More Dare, Less Care

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

If you were to ask me, in my 23 years of teaching, what are the two biggest factors that hold guys back, I’d say:

1) Caring too much

2) Daring too little

Now, let me be clear: my “caring” I don’t mean it’s a bad thing to have respect for women. I think that’s actually a good, healthy thing. If you can’t respect the women you are with, how can you respect yourself?

What I mean by “caring” is being INVESTED in the outcome. Having to win the girl. NEEDING to win the girl.  Making it as important to get into those panties as it would be to get to the surface if someone was holding your head under water.

The other aspect of “caring” that gets in the way is caring about how YOU feel when do your approaches, closes, etc.

What do I mean by this?

Simple: just because you feel “nervous” or “uncertain” it doesn’t mean that those feelings should determine what you do next.

If you need a guarantee of certainty before you take your next step, how appealing is that going to be?

Instead of “care”,  you need more dare.  You act anyway, not needing to have the answers before hand or a guarantee of success.

And that’s better than having a 14 inch schlong and a fistful of gold coins.

Ok…being Jewish, I’ll take the gold coins, and naturally, I DO have a 14 inch schlong.

Find out more about how you can be the daring guy women love. It’s all right here.

PR (aka RJ)

P.S.  Watch you email for a big announcement sometime in the next ten days. I’m afraid it is VERY bad news. A real ball of shit. But inside of it is a big reward if you act fast and in the right way.

P.P.S.  Am I really going to be retiring from teaching my live, 3 day seminars after 2013?  Hmmmm……stay tuned.

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13 Responses to More Dare, Less Care

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  2. Oleg says:

    What? retiring? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Think of the kids Paul! Think of the kids…that wont be born because guys wont be able to come to your seminars and learn SS which would result in unprotected sex!!!!

    Well either way, hope you will at least tell us why after those 10 days pass.

    • Ross Jeffries says:

      @Oleg

      All good things must come to an end, or at least a pause or a metamorphasis. But I didn’t say I was retiring.

      • aldo says:

        “Am I really going to be retiring from teaching my live”?

        Wow?! What’s gonna happen to the world of seduction and the evolution of SS if you leave?

        “metamorphasis”?

        I feel like Ross Jeffries seems to be behind you. You now use your real name. Is this related to the great teaching of Shinzen Young?

        The only one fun method to use is SS. The rest is crap, just young clueless guys with nothing more than truisms: ‘be a cool guy’, ‘be alpha and cocky’, …, useless!

  3. Jo says:

    Hey Ross, recently i had a weird dream to ask you the very question you answered today. I say weird because it was pretty much a dream of me asking you exactly as im typing now.

    Do you think dreams can be useful in seduction?

  4. A M says:

    What is your challenge about teaching?
    I heard that only 5% of people that study seriously SS seduction get the effectiveness they desire, maybe they don’t have enough energy to be stronger than social crap. The big issue in my opinion is that you can put effective patterns in the previous structure of seduction, but it needs a huge amount of energy to change inside-out.
    You can’t dare with a hb 10 if you care about flawed patterns of information… I don’t say that acting like a jerk is the solution, noone with a positive intent could be that character, but high energy is a condition to dare and not only… That’s why there should be an inner anchor to be used in realtime when things aren’t going in the perfect comfortable way, and the only way is including life in a meditative (or altered) state.

  5. Here To Learn says:

    RJ,
    Iv’e tried to use patterns and they feel weird when I use them. Women smile a little-at least I get that but, they aren’t saying, “Let’s do it baby!”.

    I can relate to this blog as I feel very akward at times-I think i’m just too damn neurotic.

    Anyway, I find women lighting up like little children when I talk about relaxation, enjoyment, indulgence, etc. It almost feels like talking to a small child-and I lose respect with all my pre conceived bull shit about how things should be-which is not accurate.

    Maybe you’ll discuss about how not to feel akward doing patterns in the future. It really is like you’ve said like I feel like I’m doing some minor scheme like getting a watch or something. At least, I listened to your wisdom and have ran patterns in real life. I hope I get better, and on a positive note complementing women used to seem like a huge deal to me, and the other day I complemented this Italian looknig MILF and she said I made her day and she gave me her card. This was at an airport but still if I go to Vegas I know I want to get some bella.

    • Ross Jeffries says:

      @Here To Learn

      At first, when you try out new things, you may feel “awkward”. So what? Infants ARE awkward when they learn to stand and walk. It’s kinda cute.

      RJ

      • Rob says:

        Whatever you can get a woman to imagine, is perceived by her as being her own thought and therefore is not resisted.

        Nice…..Thanks

  6. Colin says:

    This goes right along with letting reality determine what happens when you move forward rather than standing there thinking “what if this, what if that” and letting opportunity pass you by.

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