Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,
I’ve been doing a great deal of contemplation and thinking since completing my 3 week European Tour. As my own skills as a seducer and master teacher grow, I get deeper and deeper insights into what it really takes to bring guys to fantastic success and satisfaction with women.
As I see it, there are three big pieces to truly solving this puzzle. I’ll introduce them briefly here and then, if you guys give me sufficient feedback, I’ll unpack each in detail in later blog posts.
Realize that what you are about to learn is a summary of my daily work and experimentation and play for the past 23 years, since I first started farting around with this stuff in 1987. I can see elements and answers now that I just couldn’t imagine seeing back then. And now I want to make it clear to you.
Element 1: A Powerful, Effective Model For How Women Think, Feel And Act
This model has to explain and predict how will experience and create their own internal world in a way that gives us deep and broad understanding. It has to bring together a wide range of female actions in a broad variety of contexts and explain them in a way where we can understand, predict and shape the actions that we want. It has to offer better explanations that more closely fit the observable facts than other possible explanations. It has to explain how women shift moods, make decisions, change and re-change their minds, seemingly contradict themselves from one moment to the next and offer incise and precise solutions and methods to handle all of this. It has to tell us what to ignore and what to pay attention to.
Element 2: Showing Up Attractive This has to show us how to align our state, beliefs, filters and perceptions so that we are giving off an attractive vibe as soon as we enter the room, before we even open our mouths. This involves resolving internal conflicts, aligning energy, rehearsing states, incorporating useful beliefs, regular practice to cultivate the proper aspects of consciousness. It also involves getting out of our own way which in turn means: stopping the process of dwelling on and re-programming in mistakes, creating a good working relationship to anxiety and uncertainty, aiming at the right kind of confidence(among the 4 different kinds).
Element 3: The tools and patterns. These include using the right themes, formats, conversational structures, anchoring, voice mastery, touch, knowing how to notice and incorporate the woman’s useful responses, testing and screening, using and fractionating among the different vibes, creating/pre-seeding a woman to be responsive to patterning, frame setting, using ambiguity and vagueness, embedded commands, sexual metaphor, embedded suggestions.
In these three categories, Speed Seduction(R) is vastly more powerful than any other system; to the point where nothing else even comes close.
Which of these categories would you like me to “unpack” first? I’m personally most interested in Element 2. It involves what I call “A-social” skills.
Takers? Thoughts?
RJ
I agree… Element 2 first, then 1 & 3.
So r u stoked for the Green Lantern movie or what?
@Chris We’ll see how the GL movie turns out. Talk is that Ryan Reynolds is doing a great job as Hal Jordan.
Of course i´m taking it… and for sure i recognize this stuff is coming closer and closer to a Theory of Everything in the matter of seduction. Element 2 seems to be the first natural step to take in order to understand and be succesful with the material, including the advances in the learning tech, designing own states and being aware of flows of energy.
I agree, as to me, option 2 covers inner game, the unrecognised iceberg/mountain in most people’s game, once this is sorted and solid, 1 and 3 fall into place easily. Not sure I completely agree with all you say about this stage, but think you are most definitely on the right track. Another point that I discussed with people at the London seminar (great job by the way despite you not feeling 100%) is sexual confidence feeding into your game. I know its not something you focus on, but it has made a good deal of difference to me.
Knowing that once I get to the bedroom door everything that happens beyond it will be cool and I will be confident there because of what I have learnt elsewhere is a huge boost. This confidence feeds back into the approach/seduction game rather than sabotaging it. So I think “bedroom confidence” is an added element to include. I’m sure you can see how being unsure of the bedroom stage would sabotage the seduction phase, and vice versa, being strong there will make the whole inner game stronger. The more bedroom confidence, the more seduction confidence 😉
Mark
Hey Ross, can i call you (the Rossfather). Anyways The “vibe” aspect is super powerful and I’ve had the greatest amount of success with that! I’m starting to play with it a lot more. along with structured meditation. I’ve been meditating for 16 or so years. but have only recently applied a disciplined structural component to it. and the results are mind blowing. I look forward to seeing what you unveil next!
Element 2 first sounds good, Ross. …Does this mean you won’t be releasing the two new products you mentioned in a previous post?
@ AJ – the two products we have been talking about release this week, as I mentioned in the Weekly Update I sent today. Here in this post I’m planning ahead to what comes next….
