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    ensorcel November 10, 2009, 5:08 pm

    Very Good !!

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    Ilovewomen November 10, 2009, 5:16 pm

    I agree that if you want to make progress, you need to approach the situation from a different mindset. You need to realize where you are at currently. I got a piece of paper and listed out all the reasons why I was not walking up to girls. For example, one reason was that I thought that what I was doing was wrong. Then I re-framed it so that I realized girls want to be talked to in this way. Girls want to be swept off their feet with this romantic/connective/fantasy language. Before I talk to a girl, I know that she wants what I have to offer. I might be the only guy that ever approaches her and talks to her this way in her life. A second sticking point was I was afraid of failing. I re-framed this so that just opening my mouth and talking to the girl was a success, that was my goal. It did not matter how she responded as long as I said something to her it was a success. I am now working on slowly adding small things to the interaction. Next I said it was a success if I used a good theme in the conversation. So I did that. Next I said it would be a success if I used a weasel phrase in the conversation. Take it in small steps. I realized that I would never be able to say a whole pattern and have her react perfectly right off the bat. I am still a beginner but at least taking the small steps and re-framing what is success has helped me start trying some stuff out. I owe it all to you Ross : )

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    matwilson November 10, 2009, 5:18 pm

    Wow, Ross! It was fun hearing about one of your high-school crushes and I never heard of the “Manny the Martian” approach. From this point forward, no more analyzing and trying to figure what's the best thing to say. If I don't notice something within the time it takes to approach her.. then Manny the Martian will be my best friend.

    Besides, being it such an out-of-this-world thing to be, because it's so simple and is a guarantee dynamic response that she isn't used to, it will allow me to focus on her response and internal processes from the start rather than buying into the old AD thought patterns and 'logic'.

    Thanks!

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    drew November 10, 2009, 5:20 pm

    If that's the case then Fuck Ya! HAHAHA! He'll ALWAYS give it to you straight…

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    saintsfan20 November 10, 2009, 7:13 pm

    Ross, I gotta admit, this is my first step on the road. I WILL do this Manny Martian intro, and I WILL fuck the likes you've never seen or heard before.

    My problem has not been that I get Approach Anxiety, it's that typical “I don't know what to say.” I'm a shy/quiet kinda guy, have been my whole life.

    This is exactly what I needed, thanks Ross. I WILL report back my experience tomorrow, as I have the day off.

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    rg November 10, 2009, 11:58 pm

    Hey RJ
    great “tough love” app 2 motivational dynamics.. LMAO
    got any advice 4 us Venusians out there??? … have already swallowed way 2 many bowling balls.. LOL
    Don't..stop…Dont..stop
    Keep up the priceless woirk
    Victor Venutian
    aka rg

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    ssboki November 11, 2009, 1:21 am

    This is one of the best I have seen from You Ross. It goes right to the point, where all finally (doesn't) make sense 🙂
    This video made a huge thing already for me! Now, if I don't continue with attitude You described – then really fuck me!

    Thanks, very much!

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    mark November 11, 2009, 4:42 am

    hey Ross,
    I can remember few years ago, as I didn't know anything about pick up and specially SS, I had similar situation in the club. There was a hot babe I wanted get to know. But first, she was with her female friend there, and second, I didn't know what to say. Then I decided to ask her to dance with me, so I thought it would be the best solution but the other problem was still there, my approach anxiety. I stood there looked at her, wanted her more and more and at the same time I get very angry and started to hate myself because of my fear to approach. Then I started inner dialog, I said to me, “WTF!!! Why is this fear so controlling me. I don't want to be controled by my fear. Not my fear controls me. I CONTROL MY FEAR!!! If I don't go over and ask her, I'll never know what could happen.” So I installed the right attitude, but there was still this hesitation. In the next Moment my friends said they want to leave, and there was only few seconds left for my mission 🙂 I made inner countdown for me 10, 9, 8…. I felt this feeling getting stronger and stronger…and by zero I had this inner ExPLOsiON and went over to her and asked her…of course she negated :))) But I left this club and was proud of myself, it was wonderful feeling. And I didn't care at all that she says “No”. My victory over my fear had a bigger meaning for my further life.

    A little bit about your work. I came to pickup scene through the book “the game”. As I read the part there you was seducing this chick in the restaurant I knew that you are the Best. I also read something from mystery and watched his show on mtv. So I can compare a little bit, and there are many things that just catapults your teachings to a completely another level. But the best I like in SS, there is no need to dress like a clown or to dye and style your hair like rooster to bring the chicks to pay attention to you. You can just be yourself. According to your teachings, there was an russian poet who said: “Men love with the eyes, women with their ears” 😉

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    xchuck November 11, 2009, 4:59 am

    Hey, sometimes I'm stucked with this problem too.
    I already did nonsense talking to babes, but with some context. I think my problem is I was not thinking in terms of using it to train pick ups… Some of these nonsense talkings (now adapting to RJ's video content):

    * Entering a store of masculine fashion – oh yes they realy choose hot attendants for us there – but I realy mean to buy somethig I want. So when she comes to help you and say one of these store's introductory lines, pay attention to her name and say: “Oh, hi 'Barbara'… I am here so we can do (pause and look around) a quick one! (pause and smile, pay attention to her expression) Ahhh sorry a quick purchase!” – then you say what you are looking for.

