Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So let me tell you about this one weekend where I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

So there’s a woman you’ve been seeing, things seem to be going great.  And now, you’re stepping things up – or trying to.

When you try to kiss her, she leans away.

When you ask her to come back to your place, she tells you she needs time to get to know you better.  Even though this is now the third or fourth time you’ve met up, and, as far as you can tell, things go great until you try to make a move.

Ah.  Resistance.  What is causing it?

Who knows…

It could be she has serious intimacy issues.

It could be she is fucking someone and feels guilty about being intimate with you.

Or it could be you simply haven’t sufficiently captured and led her imagination to the point where she is feeling the feelings inside that let her know she wants to kiss/grope/fuck a guy (you).

One thing you can be sure of: for whatever combination of factors, she has NOT yet felt the flow of feelings inside; the flood of feelings on the inside that lets her know: I HAVE TO HAVE THIS MAN.

You see, the key to dealing with resistance is to understand the three levels of dealing with any response:

1. The beliefs that enable you to stay calm and utilize what YOU see as “resistance”.
2. The energetic control to keep your intent focused and strong.
3. The actual patter or words you say.

Could be, she needs to feel more comfort and connection with you.

Are you are trying to “date” her; to shove Speed Seduction® into the dating frame?  That triggers both her “check list” for a guy and her own fears about being labeled a slut, etc.

One quick thought: if she pulls back when you go for the kiss, are you touching her in some way before you go in for the kiss?

As I tell guys, the CLOSE starts the minute you first talk to her. Which means, early on, establish some comfort in touch.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I’ve dealt with the ethics of boyfriend destroying.  Today, I am going to share an actual Sarge report from a student who successfully used this technique.  Stay with me for a moment as I lay it out for you.

There’s a scintillatingly hot clerk at his local convenience store.  After seeing her and chatting her up a few times, he realized he needed to step up and claim his results.  So, on his third visit, he made his move.  Setting aside a plan to go back and say “when I was here earlier I forgot to pick up a few things” he decided instead to clearly state his intention when he saw her.

She heard what he had to say, then nicely told him she has a boyfriend.

His reponse?  “So what?  I wasn’t expecting you to LEAVE HIM FOR ME.” (Embedded command).

Then she said, “I really care about him, and he wouldn’t like it, and I just don’t do that kind of thing.”

He replied, “I really respect that. I hope someday you change your mind, and have a great day.”

And Then, HIS Day Got Much, Much Better…

At that moment, the most incredible thing happened.

She just melted. She OPENED UP she had been going through a really rough time lately, etc. He looked her in the eye and said “I’m so sorry. I know what it’s like, and things just get worse and worse no matter how hard you try. And I hope things get better for you soon.” He turned to walk away and she caught his arm and said “Wait”, wrote her phone number down and handed it to him.

The Keys To The Kingdom Are Dangling Before You

Just like the most delicious, perfectly shaped, more-than-a-mouthful boobies that have ever made their way to your face while she straddled you.

I tell you, when you get results like this, you are not far from the Kingdom of Sarge. When you hear my words and do them, you shall live in moist, pink abundance, forever and ever, Sarge without end.

The ability to see where the other person is at WITHOUT HAVING TO GO THERE YOURSELF is a key skill in any form of persuasion/seduction/influencing.

When you can combine equanimity with uncertainty – being ok with not knowing what is going to happen AND giving the other person radical permission to have their FIRST response to you, it creates an unbelievably powerful doorway for something unexpected to occur.

Believe what I say and you shall inherit the Kingdom of Poontang.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It often comes up that a woman who has recently gotten out of a long-term relationship will be reluctant to sleep with you.  Even though she wants to, really bad.

A student of mine received an e-mail from a woman he had been Sarging and things were really heating up.  A little confusing with a “WTF” aspect to it, for sure.  But, check this out and then I’ll tear it up:

“I’ll be really honest with you here. I enjoy talking to you and I think you would be great in bed.  But there are a couple reasons why I’m not going to sleep with you. One – I am still very in love with my ex boyfriend. Two: I really enjoy talking about sex with someone that I’m not sleeping with. It’s just so much more honest. I’m sure that makes sense. See you Thursday, looking forward to it.”

It’s right in front of your face: this chick has ALREADY made up her mind to sleep with you. 

She needs an excuse in her mind so she can feel blameless; “well, I TRIED not to sleep with him and even told him “NO” but I just couldn’t help myself..it just HAPPENED”.

Note what she said, “I think you would be great in bed”.

STOP! How could she “think” that without FANTASIZING about it?

Just say to her,

Hey…I’m glad for your honesty. Whatever we each and BOTH feel, I don’t want to do anything unless it is BOTH something we are BOTH thinking and dreaming about and totally want to do. So let’s just relax, enjoy each other’s company and only in whatever ways are comfortable and we BOTH want to do.

This takes the pressure OFF. Then keep right on Sarging..when you start to undress her and she resists just say…“We BOTH can’t help ourselves!” then fairly aggressively peel her panties off and enjoy the “lift-off” of the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Remember: a woman’s first response to you should rarely be taken as her “final answer.”  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  In 24 hours from now, 1,440 minutes will have passed, each with a reason why it’s possible  she’ll think differently.

Sound like a lot to manage?  Not if you have this on your side and in your corner.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A couple days ago, I posted here on the blog about what happens when you aren’t in your “Sarging zone” yet you’re being pushed to Sarge anyway.

Let’s look at a different set of factors that might put you out of your Sargy mood because they put you under a different kind of pressure (either real or perceived).  What if you are in your Sarging zone, there’s lots of hot women there, so you approach a few and strike out, say, four times in a row.

Ouch.  It can happen.  Even Babe Ruth struck out, else he would have had a 1.0 batting average, not a .342 average.

Your guard goes up faster than a pebble tied to a hot air balloon.  Before you put yourself out there a fifth time and give your all yet again, now you’ll want to know your odds even as you step onto plate.  By now, half the people in the place realize you’re looking to pick up chicks.  You CANNOT fail again.  Yet…

… Now Is NOT The Time To Stop Working … Just Work It A Different Way

What do I mean?

Instead of playing hardball, “just play.” Now let’s switch from baseball to fishing.  You cast your stiff fishing rod in the pond, and some fish will want to play a little, and others will want to play all the way from the pond to the pan.

Don’t worry about her being interested. Just have some fun and she’ll either be interested or not.

As I often teach, you can take a strong intent, and wrap it inside of a playful energy, and an alert mind.

Also, some intents are always present; being in rapport, in control of your state, while other intents are sequenced through time.

Analogy change – first baseball, then fishing….now driving.

For example, when you drive, you have intents that are always there: to stay safe, to get to where you want to go, but then you have intents that change: turn here, continue there for 4 miles, look for the landmark or turn off on the highway. They all serve the overall intents that are always present.

So if three women show lack of interest and/or are otherwise unsargeable, you’ve still got to keep driving.  These were just three detours.  You’ll get there, and it will beat a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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