If I Had A Nickel….

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

If I had a nickel for every woman who, right prior to dropping her drawers, told me something like, “I’m not going to sleep with you tonight” or “Nothing’s going to happen” or “I’m not attracted to you”……

…I’d Be F@@king RICH!

hot-woman-with-moolahCome to think of it, I’m doing pretty well.

Which means one thing, as I’ve been saying for years.

There’s what women say they want.

There’s what women think they want.

And then there’s the only thing that really counts which is…

…What Women Actually Respond To!

Now there are just a few, crucial, important conclusions that a smart guy(I hope that’s you or at least that’s where you are headed) should reach from all this.

1)  Never take advice on getting laid, “dating”, success with women, from a female friend, co-worker, relative, etc.


Because they will tell you what they would ideally LIKE to find attractive in a man, as opposed to what they actually respond to in the real world.

Now look; I am NOT saying that these women are deliberately lying as I don’t think that’s the case at all.

What I am saying is that people, in general. tend to want to believe things about themselves that would put them in the best light, not only to others, but to themselves in their own self-reflection..

Tons of women want to believe they would choose a “nice respectful guy”, when in fact, in their actual lives, these ladies kick guys like this in the teeth and the ego so often, it’s nothing short of brutal in its frequency and intensity. 

(Hey-I’m sorry if this truth upsets you. But it’s reality. And you either recognize reality or try to go against it, in which case it will automatically work against you.  Don’t shoot the messenger, but instead, focus in on the message, because before I discovered what actually worked with women, I was on the receiving end of this crap for years.  I’m glad I finally awakened to reality.)

Onward to the next truth.

2) You will learn what you most need to know about where you stand with a woman by watching what she does with her vagina…

...Instead Of Listening To What She Says With Her Mouth

Now listen; what I’m saying here is actually quite simple to understand. And you may be thinking, “I already know that, RJ”.

Ok. Fair enough.

But I’ve found in more than two decades of teaching and doing change work with people, that the obvious and simple is often overlooked.

So remember what I said in my latest book, “Secrets Of Speed Seduction® Mastery”:

“The ability to extract maximum information from a confusing situation is a game-changer.”

My friend, it was true when I put it on Page 88. It was true then. It’s true today. And it will be true when both you and I are long gone and dust.

This all leads us to a third important truth/lesson/conclusion.

3) Don’t take a woman as any kind of serious prospect until after you’ve done the Mattress Macarena with her.

What’s that you say?

You’d never build up a big emotional attachment to a woman, spend weeks or months fantasizing about her, telling your friend how great she is and how much you are into her?

Don’t be too sure.

Don’t be too sure.

Don’t be too sure.

I’ve seen this happen time and again, especially with guys who are terribly lonely because they haven’t been with a woman in quite a while.

Yes; it sure takes discipline and an alertness to do what works when things have not worked well in a long time.

But it’s necessary.  And when you do what works, no matter what your first instinct may be, then…

…Moist Pink Abundance Is Yours To Command!

And that sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?



P.S. If you’ve found this post has really hit a nerve, stirred you up, perhaps even pissed you off, could you do me a big favor?

I’m sure you know at least one (probably more) guy who needs to receive this message right between his eyes.

So could you, without spamming, send them the link to this blog post?

I’ll make it easy:

Just copy and paste this – http://www.seduction.com/blog/if-i-had-a-nickel/ – and send it off in an email or text.

Because no one deserves to go through the ass-kicking guys get when take what women SAY seriously on this issue.


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14 Responses to If I Had A Nickel….

  1. J says:

    Couldn’t agree more. In my experience, my “best relationships” have always involved getting to bed early in. When I’ve gotten emotionally attached first, I’ve always wound up disappointed.

  2. Enrique says:

    thankyou for this, ill put it to good use

  3. Robert2 says:

    i have no chance of success with what the women says she wants or thinks she wants. Then what will be a usefull response to create?

    • Russell in the bushes says:

      Her response should be feeling those best feelings she’s never felt before with any other man, visualizing vivid images in her mind of those and have her emotions come out. Look for that response, and then anchor it. ….moving swiftly along. …..then fire that anchor off later during a later conversation.

