Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here’s a blast from the past, straight off of YouTube.  In the fall of 1992 (that’s 19 years ago) I was a panelist on the Faith Daniels Show.

Be prepared to see how bad “social programming” was even back then.  After you watch this video, leave a comment with your thoughts.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. That was a 10-minute moment in time, 19 years ago.  So how about 60+ hours of my best, latest, greatest teaching from this year?  Click here to get your hands on it right now.

Dear Speed Seduction Students And Fans,

One of the most exhausted (I won’t even say tired – I’ll say dead BEAT) cliches out there is “Nice guys finish last.”

A similar one, which really emphasizes the whole idea of beat, is “Nice guys finish in their hand.”

As a result, many guys end up blowing it by swinging the pendulum way too far in the opposite direction.  In their attempts to be dominant with women (one of the 4 main vibes), they’ll actually come off as pushy, arrogant jerks.

Yet, oftentimes they say, some women like jerks.  Usually “they” say this in desper-ation, exasper-ation, and other -ations that usually end in masturb-ation. Notice when you spell it like that, masturb-ation, how disturbing it is?  Disturb vs. masturb.  Too similar.  This phonetic similarly freaks me out.

As in, “She’s always falling for these guys who break her heart and treat her like crap, yet she won’t give me the time of day!  I know how to treat a woman, I’m so much better than those losers!”

(Losers, you say?  They’re banging her and you’re not.)

Why Being Either “Dominant” Or A “Nice Guy”
Beats Down Your Girl-Getting Game

Let’s focus, for the sake of this discussion, on defining “dominant” as “commanding.”

A person can be commanding in their self-awareness and presence without saying a word. It just depends, and it isn’t one or the other.  You can be commanding AND fun/friendly. You can be commanding silently.  You can inquire about another person/show understanding and be commanding in the way you do it. Etc. etc.

I would advise that you not only think of it as only being a SEQUENTIAL thing, one after the other, but still separate. True, sometimes it works that way.  But it can also be about these various forms of “commanding” being mixed, presented simultaneously.

As I said, many guys put WAY too much emphasis on being dominant and go overboard to appear “commanding.”  When this happens, usually it’s done from fear of losing control. Ultimately, that’s another form of supplication and neediness.  In other words, by going out of your way to NOT be an Average Frustrated Chump (AFC), you actually become one of the most unbearable forms of this very creature.

I’m going to have more on this and related topics over the next few days.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When you properly exude the right mixture of being dominant, intriguing, and inviting, even when you are becoming commanding, it will seem like you are having an innocent, normal conversation! That beats just about everything, including a poke in the eye.  Click here for even more command over your girl-getting game.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Another so-called “axiom” that I can’t STAND… yet another example of how smart men nonetheless get socially programmed into Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) is this:

“Nice guys finish last.”

So, if I’m following this, women claim (as reinforced by the romance industry) that women want sweet, sensitive, NICE guys… because they, too, are programmed that they’re “supposed” to… but deep down, they want a “bad boy” or even a “jerk” because supposedly they’re more “exciting.”

People: you can’t have it both ways.

For this one student of mine, being a “bad boy” does not come naturally to him.  He’s charming, and he’s got girl-getting game.  But he thinks something’s “missing” – namely, that “bad boy” persona that he is convinced is the cooter-soaking “cinch” that will have him beating off the babes with a stick…as opposed to…well…you get the picture.

Here’s where this student thinks he’s stuck…

What happens in my own seduction process is that sooner or later, something happens and women decide I fall in the “nice guy” category. I don’t do the “AFC” thing – I do not attach excess meaning to any one woman I’m sarging.  I don’t put up with games or nonsense, and I clearly position myself as “the prize” (limited availability).

Some reason though I end up as the guy they want as the “boyfriend” and not the fling.  So bottom line, women tend to take more time before hopping in the sack with me because they see me as “boyfriend material” rather than a “disposable fling.”  Maybe if I was more of a “bad boy,” the woman would show me her “bad girl” side.

Wow. So women think you’re a prize catch?  What a terrible problem to have!

Seriously though, I think there are ways to approach this without having to reinvent yourself as a character from an early Marlon Brando movie.

Perhaps you simply need to better structure her expectations from the beginning.  As in, not seeing her more than once a week (instead of “always being there”). Not allowing yourself to be available for large chunks of time (so she sees you as a “prize” she needs to work for, rather than the doormat who’s always on her front step). Or, simply, better screening to find women who really are only looking for flings, if that’s what you want.

Or you may just have to stop being such a champ in the sack that she decides you MUST be a “keeper” and tries to hoard you for herself, ONLY!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. It’s true both ways: “bad boys” can’t pull off a “nice guy” act anywhere as convincingly as a genuine Nice Guy.  What if, instead of trying to be something you’re not, you had a “stealth charisma” that was subtly attractive, completely undetectable, and utterly independent of any external validation from anyone?  Click here to learn how to get it, starting now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

One of the biggest discussions in the “PUA” community is about being “Alpha” or “dominant”.

As I’ve said before, when you are seeking answers from “experts” beware of answers that are half true or incomplete.

In this video, I go into what it means to be dominant, as contrasted with abusive or domineering. Also take note of the responses of the female volunteer and notice how I am very subtle in my dominance.

Watch the video then tell me what you think:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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It will give YOU all the confidence of a man who maintains control and exudes a dominance that women find appealing.

Claim yours and take charge of your girl-getting game today!