Dear Seeker of Success,
Yesterday I shared with you the story of the student who decided to implement a “friends first” policy in his girl-getting game.
I can think of a few F-words that go along with this policy.
And I can pretty much guarantee that fornication is NOT one of them.
All too true in this particular student’s case, because now I’m going to show you how he not only didn’t get laid, but then he committed a Sargy sin.
First, the result he got when he actually did something Sargingly decent.
But then, he harrowingly allowed “friends first” to stop him from taking it to the next level:
Just to take a sidetrack, I did some SS patterns and techniques with a girl I met at work.
We were hanging out one night, talking, and we were just talking about ourselves and relationships, and somewhere in the conversation I threw in “yea, that’s why I always go for it, even if the girl does have a boyfriend…because who knows if the guy really is what she’s looking for or if she wants more…but I’m honest with myself. I have to believe that I really am better for her than her boyfriend. Then I have no problem.”
This apparently set off something in her head (she had a bf at the time, although he was far away), because that night she kissed me on the cheek from her own volition.
Exciting.
Hot.
Sexy.
WOW! A KISS ON THE CHEEK!
STOP THE PRESSES!
I am mocking this for a REASON.
I want him (and you, if you consider this a big score) to be slapped awake.
WHAT STOPPED HIM from escalating when SHE initiated?
What was he waiting for, if he thought this set off something in her head that could have gotten her giving HIM head?
If Getting A Peck On The Cheek Is A GOAL,
Then You Are Viewing Her As The
Rare Prize To Be Waited For.
Not good.
Let’s change it.
Spend some time thinking about rapport and calibration.
What are you doing right with these?
Where could you improve to get the results YOU want?
YOU have the gift. You can create these feelings now whenever you like wherever you go.
SO MOVE ON.
OK – here’s the part where he Sargily sinned:
Well, one thing I know I’m doing right is getting feedback from one of my female friends. She and I are really good friends and understand each other very well. I ran the story of this girl by her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and then move in.
OH MY GOD!
HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY!
Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?
Getting Advice About Women,
From Other Women, Is A One-Way Ticket
To Perpetual Celibacy.
Sinner, please believe in your future.
Believe and envision being able to create these powerful feelings as a common, every-day thing.
NOT a rare event.
She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING.
YOU Are The Gift For GIVING.
YOU Are The Rarety; A Man Who
Evokes Powerful Feelings.
SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.
So move on.
BELIEVE in finding someone more open.
And Goddamn it, calibrate to her responsiveness and program in getting physical.
YOU CAN DO IT!
When I responded to him personally, I included this Sargy mantra for him to remember every time he felt compelled to implement Friends First:
Silently Sargy is watching and waiting
Come home, sinner, come home
Walking the back fence
He’s calling you homeward
Come home, sinner come homeHe wandered the alleys
And danced on the rooftops
Come home, sinner, come home
So you could get pussy
And pull out all the stopsCOME HOME, SINNER, COME HOME.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. If you, too, have found yourself astray, let me personally lead you to scintillatingly sweet Sargy success.
See me in San Diego.
By boat, by plane, by train.
But for the sake of your Sarge, see me at the San Diego Speed Seduction® seminar!
ROSS, Remember the, never leave a man behind policy. Even if the man is a delusional wussy. I think he needs hardcore PT as well as a GIANT kick in the ass.
But if this guy does not fix his intent, he is going to remain an AFC.
@David
Got it. No one is leaving him anywhere!
“. I ran the story of this girl by
> her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and
> then move in.’
“OH MY GOD! HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY! Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?”
There is so much ‘disinformation” in life presented as “truth”that keeps people frustrated, angry sad. whether it’s going after women or
trusting authority figures even interviewing for a job, most information available at bookstores or believed by the majority of people is propaganda designed to work against you so the person/institution maintains there power and resources. Coming to this realization has made me recently melancholy, that people are far more stealthy :they will you tell you “it’s in your best interests” when in fact it’s designed to cripple you and help there BEST INTERESTS. The earlier a person swallows this bitter pill the better so as to not waste time. If there is an area you need help in, seek out people like RJ who know how things really work and go against the grain or even ruffle feathers, not just pick up, but anything
“She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING. YOU are the gift for GIVING. ”
Brilliant
“YOU are the rarety; a man who evokes powerful feelings. SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.”
DOUBLE BRILLIANT
@Lets Go Huna
I love going against the grain and ruffling feathers. No day is complete without doing some of that.
As for disinformation, now guys have the PUA community spreading lies and crap.
Luckily the Word Of Sarge can be found right here.
