Dear Seeker of Success,
Let’s get into that age-old saying “Nice guys finish in their hand.”
Is it true?
How often has the phrase been spoken:
“I would treat her like royalty, why does she keep going back to that jerk after how he treats her?”
After a while, some guys get jaded and think, “hey, if being a jerk is going to get me the girl, then I’m going to start being a jerk.”
A student of mine asked a provocative question: can he use the skills in such a way where he would be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and then slowly change her comfort zone to
Reach For Good Feelings,
Open Up Her Heart, And
Blow Her Mind?
Briefly, because this is territory fraught with pitfalls:
First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:
DETACH from the outcome. “I like this young lady, but then again, I like a lot of people, and I have to detach from the outcome; turn down my desire to bang her, make a difference, etc. It is basically an experiment, take it or leave it. I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”
Second, and this is key: it is NOT enough to give a person a new/better/more pleasurable experience, because THEY WILL NOT KNOW HOW TO INTEGRATE IT.
So, be careful to ALWAYS, when you demonstrate something to her, to have her
- VERBALLY ratify that she has enjoyed it, and
- Have her VERBALLY ask for more.
Why is this seemingly (SEEMINGLY) inane bit of dialogue SO important?
By ratifying..by SPEAKING out loud how much she is enjoying it, sometimes measuring on a 1-10 scale, by having her RATIFY it and SPEAK that she likes it…
…She Is Making It Real For Herself!
Not just a passing experience, but something REAL.
By having her ratify… what is accomplished?
She is reaching for more of what you have.
Naturally, her conclusion is, it MUST be something of value, since she has to reach for it to get it!
I’ll say it again. SHE CONCLUDES IT MUST BE SOMETHING OF GREAT VALUE SINCE…
…She Has To Reach For It
To Get It!
Have you ever noticed you seem to want the things you can’t immediately have?
That you spend lots of energy working for it, if you really want it?
I rest my case.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Among many, many other things… Speed Seduction® teaches you how to use your language to create states of attraction, lust, fascination and utter desire, with the woman you want – and do it so she thinks it’s her idea!
so that’s pretty much what you are constantly doing to us on the seminars – verbal feedback, did you learn something useful today, comparisons etc.. – keep asking acknowledgement of the process. and you are saying that probably with us the bloody bastards it is still an important block of technique.. but with women it is a much more effective and valuable part (they seem to be such a mess physiologically) for me personally i think it is pretty useless because i have my own self evaluation system… love your blocks of techniques.
Yes, that’s basically the technique.