Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday I shared with you Part 1 of the letter from my student who set the intention of approaching 100 women and the expectation that most of them would shoot him down.

In Part 2, let’s explore some of the techniques that helped him in his quest.

As you read the rest of his letter, pay special attention to his brilliant advice on overcoming the fear of “failure”.

Now here’re a few techniques you may want to use:

Talking with other smart guys about women: I cannot say enough about this. Just learning what others are doing while doing the above is both encouraging as well as enlightening. I just want to thank the thoughtful people who post quality emails … some of us really appreciate it.

Self-reward and -analysis: Always pat yourself in the back after making an approach or every few approaches. It works. It sounds funny but you feel better when you tell yourself ‘good job’ and give yourself a pat in the back.

Every, say 5 approaches analyze what you did… think how you could have done it concretely better… and replay in your mind how you’d have done it. DON’T analyze every time, do it every say 5 times.

Women are random and if you analyze it each time you’ll NOT see the real pattern. No pun intended. But the exercise (AGAIN) is not to get better, although you naturally will, but just to get across the X number of getting shot-down.

Fear of failure and safety: Early on I sat down and asked myself what in the world was holding me back from approaching beautiful (physically, intellectually, spiritually) women and making their lives sheer beauty, wonder, delight… and I realized… it was just a simple fear of failing.

What if I make a fool out of myself? What if I fall on my face? What if I just annoy her? Being someone who’s successful at a lot of things he’s tried in life this was a BIG one.

But then after some thought I realized it was a paradox. THE BIGGEST FAILURE IS TO FEAR FAILURE. If you fear failure, then you’re GUARANTEED to fail every time.

Think about it. Think about this for long enough and it’ll BLOW your mind AND any fear of failure you have out of the water. DRILL on any such feelings with this paradox.

If you fear failure, YOU WILL FAIL EACH AND EVERY TIME. It’s a complete guarantee. So THAT FEAR IS ITSELF the BIGGEST FAILURE.

Secondly, often we want to be ‘safe.’ But usually, safe from what?? Safe from success, safe from learning how to move women in ways that may astonish us. Do you want to be safe from success? Really? Think about your whole life … do you want to be safe repeating that SAME pattern?

If these are issues for you, I’d try meditate on these two ideas, after some breathing exercises, and you may find, like I did, that meditation affecting your whole life timeline, going to the deepest crevices of your being, and you will be decontaminated from those thoughts in a couple hours or days.

Don’t be surprised to see your whole physiology changing. This is not just pattern language… my whole body felt it. Use the titanium drill of the paradoxes to destroy those filthy mental microbes.

Best regards, Stephen/Angelo

Ok. Ross here again. This student really got it when he talked about the paradox of fearing failure actually being the biggest guarantee of failure.

You see, as I have said before, it is the meaning you assign to things that determines how you will feel about them. If you assign the meaning that you MUST “succeed” with every beautiful girl you see, you are going to drive yourself nuts with all sorts of unneeded fear and stress.

When you assign the right meaning to things; that you are just practicing and you are intending to fall on your face, just to practice, suddenly it loses its importance and paradoxically, you do a lot better with a lot less effort.

My own personal beliefs about meeting and seducing women are, “Let’s go have some fun with her and find out what she’s like” and “I will either get what I want or learn what I need to in order to get what I want or even better next time”.

Try THOSE on for size, and see what happens to any fear of approaching women.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® student,

Every once in a while I get such good emails from students, there’s nothing better I can do than to simply let THEM do the talking.

Here’s one of my all-time favorites from my “greatest hits” collection: a student’s “Sarge report” on his plans to approach 100 women. It’s a very long e-mail so I’ll post it in two parts (the second part will be tomorrow).

Dear Ross and seduction brothers,

From talking with the awesome brothers it became obvious from their comments that the only way to get better at walk-ups is to do a lot of them. So one of you suggested this approach, which worked very well: choose a number of walk-ups to do, and go with the EXPECTATION of getting shot down.

That’s somewhat paradoxical but that’s what makes it work. So I set my goal at 100. I’ve already done 50, and this is the half-time report.

It’s been FANTASTIC (aside from getting enthusiastic phone numbers from women who even have boyfriends and very positive responses). Going with the expectation of let me get another one on my list makes things a WHOLE LOT easier. There’s no hurt, no rejection, it’s just another notch. “Here goes number 33.”

INSTEAD of going with the goal of I am going to get this many phone numbers, and feeling good/bad depending on the outcome, go with the goal I’m just going to have fun getting shot down this many times and learning. Then, it’s piece of cake to learn.

