Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In previous posts here on Ross Jeffries Uncensored, I’ve explained the importance of clearly positioning your values.

Sometimes, seeming “just a tad pissed” when she violates your rules can be an effective screening tool and a way of drawing her closer (esp. when she has to, you know, make it up to you).

Today I want to expound just bit on the following: when you are first getting to know a woman, or are even in the early stages of an ‘involvement’, how do you lay down rules/set boundaries for what is acceptable or unacceptable in her behavior?

It’s simple.

Tell her.

Tell her NON-BLAMINGLY.

What does that mean?

It means:

• NO name calling.
• NO angry tonality (in this post I emphasize “calmly but with a bit of pissed off going” – NOT fuming, seething, spewing, or shouting – BIG difference in case that’s not clear)
• Saying what you WANT.

Let’s say that you and her have gotten to know each other pretty good.  Her gym is around the corner from you and she’s starting a pattern of dropping by after her workout and expecting you to be available on a dime.

Again, you love having her around and you’re enjoying how things are going with her, but you can’t just drop everything, every single time.

You might say, “Listen…this is really important to me. If I don’t tell you, then it is my fault for being with-holding. But it’s like this: it’s important to me that the people around me respect my personal space. And what that means is that if you want to come by, please ask first. I love having you here, and I want you to be here alot, and (not BUT), I also need you to know that the space still belongs to me.”

That’s just one example.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In honor of yesterday being June 9 (6/9), I’m going to get into a type of positioning.

Not the missionary, piledriver, 69, doggystyle, reverse cowgirl.  I mean, positioning in terms of sharing your rules and values with a woman you’re Sarging, seeing, or in a relationship with.

For example, one of my students has three main values he adheres to and expects the women in his life to also adhere to:

1. Don’t ever lie to me
2. When you say you’re going to do something, keep your word and do it
3. You have to be moving up or moving positive if we’re going to spend time together

While you’d think these are just basic Goddamn common courtesy, all too often you actually have to explain this to someone.

Sometimes sharing your rules can mean feeling a bit vulnerable, especially if you show a bit of genuine anger.

But it CAN (read: MIGHT) create the chance for the other person to feel free to be vulnerable.

This all depends. How well do you know the person? How bad is the behavior?

Back when I was single I had a woman flake on me at the last minute after she and I had hung out a couple of times. It REALLY pissed me off.

So after a few days, I got her on the phone and calmly but with a bit of pissed off going as well, I strongly told her my rules about friends not flaking at the last minute; that I expected friends to respect and appreciate the gift of my time, that she had thrown a major monkey wrench into the process of our getting to know each other, and that it was up to her to pull it out.

She called back, I let voice mail take it. She angrily defended herself, admitted she had also done wrong etc.

I called her back, she answered, apologizing, saying I was right. I let her know that she would have to make it up to me.

You know, sometimes I think women do things to piss us off just to see if we will own our position and show some genuine anger. It’s not so much a “shit” test as a “trust” test.

They’ve been lied to a zillion times before by guys sweet talking them, telling them what they want to hear. What guy would THINK that they(women) WANT to hear anger? No guy would think that, so since you are showing anger, you MUST be sincere. You are being honest.

As long as the anger is not expressed with an attack, like “You rude fucking bitch. What a thoughtless idiot you are!”

The anger has to express what YOUR rules are, how she violated it and what YOU expect.

Be careful, however. Some women want you to get angry because THEY are angry and want a good match.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my 20+ years as a Seduction teacher and coach, I’ve waged battle with the “programming” that is put into the minds of smart guys like you about the “proper way” to “date” or “court” a woman.

You’ve heard all this, or something like it, before:

1. Take her for coffee on the first date, and don’t spend more than an hour. If she’s late, wait 15 minutes.
2. Wait two days after the first date before calling her. One day you’re too eager, three days you’re not interested.
3. When you do call her, don’t ask her on the next date. Just let her know you’re interested, but leave her guessing. Wait till the next time you speak to her to ask her out again.
4. Wait till the third date to have sex.
5. Wait until you meet her friends and family before deciding if she’s “the one” for you.

In case you haven’t noticed, there is one word common to each of these so-called “rules of dating” …

… “Wait.”

For what, exactly, are you waiting? Let me dive deeper into “Rule” No. 2 – the one about when you should call her after you meet her.

I was working with a student earlier this week who, using my time-tested girl-getting strategies, had scored with a woman and had an awesome night of no-holds-barred, crazy sex with her. Now he was asking me how long he should wait before calling her.

I listened to his explanation for about 20 seconds, then I respectfully interrupted him with this truth. Ya ready?

If She Likes You, She Wants You To Call Her And She’ll Answer Or Call You Right Back. She’ll Be Thrilled To Hear From You.

Look: if the woman is hot for you and wants mind-blowing sex (and maybe more, if you and her view each other as potential life-partner material), it doesn’t matter one f@@king iota when you call. As long as you don’t wait too long. Really.

If you call the very next day, she’ll get all wet from hearing your voice and it will make her entire day knowing it was as good for you as it was for her.

If you don’t get to her for three days because you’re busy leading your life (and Sarging on women as hot as, if not hotter than, her) then she just spent the three days touching herself thinking about you and commiserating with her girlfriends nonstop about how hot you are and how she can’t WAIT to hear from you. By now she’s so worked up over you she might come as soon as she sees your number on the Caller ID.

Bottom line: you met her, you like her, you had a great time with her. Give her a call today, let her know you enjoyed it, and use my teachings and techniques to close her on the next meeting.

If she’s interested, she’ll leap at the chance to leap on you. If not, then you screen her out, chalk it up as experience that helps get you the next 20 women, and with all questions cleared up, focus your girl-getting energy on the women who DO want you to call.

Time ain’t gonna wait for you, pal. The other guys who are also Sarging on her (if she’s as hot as you think she is, you’re not the only guy on her radar) aren’t going to wait for you to get off your Seduction a## and pick up the damn phone before they make their play.

He who waits, masturbates.

Me, I’d rather take action – and GET action. The women are waiting … what are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,

RJ

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