  4. robi says:

    you are legend, I watched many youtubes videos related to dating, and read many books, articles, I attended seminars and dated many women, I did many researches in women’s Psychology and human behaviours but to be honest with you, the way you present the facts about dating is so unique and also I love your youtube videos for one reason, the reason is you teach people from your heart and it is important, I like your honesty, but in the same time I ask myself why some people critisize your teaching , is it because you are so successful or may be for another reason? thanks, your friend Robi.

  5. tom says:

    this is the ultimate wisdom, but getting this penetrate in to my thick skull is the big problem for me

    • Russell in the bushes says:

      Calling yourself thick is never a good place to start my friend. How about get yourself into a state when you believe absorbing anything is possible and then imagine your head is a sponge and speedseduction is fluid and your going to soak up every last drop. ….hmmm….How’s that for a slice of fried gold?

  6. Miro says:

    Hi. What\’s that metaphore about – 2) You will learn what you most need to know about where you stand with a woman by watching what she does with her vagina…

    English is not my first language.

  7. CC says:

    Ross, you are a absolutely right (as usual). After over a decade of being an AFC (I’m 30) I came across ur material & have consistently applied it for the last 2 years. One of the weirdest experiences is seeing girls who took me for granted during my AFC/nice guys days turn around due to the changed vibe I’ve been giving off.

    Just the inner confidence one gets from realizing that I have choice & the skills to pursue them is priceless. I hope you contine doing live seminars as I’d love to attend one in the near future. Piece & peace!

  8. zarathud says:

    I think the way it works is if you can see her vagina, you’re on the right track. If she always has her pants on around you, then you might want to think twice about including her in your fantasy life.

    I’ve done this really bad in the past. What I find now is when I meed someone I really click with, I might be very excited about it for a day or two afterward and replay every last detail of the time we spent together over and over to reinforce everything I did right and enjoyed with her, but the minute that starts to project into the future, there’s a big alarm that goes off in my head and the only thing I will dispassionately consider is what, if anything my next move might be. Where do I want to lead her next?

    I say what, “if anything” my next move might be, because if it’s my super cute and married hairstylist, for example, I’m not looking for anything more than what we already do, so conversations with her are reviewed for anything that might be of use in the future and then I don’t think about her until the next time I see her.

    Speaking of which, while I was sitting in the mall waiting for a haircut yesterday, there were a few major HB’s milling around and just for the hell of it, I was very open about checking them out. Not all of them, but my reasoning was something along the lines of, “as long as she’s of age, if she’s really to young to consider as a serious prospect, why not enjoy taking in a really good look.” The response I got was for the most part exactly in kind. They would either check me out the exact same way, and/or kind of do a modeling thing to make sure I got all the angles I was looking for. I only did this for a couple of minutes and it occurred to me that it wasn’t necessarily about the age issue that gave me permission to do it, but there might be something F$#@!& going on when I “considering her as a serious prospect”.

    Up until that moment, there might have been something F$#@!* going on…and I new have the experience to see clearly and to choose my looks, not as a rule that I should always do a certain action as part of some overall code of behavior, but rather as one variable in a game that is played for fun and mutual benefit and a variable that I a free to change at will, as it suits the moment, and the intent of the current interaction.

  9. A M says:

    Thinking to when I was begging and bullshitting to get what I wanted, really sad… you never explained how you get to this model…
    I suppose by mistake, starting from nlp…
    Btw this book is different from the first one.

  10. Russell in the bushes says:

    When I’ve said ”im not nice” to a woman up until now, often, before I have had chance to say ”I’m pleasing” they’ll often snap in and say ”so your nasty then?” Apart from that telling you a lot about the limited way of thinking they are used to, it also got me thinking about self control. I mean how far away from nice and how close to nasty do you want to be when we are dealing with women?

    It’s just that, ..I know you Ross have been f#*^ing women who already have borefriends which could effectively endanger the lives of any three of you, from a small degree or to a larger one, maybe even leading to death. So I need to understand where you can pull that off AND while being responsible at the same time. How does that work sir ? I require that understanding please.
    Respectfully yours,

  11. Rheo says:

    Would making out, kissing, fingering, dry humping and blowjobs count as good as “banging her” or should she be considered a serious prospect strictly only after banging her?

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