Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I once told a friend of mine who asked me how I could take being “rejected” by women, “I never get rejected. I just discover if a woman has good taste!”

Now, I admit, that’s a pretty extreme reframe. But notice the fun state of mind it created for me.

My actual attitude in any situation involving women is: “I will either get what I want (or better than I imagined) or I will enjoy the process of learning what I need to get what I want or better than I imagined”.

Now, just imagine holding THAT belief in front of you as you consider approaching a woman you’d like to meet.

What it comes down to is the MEANING you assign to approaching women that determines what you will be able to do.

Here is an example:

I have had SO many students tell me they can’t even talk to a beautiful woman.  I always ask them the following question.

“Ok. Suppose that stunningly beautiful woman you “can’t” talk to was standing there and I guy was coming up behind her with a knife raised in the air, about to bring it down on her and stab her. Could you talk to her then and at least yell, “Hey lady! Look out!”

Every guy I have ever asked that has at least said “yes” and many of them have said they would go on to try to take the knife away from the guy.

I always say,

“Congratulations. That’s talking to a beautiful woman!”

They always look at me kind of funny and say, “well, that’s different. I would be doing something good for her, in that case”.

Wow. As if talking to a woman and giving her the chance to possibly enter your world ISN’T A GOOD THING?

Really the only difference is the meaning YOU assign to it.

Instead of the woman being the judge of your value or attractiveness what if you just viewed talking to her as a way to enjoy seeing what she was like and even to see how much fun you could have playing with her?

Or you could go really nutty with your imagination, get really playful, and imagine she was suffocating and there was air in your sac!

I admit that’s extreme, but it sure beats viewing talking to a girl as a life or death situation.

The bottom line: rejection cannot exist in a properly directed mind. There is only the meaning  YOU assign!

Hey…that sorta rhymes! Now write it down, 100 times!

The key here is to stay playful, have fun and assign the right meaning, the meaning that serves you, rather than the one that stops you in your tracks.

When you stay playful, your life will be “playful”.

Ha ha ha. This is fun.  But the rhyming is done. (OOPS!)

Here is an email from a student who let that playful attitude serve him very well:

I really have to thank you for all of your hard work and dedication to redressing the balance in the power of men and women

I have been a student for over six years now and have had some mind blowing results, but the most important thing to me is the fun you can have doing this when rejection no longer even exists in your PREVIOUSLY negative mind.

I’m hope there is no need to give you specific stories as there really are to many to mention and “doing the thing” with women within just an hour of meeting them was unimaginable, until I had your coaching . . .it then became the norm.

I believe that students need to adapt it to their own culture and environment, but that goes without saying and thankfully you give your students the tools to do this.

I have actually found my ideal partner in life now and because of your material it was totally by choice not because it “was the best I could do”.

I am 39yrs old with no money [ too lazy there ] I would say I was only OK looking too , but my partner is just 21 and a HB 10, she has an amazing mind too  [very important]. . . people are all ways in awe and ask ” how do you do so well with women”.

So thanks again and please keep up the amazing work so that you can help people to make themselves as happy as you helped make me

I hope your students never give up on having FUN with this and how easy it becomes with practice (not for the lazy ass or people shut down to fun).

A million thanks
Dave, England”

Dave, you are welcome. And let me say that the key here IS to keep it fun. If you start taking any of this too seriously, you will cut down the power of the techniques and get in your own way.

If you have ever seen me teach, I am constantly joking around but I take what I do very seriously. I just don’t have to approach it in a serious way.

I also very much appreciate your point about having found a life partner totally by choice and not because it was the best you could do.

When men come from true power and choice, that is when they can be truly loyal to a woman. Not because they gave up, but because they at last had the tools to STEP UP to the quality of woman they have always truly really wanted.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you’re in a pretty playful, “don’t give a fuck” state, that’s a great time to go sarging.

(I’ve found that the “I don’t give a fuck what happens” attitude is often a key component of my best discoveries, breakthroughs and lays!)

So this one time, I was in the local lunch spot, joking around with Jennifer, the counter-girl/waitress.

Her nerdy girl glasses were falling far down on her nose. So I said, “Can you please push those back up? The Mr. Monk/obsessive compulsive in me is going crazy wanting to push them back up”.

Anyway,  after some joking around, it occurred to ask a screening question about her.

I did this because:

A. Screening girls shows you have standards

B. Screening girls in LA is important.  This is land overflowing with nutcases, burn-outs and “get a refund for all that therapy that didn’t work” chicks.

I especially want to screen for women with great communication skills, and for me, that means, in part, a woman who can be open to feedback and admit when she’s been wrong.

So I said to Jennifer, “I want to ask you a more serious, personal question.  When you’ve done something wrong,  and you get called on it, do you cover it up? Or excuse it? Or do you come clean with what you did, and really listen to the other person?”

She said, “I do my best to hear people and admit it if I fuck up”.

I said, “I consider it an intellectual strength to be open to feedback. Especially if you have a strong mind, you can easily get trapped in your own viewpoint.  So I like people who can tell me their truth and hear mine.”

Then I said something that wound up making us both blush as I realized the sexual innuendo.

I said, “I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back”.

There was a brief pause…we both turned red..and burst out laughing

Now, this was a good exchange.

But Jennifer flunked my test, and do you want to know why?

Because one of my standards for women is that they show curiosity and ask questions about me.

Jennifer, for all of her playfulness and openness to sexual innuendo(and there was more between us, including talking about hypnotic bondage and slavery!) didn’t show any curiousity about me and did nothing to initiate any of the conversation.

So Jennifer, big boobies, sexy glasses( I told her they looked great but I was imagining her do something to me that might make them fall right off her head) and innuendo receptivity aside, gets nothing further from me.

Screening. It’s whats for lunch at Jennifer’s restaurant.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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