Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Everyone has a “type” of some sort.

Some guys prefer women who look or act a certain way; for some it helps if they have many interests in common; some find it sufficient just to screen out the loonies and the crazies.

Does it help to make a list of the qualities you want in a woman when building your “radar” for screening?

A student of mine recently set to do just that…and he was asking me, if he were to set aside the physical qualities, and focus mostly on the “core”
qualities, how careful would he need to choose?

Personally, I wouldn’t want a list too long. And also, here is a question: 

What state of mind do you want to be in when you make your list?

If you’ve studied my Magick stuff, a big part of setting goals has to do with making sure you don’t drag your old limiting beliefs and stuck emotions into framing what you are claiming.

(Oooh: I like that: “Framing what you are claiming”).

So, my first challenge:

1) What frame of mind do you want to be in when you are doing this?

2) What practices can you do to make sure you are in an optimum frame of mind?

Next, I have found that it helps me to do two things:

1) Use alliteration when naming the qualities. For example: “Daring, Depth, Dimension” as a 3-cluster of qualities that have to be there.

2) I like using groups of three or four, alliteration or not. As in:

• Feet on the ground
• Head screwed on straight
• Heart wide-open to me
• Pussy dripping wet, in all ways eager to please me

Use this as a basis for building and calibrating your radar and you’ll find your focus shifting toward more of the women you truly want to be with.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Are you now getting, or have you ever gotten, pushback from a female interest that goes something like this:

“Wow, I want to get involved but I think you’re just going to leave me hurt”

or

“You’re something, but I don’t think I could live up to you.”

Is she intimidated by you?  Does she lack self-confidence?  Are we seeing past trauma in her life rearing its ugly head?  Perhaps a little self-doubt in her mind, “I don’t deserve this man”?

Could be any, or all of these.  Or something else.

Let me point out the piece that I think is missing: having HER reach for it, having HER confirm for herself in her OWN thinking and her OWN behavior that:

• She WANTS to reach for more.
• She MUST reach for more or she will lose you.
• If she DOES reach for more, she WILL get a great reward with you (you will NOT reject her if she DOES reach for more, but reward her instead).

There are many Speed Seduction® tools to help accomplish this, but one thing to emphasize above all is the attitude that you do not and WILL not overwhelm her; that at some point, SHE has to qualify herself “in”, and if she does not, you will walk away and not feel anything other than, “Ok, let’s draw someone better”.

[Hint: the tools would be ratification, meta-stating, measuring. Also screening, both actually screening for certain personality traits and giving the appearance of being screened.]

And of course, fractionation.

If you are always, always, ALWAYS moving forward then she literally CAN’T move toward you. Where are you energetically, physically, etc. pulling back a bit and seeing if she moves toward YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Hot off the presses!  Here is a great testimonial video I just received from a longtime student.

Click “Play” now and watch as he explains, in his own words, how he used Speed Seduction® to create an effective “bullshit shield”.  Also note his use of “implied compliments” and other techniques:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

One of the patterns I teach is the “Boyfriend Destroyer” which you’d use when you approach a woman and she tells you she has a boyfriend.

This pattern has some naysayers.  Here are a couple of them:

“Doesn’t that make you a small man, having to go after someone else’s woman?”

“Why would you want to spend time on a woman who’s going to lie to you within 3 minutes of meeting you?  Why would you want to be with a woman who cheats?”

“Why would you waste your time on a woman who is taken or says she is?  What about these tens of thousands of women you say I can get?”

Well, today I call bullshit on the naysaying with a few facts about “boyfriend destroying.”

It’s just a sad fact that many women who SAY they have a boyfriend either are lying outright, responding out of auto-pilot, or they are stuck in real-hate-shun-ships by default.

The reality is, most very attractive women ARE probably going to be with someone.  Most women regardless of their place on the HB scale are “seeing someone” – but does that mean it’s “exclusive?”

If you wait until you find girls who are totally officially “single” you may be waiting a long time.

Think about this:

You can use fire to heat your camp at night. Or you can use it to burn down a building.

You can use a knife to stab an innocent person in the heart. Or you can use it to cut someone’s bonds and set them free.

I believe that not caving in to a woman’s first “knee-jerk” response is a good thing.

I’m creating a space for her to have a new choice, to respond with more freedom and act differently.  By doing this, I serve HER.

Listen: if she really, REALLY loves the guy, she will let you know and you aren’t going to get anywhere anyway.  So you “Exit, Stage Left” but she’ll probably think you’re a nice guy.  Maybe nice enough she’ll introduce you to her actually-single friends.  But what you WILL get EVERY time is the practice that sharpens the skills that will get you your next ten successes with women.

Is THAT such a bad thing?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you’re in a pretty playful, “don’t give a fuck” state, that’s a great time to go sarging.

(I’ve found that the “I don’t give a fuck what happens” attitude is often a key component of my best discoveries, breakthroughs and lays!)

So this one time, I was in the local lunch spot, joking around with Jennifer, the counter-girl/waitress.

Her nerdy girl glasses were falling far down on her nose. So I said, “Can you please push those back up? The Mr. Monk/obsessive compulsive in me is going crazy wanting to push them back up”.

Anyway,  after some joking around, it occurred to ask a screening question about her.

I did this because:

A. Screening girls shows you have standards

B. Screening girls in LA is important.  This is land overflowing with nutcases, burn-outs and “get a refund for all that therapy that didn’t work” chicks.

I especially want to screen for women with great communication skills, and for me, that means, in part, a woman who can be open to feedback and admit when she’s been wrong.

So I said to Jennifer, “I want to ask you a more serious, personal question.  When you’ve done something wrong,  and you get called on it, do you cover it up? Or excuse it? Or do you come clean with what you did, and really listen to the other person?”

She said, “I do my best to hear people and admit it if I fuck up”.

I said, “I consider it an intellectual strength to be open to feedback. Especially if you have a strong mind, you can easily get trapped in your own viewpoint.  So I like people who can tell me their truth and hear mine.”

Then I said something that wound up making us both blush as I realized the sexual innuendo.

I said, “I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back”.

There was a brief pause…we both turned red..and burst out laughing

Now, this was a good exchange.

But Jennifer flunked my test, and do you want to know why?

Because one of my standards for women is that they show curiosity and ask questions about me.

Jennifer, for all of her playfulness and openness to sexual innuendo(and there was more between us, including talking about hypnotic bondage and slavery!) didn’t show any curiousity about me and did nothing to initiate any of the conversation.

So Jennifer, big boobies, sexy glasses( I told her they looked great but I was imagining her do something to me that might make them fall right off her head) and innuendo receptivity aside, gets nothing further from me.

Screening. It’s whats for lunch at Jennifer’s restaurant.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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