Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,
Ever had it happen where a woman’s “talk” takes giant, behemoth strides… but her “walk” is more like her standing in place?
You find that most (if not) all the time, you are the one initiating any kissing or making out or making whoopee or making-what-have you. Not only that, but half the time her reaction is more tepid than water that’s just been sitting in a cup on the table since last night.
Sometimes, it feels like she’s actually holding her mouth still while you’re trying to kiss her.
BUT: between meetings you get all kind of texts and voicemails and e-mails from her. She tells you she can’t wait to get her hands on you, she’s going crazy thinking about you and what she’s going to do when she sees you next. But when you do see her, she’s so reserved she might as well have a “RESERVED” sign on her.
So, you ponder and wonder…
… What’s Going On That’s Taking Away Her Playful Thunder?
Let me preface by saying: a woman’s current response should rarely be taken as her final decision or answer. It’s a response to what’s going on with her (emotionally, environmentally, and elsewise-ally) AT THAT VERY MOMENT.
It’s also possible, especially when there are many moments like these, that she doesn’t have much experience with men and is trying out some new ways of talking, if not acting, with you.
Also, she’s conflicted: she would like to be more emotionally intimate, in theory, but in fact, in the flesh, it scares her.
Sort of like a guy who would LOVE to approach and pick up a hot girl but he’s scared, so his behavior is contradictory. He takes a few steps towards her and then veers off.
Here’s the thing…
She wants to “go there”. Many a time, she’s gazed longingly upon the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle wanting to have a little “lift off”. But she just can’t quite figure out how to get to the station. That’s where YOU come in.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Agreed, Ross, I have found, and it’s good to be reminded, women tend to give mixed signals when they are unsure of themselves or not entirely comfortable with you……yet. Getting where you, and she too wants to go by telling a story, or reading her some smutty erotica. Before you know it, she’s reaching for you, that’s all you need. Keep, gradually leading the envelope, and before you know it, she’ll be your princess, by day, and your naughty little slut by night.
ps. Of course, utilize the components of speed seduction, when and where you know how.
Georgio
That’s a great viewpoint of the situation. It’s eyes-opening.
Thanks Ross
Many women just can’t take the lead. It’s contrary to their image of how women should act.
On some level they need the man to stand up and sweep them off their feet. Even after you have been sleeping together, they will sometimes get into bed with their panties on because they WANT you to take them off. You, acting like a man, is part of their fantasy world and they need it to feel “fulfilled”. It’s what brings them pleasure. I have had two long relationships with women who always wanted me to take the lead, be it dinner, travel plans or sex.
When you would ask them what they wanted to do, the answer was always, “whatever you want to do.” At first it used to bug me, but then I realized that it was a win-win situation. I always got to do what I wanted, they always enjoyed themselves because what I chose was way better than what they usually did in their day to day lives and I never heard, “I don’t want to”, I don’t feel like it”, “Not Now”, “Not Here”, “Not in this position”.
It may all be part of that “White Knight” fantasy that too many women get when they grow up reading romance novels and woman’s magazines.
@Pablo Well spoken. But sometimes the “Dark Prince” trumps the “White Knight”. I love knowing how to and when to enjoy being either and both! And neither!
Well Ross it’s like mine Zaydy used to say – ” Of a shaynem iz gut tsu kukn, mit z klugn iz gut tsu lebn” (On a beautiful person, it’s good to look, with a smart person it’s good to live)
When we sarge beautiful women, sometimes, it’s mazal (luck) if her brains are intact. And her decision to shack up with us wasn’t based on a conscious decision because a large part of what we do is by nature, like you told us, running sub conscious patterns.
In short, after the glow of that first wonderful, clit wiggling orgasm has faded, and she’s not smart enough to understand what a gem she finally has, a guy who “gets her” then the brain kicks in and SHORT CIRCUITS!
She wants the FUN and good feelings that YOU provide, but what will her girlfriends say about the way you dress, look, car you drive, job, etc etc..
Sometimes, if you look really closely, you can even see smoke coming out of her ears as she’s trying to think.
By the way Ross, just want to wish you and yours a SHANA TOVA!
May you be blessed with a year of success and good health!
@Nog May you be written in the Book of Pussy.
What you say is so true, never wait for a women to take the lead because you will wait forever. Most of the time they want it and the guy is just to scared or doesn’t realize it…