    * After buying fast food and getting lots of napkins for all my friends, so a good looking girl stops next to me and starts waiting her turn to get napkins, you may say: “Hi… You know I have this napkins problem… I bet I have the biggest (pause) male (pause) tongue (pause) around here.” – no matter the size of your tongue. Now you may use Manny Martian and in the final ask “What's your favorite (pause) flavor (pause) napkins?”

    I hope I'm giving good ideas here. I'm a brazilian guy learning english so I'm sorry for any translation mistake.

    Thanks for sharing this Video Ross!

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    ElMondo November 11, 2009, 7:54 am

    I've been told I'm strange enough at times without having to be Manny the Martian. My problem isn't so much the first words to a woman as keeping the conversation going to the point where we get to the transition to the next level. Maybe my own $1000 trick should be to have that much of a conversation rather than just saying hello. “Hi, I'm Manny the Martian… yada yada yada… come with me to my spaceship, and I'll have you seeing stars in no time!”

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    leopard13 November 11, 2009, 11:54 am

    damn this was …. so… intense……. kick in the ass

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    Simbat November 11, 2009, 2:40 pm

    Hi Ross,

    Guess it's the last free video (hope only for now :)) The beginning of this video reminds me of another video in which you showed the constraint of giving money to a homeless, if i recall 🙂

    But isn't the idea of losing the money can somehow compare to the idea of getting her number or any case, setting an expectation, an outcome?

    Anyway… the Manny Martian question is also a great way to screen the girl. I am positive that only a smart and funny girl, with a truly great energy, will give you a positive feedback and will smile or laugh 🙂

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    Bob Damico November 11, 2009, 6:01 pm

    Hi Ross,
    What youve been teaching all along definately will get the attention of a woman of substance! and if in your eyes she is beautiful,bonus but you will surround yourself with quality people.You should have confidence and carry yourself that way and the tools and teaching you supply are an incredible way for someone who doesnt know what that feels like,for me it changes the way you view your reality,if you portray yourself as a failure,thats what your results are going to tend to be.You might not be a good athlete or a good looking guy or a guy with money but if you take what ross teaches and apply what youve learned in the real world instead of in your own mind you will be on your way up another step,one step at a time,you might not be the most intelligent person but you definately can learn with a little focus and a go and do something about it attitude instead of watching other people with that attitude succeed.You can do this well if you just make the effort!Ross I love your enthusiasm and your sincerety and your awake attitude. Thank You!

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    joser November 11, 2009, 10:02 pm

    But Ross, I love PETA! They made very good and yummy posters 😉
    I could send just 10 bucks to the Republican Party (to The States).
    Hey. Wait, does PETA protects elephants?

    That exercise seems like fun. Well, I'm gonna do that.
    But I'll have to make up a name in my language instead of
    Manny the Martian, or use this one: Manuel el Marciano.

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    69 November 11, 2009, 10:26 pm

    “What's your favourite flavor bowling ball”

    LOL. That is so random and funny. I'm going to use that not only for openers but also in general conversation. I want a woman that finds that funny!

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    Gianni November 12, 2009, 8:56 am

    Hi Ross, I am from Italy, think this stuff is useful very much, at least for me. Because my priority is approaching, anxiety and so feel stuck every time see stunning girl.Your method works vey well, my mind in the process to approach get right set up and i become so more self confident!!
    Thank's for this tips 🙂 good!

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    PASSION8MAN November 15, 2009, 7:38 am

    Ross

    I love that new excersise of writing the cheque and giving it to a friend brilliant.

    Also the way you desribed the masochist mindset was really great
    I wasnt aware of that and it makes a lot of sense

    When I was startig out I was doing the first few approaches
    to just get blown out and moving on quickly to the next

    so yeah kinda masochistic in a way 🙂

    great video Ross

    thanks again

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    oswaldo December 10, 2009, 12:00 pm

    ¡Oh my God!

    Well,first of all I want to tell you that I am mexican,I live in Mexico City and I think women in this city are quite different from american women.In this city everyday life is about fear,being afraid of being attacked,kidnapped,etc and I consider that approaching women is much more difficult than it is in the U.S. or any other country…this piece of advice may result quite useful for american boys,here in Mexico it´s needed to deal with both the boy´s fear and the girl´s fear!

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