Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
A couple days ago, I posted here on the blog about what happens when you aren’t in your “Sarging zone” yet you’re being pushed to Sarge anyway.
Let’s look at a different set of factors that might put you out of your Sargy mood because they put you under a different kind of pressure (either real or perceived). What if you are in your Sarging zone, there’s lots of hot women there, so you approach a few and strike out, say, four times in a row.
Ouch. It can happen. Even Babe Ruth struck out, else he would have had a 1.0 batting average, not a .342 average.
Your guard goes up faster than a pebble tied to a hot air balloon. Before you put yourself out there a fifth time and give your all yet again, now you’ll want to know your odds even as you step onto plate. By now, half the people in the place realize you’re looking to pick up chicks. You CANNOT fail again. Yet…
… Now Is NOT The Time To Stop Working … Just Work It A Different Way
What do I mean?
Instead of playing hardball, “just play.” Now let’s switch from baseball to fishing. You cast your stiff fishing rod in the pond, and some fish will want to play a little, and others will want to play all the way from the pond to the pan.
Don’t worry about her being interested. Just have some fun and she’ll either be interested or not.
As I often teach, you can take a strong intent, and wrap it inside of a playful energy, and an alert mind.
Also, some intents are always present; being in rapport, in control of your state, while other intents are sequenced through time.
Analogy change – first baseball, then fishing….now driving.
For example, when you drive, you have intents that are always there: to stay safe, to get to where you want to go, but then you have intents that change: turn here, continue there for 4 miles, look for the landmark or turn off on the highway. They all serve the overall intents that are always present.
So if three women show lack of interest and/or are otherwise unsargeable, you’ve still got to keep driving. These were just three detours. You’ll get there, and it will beat a poke in the eye.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Speed Seduction® teaches you how to use your language to create states of attraction, lust, fascination and utter desire, in any woman you want – and do it so they they think it’s their idea (so they BECOME interested). Click here to learn more about this…
Gotta agree RJ, was out two weeks ago and this sweet hottie and I connected nicely at a karaoke bar. Nearly no effort. A week later initiated contact with another hottie, same bar, after a brief conversation she just walked away. NEXT!!!
Good idea Ross. I am sitting here at the computer. I am also stuck with this job. But hey, since I am going to be here for another hour anyway, I might as might relax, get into whatever state, and ENJOY. Hmmm…fun and playful…understanding of her world…commanding and leading…vulnerable and authentic. Hmmm…so many decisions in life.
G’day Ross,
Process is the name of the game. If it did not work this time then your process you used in this instance was not correct – get another process. Remember I have found that a process I used on a women several months ago is now produciung results – as you do not know what her state is at the time that you used the process- she may have been interested and was not in a situration at that timme to act on her interest.
Use the process- just because you did not get an instance result does not mean that it did not have an effect. It could mean that the effect could not be displayed at that time. Knowing this is one of the secert to confidence – it is not you that is be refuted rather the process. Sometimes the process take time to work.
See Ya
Grey
Analogies and Metaphors. Here’s one. I occasionally go hiking in the Sierra. All I carry in my fanny-pack is a space-blanket, a few candy bars and fishing tackle. Here’s the deal on catching fish at 10,000 feet. Take one salmon egg put it on a hook, too big for the fish to swallow. Attach to a 10ft piece of fishing line, toss it in and here they come. That’s all it takes. You don’t need a lot of fishing gear. If the fish that bites is too small, unhook it and toss it back. The small fry you toss back might not like the feeling of that hook, but they go back into the lake, none the worse for ware.
Hey Ross and guys!
Just the same way that Ross has always said that there are no rejections, just opportunities to see if she has good taste, another way to see this is to look at it as if you’re . . . .
“planting a seed”
In EVERY SINGLE CASE where she wasn’t interested, I would ALWAYS leave a kind comment like ” Hey, I know what it’s like when you’re preoccupied with important stuff” ” maybe later when the rain stops I hand in this raincheck” AND then saw the same gal a time later say; “HEY there I got that rain check in my pocket” She smiles and lets me take it from there.
Even when she is a frost queen, just the fact that I remember her is a toe in the door.
I’ll make a joke or funny comment and she’ll usually THAW!!!