The Calculus Of Cootch

Dear Seeker of Success,

Recently I’ve been putting a lot of thought into some of the elements of successful Sarging for big, hectic cities like LA(where I’ve lived my entire life).

Now please bear in mind that everything I teach about getting into the right state of mind, having the right beliefs and attitudes, knowing how to capture and lead her imagination and emotions, knowing how to command the 4 vibes, etc etc still holds true.

I’ve also come to realize that there are some factors that are also crucial,  for getting cootch in the big city.

Listen: we live in an attention deficit disordered world.

Here in LA, I’ve calculated that from the time of your first talking to a woman, even if you’ve actually made a very good impression and connection(but not including banging or serious physical contact) you have about 72 hours to make the next contact and, at the very least, have a good conversation that sets up another meeting(also with the next 72 hours).

Now, what I’m about to say may seem like I’m putting women down.  Actually, I think it applies to anyone who lives in a big city that requires you to scramble to survive and that steeps you in an environment that is totally over stimulated.

My experience has shown me that, absent a same night banging,  if you can’t get in that next conversation within 72 hours, the odds of you ever getting to get with her drop to about 3 -1 against.

If you do get in that second conversation and don’t get another CONFIRMED meeting/hang out within 72 hours, the odds drop to about 7.5 to 1 against.

And the worst scenario: you actually do get that CONFIRMED meeting, but for whatever reason she cancels or flakes…

The Odds Drop To About 35-1 Against You Ever
Playing “Bump The Membranes” With Her!

Now in addition to the attention deficit factor, there is another factor that is perhaps even more important.

All Hail Eris! All Hail Discordia!

In case you don’t know your mythology, Discordia/Eris is the goddess of chaos and disorder.

She’s the monkey wrench in the machinery.

The real force behind Murphy’s Law.

The one who breaks the condom just before you shoot your load.

The cunt who hands you the winning lottery ticket, only to have your dog eat it.

To put it briefly: anything can happen, anytime, to break your intended lay’s attention and interest, and your momentum in moving things forward.

(I’m not talking about lame excuses. I’m talking about real shit).

A relative could die.  A girlfriend could have a crisis and they wind up convincing each other men suck.  She could wake up with a vaginal discharge that would make a pack of great white sharks puke up their lunch.

Add in this: women in the big city are so over-stimulated that they can either shut down or get utterly distracted or both!

Hell; some other guy who has got better game could meet her and lay her on one of the nights between the time you’ve met her and the time you get a hold of her.

What I’m saying here is, that even with the best of skills…

Chaos Rules, A Woman’s Attention Span Is
Very Short, So Your Timing And Keeping
The Momentum Up Is Crucial!

If this seems a bit jarring or upsetting, in another sense,  I think it is actually comforting.

It means simply recognizing that “near misses”, puzzling sudden disappearances, “flaking” etc are not about you.

They are simply realities that come with the territory.  Like getting bruised up a bit when you are prize-fighter; you know it’s going to happen and as long as you don’t get knocked out, it’s not that big a deal.

And it basically comes down to intelligent expectation management.

I’ve done letter-perfect sarges that still don’t wind up going anywhere.

(Hell, I invented this stuff, so I know what a good sarge looks, sounds and feels like).

The conclusion to all this?

Recognize the importance of timing and momentum.

Accept the role of Our Lady Of Lousy Breaks And Dashed Dicking, Discordia!

(Hail Eris! Hail Discordia!)

And realize that even with all your skills, sometimes the odds just break against you.

Peace,

RJ

P.S.   When Eris rolls that golden apple into your getting laid plans, the best medicine is managing your beliefs and energy. You can learn everything you need to know about that right here:  Rapid and Total Success With Women

P.P.S.  She was not invited to the party, held on Limbo Peak
So she threw a golden apple, ‘stead of turn the other cheek
Well it cracked the holy punch bowl
And it make the nectar leak
Her apple core is strong!