SET a concrete number of approaches you want, and do it. You WILL be successful at doing that.

Basically, now, I feel comfortable approaching almost any woman under any condition (the train, a coffee shop, etc.). It really is a LEAP from where I was before.

My state is infinitely more solid… and while I can get better with very attractive women, I lead with much greater ease, I deal with most objections right away, and I’m able to instill comfort/ease/trust almost instantaneously.

I can only imagine what will happen when I get to 100. But I’m not worried about that… I just need to get 50 more under my belt.

Ross here again.  Look: already a great, usable strategy for increasing your success with women – and this is just part 1.

Do you see 100 women per day as you go about your daily life?  How about 100 per week?  Let’s say in the next 14 days you actually approach 100 women instead of just walking by them.  That’s an average of 7 women a day for two weeks.   Let’s say this gets you laid once.  Is that one more time than you would have had otherwise?

Would THAT beat a poke in the eye?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In past articles on this blog, I’ve delved into how to handle things when a woman you approach figures out you’re using Speed Seduction® patterns on her.

Well, wouldn’t you know… women are using my techniques too!

Here’s an example of how some chicks get this stuff naturally, particularly when it comes to overcoming shyness:

Last week, I was at one of my favourite local hangouts, chatting up a group of women I know from seeing them around the neighborhood.

Anyway, one of them was regaling me of tales of her sexual adventures. This story was about being at a club with some of her girlfriends, when she spotted, “The most handsome man I have ever seen.”

She told me she approached him as follows. Not feeling inspired by any “famous first words,” she overcame her uncertainty by taking a bold step forward. She walked up to him and said,

“I just wanted to tell you….I think you are…the most handsome man in this place and…I just wanted to say “hi”.

She did it brilliantly. Even used the pauses NATURALLY. She did the fake shyness bit quite well too, looking down and away at times and then right in his eyes (she recreated the whole thing for me, as if she were reliving it!)

What do we take away from this?

1. We CAN learn from the chicks in our lives!
2. If WOMEN are using this stuff, then why shouldn’t YOU?

Alright… that’s the lesson of the day. The most beautiful woman you have ever seen is out there, waiting for you. What are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’m at my most creative and inspired when I am helping a student solve actual challenges. In fact, three of the patterns and mantras I have shared lately were direct solutions to specific girl-getting situations that two of my students were claiming mastery of. [To work with me directly, in person, in mastering your Seduction game, join me on Sunday, November 22 for my next "Afternoon With Ross Jeffries."]

Speed Seduction® is designed to help smart guys like you succeed with women by giving you not only the power and charisma necessary to meet women and get them hot and bothered, but also to master the Seduction mindset and provide the ability to adapt my teachings to YOUR specific challenges and situations.

This student took an innovative approach. Check THIS out:

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Hey Ross, I finally crushed my approach anxiety, using sigils. I had just been interested in psychology in general and learned a lot about the conscious/unconscious from you and also intense.

I’m thanking you because without your teachings of how the mind works, I would have thought sigils to be B.S. But it made perfect sense that the sigil is just a program that your unconscious tries to decode, and since it can interpret all meanings you can kind of hack your reality … quantum mechanics s#&t ya know?

Anyway, any of your other students who are still having problems with approach anxiety may want to try sigils. I thought I would never be able to approach a girl. I had good attraction skills with girls in my social circle, but I still wasn’t controlling my reality like I wanted to. The world is a whole new place of possibilities to me now. Seemed like I was never meeting any girls….now it’s like there’s THOUSANDS of them walking around EVERYWHERE This is AMAZING! Now I actually have to memorize some patterns. I never did….because I thought, “what’s the point” if I couldn’t even go up and talk to them. And the best news I’m still in my 20s. I have plenty of time ahead of me. Thanks Brother!

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First of all, for those of you who have not heard the term “sigil” – a sigil is defined by Dictionary.com as “A seal; a signet” and “A sign or an image considered magical.” I encourage you to research this topic and you’ll see how these can have impact on mindset – both yours, and those of the women you desire.

Now, with respect to the above:

• The women were there the whole time, waiting for you. Up until now, it was your anxiety that was clouding your vision and making them invisible to you.
• Your reality is what you claim it to be. You are the master of your destiny.

For those of you who are in the process of mastering your girl-getting game, remember, repeat, and realize: My skills. My results. My satisfaction. My world. Mine.

Now, I bet that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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