Dear Seeker of Success,
Recently I had a student tell me he is really good at approaching HB6s and HB7s (women who he deems “not bad”, but not incredibly hot either).
But, when it came to “9s” and “10s” (amazingly hot women), he just could not approach or get them into bed.
Seemed something was in the way – he just couldn’t do well with 9s or 10s.
When I host seminars, I’ll ask for a show of hands: if there’s anyone out there that finds you’re OK with 6s or 7s but with 9s and 10s something happens and you start to blow it, raise your hand.
About half the guys in the room will raise their hands.
(The rest are either lazy or liars.)
Just about every guy gets tongue-tied with a woman he feels is a little out of his league.
Then I ask whether it’s ever occurred to them that
There’s No Such Thing
As A “9” Or A “10”
Aside from beauty being in the eye of the beholder, where my definition of a 10 might be your definition of a 6 (and vice versa), do women have ratings stamped onto their f@@king foreheads?
Is there a Department of Female Fine-Ness that gives women official ratings?
No, there is not.
There are no 6s and 7s, and there are no 9s and 10s.
Real life is not some social dating website where guys rate pictures of chicks, who then get perceived as “being” the average score.
Oh, and actually, that proves the point I’m about to make.
When a woman on a social dating site says “rate me” or puts up a sexy picture to see what reaction she gets, the guys who comment and rate immediately are the ones who THINK they want to ride her hard and put her away wet.
She knows it, and for that matter, the whole world knows it.
Now, hold that thought….
So What’s Really Going On, Here?
Again: there is no rating scale.
There is only the level of sexual excitement and interest you feel on a scale of 1 to 10 and certain women, for whatever reason, trigger that level of excitement in you.
It’s not that she possesses some quality called 10-ness.
Rather, you are having the subjective, internal experience of feeling turned on and excited to the level of “10”.
So, as long as you make it about something outside of you – the woman is a bitch or the woman is a 6 or the woman is a 10, or whatever – you lose contact with what’s going on inside of you.
The minute you make it about a thing going on outside of you, rather than a process or activity that you’re doing, that’s when you lose touch.
But when you can stop and go, “Wait a minute. I can tune into myself. I can feel where that flow of excitement takes place in my body”, then you’re onto something.
Then, you can show up attractive.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. You will experience far more success with women when you stop dealing in data (a form of “software”) and instead delve into consciousness and imagination, otherwise your dealings with women will indeed “go soft” – and you don’t want that.
This is just one of SCORES of life-changing, girl-getting things you will gain in San Diego at our seminar.
On your website it has a photo of a boy holding a girl in his arms.
It looks like she had a pad on under her bathing suit.
Is this true and did you notice this also?
If I was going to chase a woman with a pad on I would not have much use for the photo.
It’s a royalty-free image we purchased from a site. I don’t know her personally, so I can’t speak with authority whether she would be daft enough to wear a pad while swimming, or if the way he’s holding her just makes her ass stick out.