RJ
This poor guy needs some serious help. A kiss on the cheek is the equivalant to a handshake for most women, there’s nothing sexual about it. (Except for Richard Dawson when he hosted the Family Fued, there was something creepy about the way he kissed all those female contanstants.) Anyway, it sounds like this guys female friend is giving him HORRIBLE advice. Maybe she’s worried he’s going to get hurt or the girl is out of his league or some bullshit like that. You gotta be bold, dude, go for it and then move on if it doesn’t work out!
On a somewhat related note; I was listening to this radio show yesterday and this women was talking about a bad boys vs nice guys study that just came out. (The study basically said that women are still more attracted to bad boys than nice guys, big surprise.) All these women were calling in and giving terrible advice to men about how they should just be nice and they’ll eventually meet a great women. (The same woman would then talk about how when she was younger she used to fuck all the bad boys and now she’s “over it” and just wants a nice guy. So basically these women were total hypocrits saying when they were young and attractive they were screwing the exciting bad boys, but now that they’re old and ugly they want a nice sweet guy. Hmmm. No thanks.) I tried to phone the show and call these chicks on their bullshit, but I couldn’t get through. PS – I realize that seduction isn’t all about being a “bad boy” but I see so many stereotypical nice guys (myself often included) getting walked on by women, it makes me mad to hear these chicks spewing their lies on the radio. I try to find balance in my own life and be part bad boy part nice guy, it’s the ying and the yang.
@Dave310
Dave, I feel your pain. I’ve been there.
For me, “nice guys” suffer from the following skills deficits:
1. They don’t understand how sexual women are and falsely believe women need lot of “love” “courting” etc to be ready, willing and eager to fuck.
2. They don’t understand how much sexual arousal for women relies on consensual power exchange and the very aggression they are afraid to show.
3. They don’t have the tools/skills to convey sexuality(as opposed to horniness/desperation/creepiness) from the get go.
4. They don’t have the tools/skills to begin the touch process from the very start.
5. They lack the skills to sexually escalate.
6. They take women’s last minute auto-pilot objections at face value.
7. This is crucial: they are so tuned into a woman’s emotions that they actually feel those emotions and allow the woman to become the emotional leader. So if a woman is feeling nervous or uncertain, rather than merely see where she is at, they GO there emotionally, and lose their own intent/leadership.
8. Many “nice guys” confuse genuine expression of emotion with being maudlin ,sentimental, gushy.
9. Many “nice guys” have issues around body image/shame, sex shame/trauma/violation, emotional baggage from abusive parents, etc.
10. Some “nice guys” lack sexual confidence to such a degree that they need to be utterly certain a woman loves, accept and approves of them before they’ll even attempt to whip it out and stick it in.
RJ
Lmao….hilarious writing
@Ebene Of course…I used to write comedy, remember?
Ross, glad you touched upon something really that people don’t talk about when they talk about the “nice vs bad boy” thing. The “bad boys” are usually more confident (im kind of a bad boy but i have other issues im trying to take care of) and therefore they get put in that category. But like NLP teaches we have to look at the motivations of what people do. You and yeah, I will admit (dont take this wrong way) Gunwitch are the only two I’ve seen who have talked about this stuff that straightforward in the scene. I’m glad I’m into your stuff, and also want to give you a shout out for the Magick and Psychic Influence course. Huge influence on my life!
@Matt Well, Gunwitch took a shot at it, didn’t he? ha ha…
“she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and then move in.”
grrrrrrrr!! I hate it when they parrot there programming
“YOU Are The Gift For GIVING.
YOU Are The Rarety; A Man Who
Evokes Powerful Feelings.
SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.”
Yes…and if you said this on corporate controlled media they would sick the goon squad on you
The Romance Racketeers are ever-vigilant – that’s for sure.
Ross,
Ive seen some of your ads from your younger days (the one where you have that green shirt on with a hemp bohemian looking necklace and had brown frizzy hair). You look like you could’ve been an eccentric (Fd up but in a good way) hip West Hollywood actor that does avant guarde comedy or cerebral drama films. Back then I could see how you could talk the hot 19 or 23yo coed juice boxes into dropping their drawers but do you still actually in real life pull young, hot coed tail now in your late 50s?
I saw my own Dad able to easily talk to hot early 20s girls at bars in his 40s (especially in his early 40s) but the young hotties look at him like he was invisible/non existent as he approaches 60 and has gained a considerable amount of weight. My Dad always said ‘women don’t dig fat men’ and more importantly-older milfs and Cougars were usually better lays anyway due to their experience and lack of inhibition from maturity and breaking out of what I call ‘school girl social circles’ (most 18-24yo care FAR too much about what their click of friends and classmates think even though they don’t realize they will likely barely see or know the majority of them 5 years from now). Should older guys focus more on older milfs and Cougars instead of the college aged birds?
Cheers,
Kevin
Don’t make age a campaign issue.