Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
It’s a fact and it won’t change: women often put up resistance at the last moment, just when you thought it was on.
You’ve done everything right. She SEEMED hot and bothered and ready. She probably was, too. But then something happened.
And it really sucks when she was JUST about to make your dirtiest, naughtiest, dare-you-dream-it fantasy come true.
Fig newtons!
Whether she gives a reason, and whether that reason represents her truth in that moment, is a separate conversation. Whatever she tells you, whatever vibe she gives you, is what you must work with in that moment.
Fortunately, there are at least…
Four Ways To Dissipate Her
Last Minute Resistance (LMR)
First, you can exaggerate it to the point of humor. Many of you have heard how I overcame LMR by putting on two pairs of pants.
Second, you can say, “Let’s just slow down. I only want to do what we’re both totally comfortable doing.” You express the real emotion in need, which is that she doesn’t want to feel pressured. Then make a vague promise. What does that mean that you only want to do what you both feel comfortable doing? That leaves the door wide open.
Third, you give her a symbolic sense of control. For example you could say, “You’re right. Let’s watch TV,” and you hand her the remote.
Fourth, use negation. “You’re right. I shouldn’t be gently massaging your breasts. You shouldn’t feel the turn-on or excitement as you feel the blood rushing to your pussy. I shouldn’t be licking you.” With negation, you describe everything you shouldn’t be doing as it’s going on.
Remember the following mantra:
“I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”
Now, go make it happen.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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I’m on the sofa with a girl and a boring man, I can’t understand if she works there or she is his wife
There is an istantaneous connection between me and the girl
The guy has two cinema tickets on the table, something happens and we are on a shining Mustang, we are going away
When she tells him “goodbye” I understand he wants her: he chases the car with the tickets in his mouth
But she is too much into me to notice it
I know she is more sensual then me and I’m comfortable with it
It’s her car, she is driving
We can trust each other, also we know I have to lead her to get there
We enjoy the time and listening to her I discover her beauty
So we find ourselves inside her amazing cottage
It’s a wonderful home on the ocean: we loose our inibitions in a thermal pool with jacuzzi or meditating in a magick garden
There, we can just relax, enjoy and share our true nature
@AM This a fantasy or did it happen?
RJ
L ittle
M eta-state
R e-run
What’s the text icon for wanking motion and fart sounds? Just keep flipping through the channels.
Actually I’m not giving the best advice here. I know what you’re saying and my pain is still wanting to totally reject her for it.
Guess that may be one factor in not quite getting to that point very often yet. OK, so I haven’t really done the Inner Game thing on my formative pain experience. Guess that’s next. Inner Game on Formative Pain (IGFP) vs Inner Game In The Momement (IGITM). Ha! I’d rather Get ’em than however you’d pronounce IGFP, but is sounds like some sort of elimination.
@A Sage
Wow. That’s a great distinction. Inner Game On the FORMATIVE Pain vs. Inner Game in the Moment.
This is a great piece of advice in my opinion. i believe more often then none, when a guy has a girl who gives last minute resistance and that man doesnt get laid, often the man can think of it as a failure in which can make fall down the learning curve..through my experience the best one of these is. “i dont want you to feel pressured and i dont want to feel pressured, lets only do what feels comfortable for us” this has work 2 out of 3 times for me. the one time it didnt work the girl was looking for an “emotional dentist” because she i was getting last minute resistance…on just a kiss… so i exited stage left…
two other times i have used negation…and both times it worked and the woman responded “your one of those…seducers arent you” and i responded..”well just becaues i like to make you feel amazing i guess makes me that”…then both times they have responded “no..its good, two thumbs up” (or something along those lines)
very good topic of discussion because i had this issue when i was 18 and i got LMR…i felt horrible like i was pressuring her, after that i was waiting for the golden seal of approval of “FUCK ME NOW” and wouldnt make a move until i got that….it wasnt until i started studying speed seduction that i learned i dont need the golden seal of approval..i just need to lead her emotionally
V/R
dibz
Question about the Mantra:”I SELDOM take a womans response”, off hand, under what circumstances should/might we take her first response as written in stone?
@G.O. Good question. Use your judgment. If she shows genuine fear, anger or other problematic emotions, take it as a strong response that needs addressing. That still doesn’t mean it should be taken as her ONLY response.
@Ross
It’s a metaphor of my sarge and a pattern at the same time
She usually drives the interaction and close: how she can resist…
forgive me if the beginnig is adherent to reality and the development is more metaphoric, quite sneaky but you are the teacher 🙂
Actually I can’t understand if the afc is someone else or myself in a previous life
I began dry humping this chick in bed and suddenly she goes, “I don’t know if we should be doing this”. I had no trouble getting off her and laying in bed besides her. I remembered to just be calm and then she turns to me and starts talking to me, a normal conversation where she mentions she likes me so much she could marry me! I’m just being calm and listening to all this and after a while we just lay there silently for what seemed like hours, maybe we even slept in between and there was just one sheet, and I asked her if I could have some? (The sheet!) She gives it to me and we are again really close. She is turned opposite to me and my dick is touching her ass, I’m that close to her! There was no resistance. I sensed that inner “Go for it” voice and I just begin pounding her on the ass! No resistance! I took my hands and rubbed her pussy next and then ran my hands all over her lower belly , her thighs and finally slid under the underwear and into her poonani! Thought it was easy! I just remembered to be calm and just see what happens! Hell there was this another girl who would let me kiss her and make out but wouldn’t let me climb on her. So I just keep making out and she says, “I know u want that, I want to give you that but I still have to feel comfortable” and I just said, “Hey its okay you don’t have to do anything which doesn’t make u feel comfortable” and after a while I just sensed that she was ready, so I follow my instincts and climb on her and pound her and she moans! And the biggest surprise was when she herself begins sucking my finger and I had no trouble taking the hint and shifting positions where she could really get her hands on mouth on what she wanted! Both cases, “Just be calm and curious about the LMR”!