Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

Today, I’ve been in a pretty playful, “don’t give a fuck” state, so naturally I’ve been sarging.

(I’ve found that the “I don’t give a fuck what happens” attitude is often a key component of my best discoveries, breakthroughs and lays!)

So  I was in the local lunch spot, joking around with Jennifer, the counter-girl/waitress.

Her nerdy girl glasses were falling far down on her nose. So I said, “Can you please push those back up? The Mr. Monk/obsessive compulsive in me is going crazy wanting to push them back up”.

Anyway,  after some joking around, it occurred to ask a screening question about her.

I did this because:

A. Screening girls shows you have standards

B. Screening girls in LA is important.  This is land overflowing with nutcases, burn-outs and “get a refund for all that therapy that didn’t work” chicks.

I especially want to screen for women with great communication skills, and for me, that means, in part, a woman who can be open to feedback and admit when she’s been wrong.

So I said to Jennifer, “I want to ask you a more serious, personal question.  When you’ve done something wrong,  and you get called on it, do you cover it up? Or excuse it? Or do you come clean with what you did, and really listen to the other person?”

She said, “I do my best to hear people and admit it if I fuck up”.

I said, “I consider it an intellectual strength to be open to feedback. Especially if you have a strong mind, you can easily get trapped in your own viewpoint.  So I like people who can tell me their truth and hear mine.”

Then I said something that wound up making us both blush as I realized the sexual innuendo.

I said, “I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back”.

There was a brief pause…we both turned red..and burst out laughing

Now, this was a good exchange.

But Jennifer flunked my test, and do you want to know why?

Because one of my standards for women is that they show curiosity and ask questions about me.

Jennifer, for all of her playfulness and openness to sexual innuendo(and there was more between us, including talking about hypnotic bondage and slavery!) didn’t show any curiousity about me and did nothing to initiate any of the conversation.

So Jennifer, big boobies, sexy glasses( I told her they looked great but I was imagining her do something to me that might make them fall right off her head) and innuendo receptivity aside, gets nothing further from me.

Screening. It’s whats for lunch at Jennifer’s restaurant.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the major differences between Speed Seduction® and the other so-called “systems” out there is how much time I spend teaching you guys about how society’s programming keeps you away from the success with women that you truly want.

Listen: the other day, I was doing my monthly office hours for my Speed Seduction® Coaching program.

The guy who had called in to my cell phone to talk to me was telling me that he had met a girl at a wedding with whom he seemed to “hit it off”.    He told me that he had been texting with her back and forth for “the past week” and then she suddenly stopped returning his texts and he could not get a hold of her.

He wanted to know how to get her to respond to him and text him back, at which point I said, “has it ever occurred to you that your entire model of success with women sucks donkey dick?”

(BTW, “suck donkey dick” is a scientific and clinical term in the self-help industry that means, “stupid, self-defeating, and incorrect”).

Here’s what I mean: his model of success with women was:

1.    You meet her and chat her up.

2.    You get some kind of contact number.

3.    You attempt to make contact with her again.

4.    You get her on the phone, make plans

5.    You hang out with her another time.

6.    You lunge at her and try to get her to make out with you and fuck you.

Now listen: that whole model sucks. It just doesn’t work. Yet that is what presented to us guys by popular media-movies, tv, etc-as what we should be doing.

Here is what I find really interesting: it never even occurred to this guy that he could have used Speed Seduction(R) to so capture and lead this woman’s imagination and emotions that…..

…She Would Have Banged Him At That Wedding In Some Closet Or Back Room, Or Gone Home With Him That Very Same Day, Right Away!!

Look: my larger point beyond this guy and his situation is how our thinking as men  when it comes to attracting women is so programmed, we usually don’t even see it.  We just assume that is the way things work.

The aspect of Speed Seduction® that teaches you to wake up to your useless programming and to choose something better is not a footnote to the Speed Seduction® technology. It’s a major, core part of it.  It’s a major part of my job as a teacher to show you how your own habitual ways of thinking have been getting in your way and to point out a better(and pinker and wetter) way to do things with the ladies.

Peace, piece and remember:

Free Your Mind And Her Ass Will Follow!

RJ

P.S. Seriously guys, the “dating game” is the high fructose corn-syrup of getting laid. It’s in everything in our popular culture and it causes great hidden damage.   If you want the real goods that deliver the pink without bullying, begging, buying or booze, go here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently, a student of mine asked me what to do when dealing with women who knew him before he became a Speed Seduction® Master.  In other words, back when he was an Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) who got in his own way when it came to succeeding with women.

Now that he’s speaking to them in ways that capture and excite their deepest emotions, aren’t they going to feel strange when they compare it to how he used to act with them? How they used to feel around him?

I immediately asked him,

“If you suddenly won the Euro Lottery and went from having no money
to having $500 million, would you worry about how other people adjusted to it?
Would they have a problem adjusting to it?”

I don’t think so.

In the same vein, how you present yourself to the world now is what matters most. Who you create yourself to be and how you communicate through that is infinitely more important than how others used to see you and even how you used to see yourself.

Remember, you alone control the vibe you put out to the world. Do this, and that hot chick from college who shot you down as an Average Frustrated Chump will quickly learn to see you as an Amazing Fascinating Champ.

I’ve been both. And I can tell you Amazing Fascinating Champ feels a whole hell of a lot better.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  Remember, it’s not about who you were then.  It’s about who you design yourself to be right now. All of this is completely under your control. Find out how here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As part of my ongoing Pick Up Tips/How To Meet Women Mastery series of articles, I just had to share this.

Today, as I was walking back from the beach, I spotted a hot girl walking toward me from the opposite direction.  Noticing that she was wearing a big floppy hat, I said, “Nice headgear”.

Now, this is an example of one of the 4 methods I teach to meet women, anytime, anywhere, in my Gold Walk Up DVD: the Blurt Out.

The Blurt Out is especially designed for those situations when you are in motion one way, and the woman you are wanting to meet is going in the opposite direction.  It’s designed to stop women in their tracks.

In this case, it stopped her because it was an unusual way to phrase an otherwise worn out compliment: “nice hat”.  How boring that would have been

And that’s what happened. She stopped.  Then she laughed and said, “Are you making fun of me?”

“No, “ I said.  “It was an honest compliment. Do you always get so insecure around hot looking guys?”

(Notice what I am doing in a playful way: I’m implying that she has the hots for me. I didn’t say it, mind you. But that is the implication. Chicks love implication, think and speak with implication, and gobble it up like honey.)

She laughed again and said, “I have a boyfriend.”

Now, one of the things I teach in my Speed Seduction 3.0 course is this: I seldom take a woman’s first response as written in stone. It’s almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and it’s almost always subject to change.

So immediately I responded with, “I didn’t say I want to date you. But I’m flattered. Thanks.  Besides, boyfriends are like colds.  You can catch one at anytime, but you can always shake him off if you want too. “

She laughed again, this time harder.  “No, I really dig this guy. But thanks anyway”.

Now bear something in mind: about half the time, when women say, “I have a boyfriend”, they are just talking out of their pretty little ass. So when you respond with something different and funny instead of giving up or arguing, it really gets attention in a positive way.

And that’s one of my main principles: get attention in a positive way with an unexpected response that gets her laughing, or thinking, or both.

You can make meeting women just this easy by getting my Gold Walk Up DVD.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. If you are already good at meeting women and want to start getting them into your bed, without guess work, games or spending lots of  cash on them, check out my latest and most complete program: Speed Seduction 3.0.