student

 The other day I got an email from a very frustrated 43 year old guy.

 You see, he had used my Speed Seduction® material to get a very hot 19 year old lady in a rather intimate position, but then encountered the dreaded, “last minute resistance”.

 I’ll spare you the steamy details of his email, but essentially he had this flawless beauty one small article of clothing away from being in her birthday suit and got stopped at the last minute with the famous phrase, “This is happening too fast”.

 Now, in his case, he choked.  He simply couldn’t think of any response, backed off, and by the time he got back to trying again, she was out the door.

If you’ve ever had this happen to you, you know how screamingly frustrating and confusing this kind of thing can be, and also how common.

 How He Blew It And What To Do Differently

The problem with this guy is that he made one of the two fatal choices in dealing with any kind of objection or resistance from women, whether sexual, emotional or any other kind: he gave up, which is as big a mistake as the other bad option: arguing or pushing.

 (Have you ever tried arguing a woman into doing anything, much less going to bed with you? This works about as well as trying to put the milk back in the cow).

Here’s What He Should Have Done, And What You Should Do Too!

 What this guy should have done is quite simple: rather than argue and push or give up, he should have:

1.     Recognized her emotional need that she was trying to express: feeling safe and comfortable and not being pressured into something she might later regret.

 2.    Expressed his understanding and agreement with that need.

 Now notice, I didn’t say he had to actually go along with the need. He just needs to demonstrate that he understands.

Here Are His Magic Words He Could Have Used To Skin Her Right Out Of Her Skivvies

 In his case, the magic words would have been, “Of course I don’t want you to feel pressured. I hate feeling pressured too. Let’s just relax and see what we can both feel comfortable and enjoy.”

 Then he should have backed off and resumed just a few minutes later, because this time when he did, she would have experienced her arousal for him in the context of also feeling safety.

 And arousal + safety= hot women eagerly and willingly getting naked.

That sure beats a poke in the eye…doesn’t it?

 Peace and piece,

RJ

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