I think element 1 would be great to start with….all the other so called seduction schools claim to know the world a woman walks through. Its your material that really nails it spot on. I would love to see another content rich series like dc2000 which i think really changed the game of how seduction is/was viewed.
I agree. Element 2 first and foremost. Followed by Element 1 and lastly Element 3.
element 1 is rather interesting concept of how to use the information from element 3. element 3 is all of the things that are useful, but seem like the stuff to pay for, if your asking.
Element 2 sounds great and novel at the same time. I agree you start with it. I am also wondering what was so special about your recent London seminar?
Dear Ross, I think you’re absolutely right in unpacking element 2 first. After all, this will immediately lead into elements 1 & 3.
Showing up attractive, (i.e. Charisma, etc.) is not a tangible thing but a verb describing an internal process. You’ve been teaching us for years to custom design our own internal states. As your internal emotional states control your external physical behaviors, this would be the exact place to start. . . is it not?
element 2 Watson..it’s elemental
hi Ross !
i hope you pick element number 3 and spill us a few high value hands-on patterns / tactics for in-field usage.
Seismic
Two then three Ross.
The London seminar was great, full of real content and great fun!!
Thanks buddy
Ian
i think the order should be 1 then 2 an then 3
look: imagine that you know a woman’s map, and you can sail trough it, it will boost your confidence a lot. and even if you are like me a beginner it will be an amazing journey, and it will give you the opportunity to practice and get girls at the same time, because let me tell you i can be social and feel confidence an etc and not get any girls. i got the first of 4 free video you gave me and it was like OMG, you see i think that if you understand her processes you can get laid while learning and that will keep you motivated like nothing… but i dont know im just begining
today i met a woman, she is an athlete i tried to understand her processes, i asked her about love about passion about challenges and then gave her my feed back and how i live those things… trying to use what i had learned, and it was like woooooow. Ross she gave me those eyes, she looked at me like suddenly she saw another person and she even gave me her information, asking me to contact her… i think because y tried to get the recipe from her and i concentrated on creating those states… thanks
@Armando Welcome to the world of Sarge.
I think that element one must come first and if you’re looking for percentages, be about 40% of the overall picture. If I show up needy, nervous or outcome attached, none of the tools from element 3 nor the deeper insights of a woman’s ‘world’ from element 1 will matter too much.
I’ve used the same routine/story/pattern and if there was good rapport and I was coming from a place of having fun, being in the moment and not too eager, it went much smoother than when I was either using the tools to get approval from the woman or so outcome attached I was doomed to failure from the start. I am now seeing that if SS is not just part of my normal every day conversation, they see right through it and it’s effectiveness is inconsistent.
Mark
Chicago
Oops. I meant element two must come first
Mark
Chicago
Ross,
I’m still a free student. I discovered you and your ideas through a brazilian method of girl-getting. The brazilian way was confuse and so I went to the sources. It was 4 years ago. At first I got a result using your method. I kissed the girl and went out with her sometimes, but suddently I lost her and then I got confused. I had other bad experiences like a girl who didn’t went into the pattern and i felt very alien using patterns. even beliving it works, cause I had used it a few times. then i got a girlfriend without using your methid and now i’m alone again and I am back to the study and starting to go out to sarge as I’ll do in minuts. Once I was restuding your stuff I noticed some of my mistakes but I still haven’t put patterns into practice then. I think that one of my mistakes was the thouth ” I got to make this stuff work” instead of playing with it. another was to look for one girl instead of look for having a lot of them. I promisse you that I’m gonna be good at this stuff and even though I’l buy your stuff to become even better.I’m looking forward to post my sucsess story!! I think that element 1 would be a great beginning.
@Brazillian Hint: be interested in the girl but INVESTED in the skills. Ponder this well.
Hey Ross,
I think if guys could master Element 2, we’d get Elements 1 and 3 with blazing speed and glory. I bought your SS 3.0 course and even got the “Power Pack” (I believe you called it that).
Your content is amazing but it’s still *difficult* dealing with the internal stuff. I think most of us feel like we have some confidence, but sometimes I feel the extreme opposite, which is totally irrational.
In Element 1 you were talking about the female’s creation of her internal world, etc… I think some of us need to deal with our own internal world and straighten that shit out.
I’m a good looking dude and I know logically there’s no reason I should feel the way I do sometimes.
So I’d pick Element 2 first.
Thanks for what you do!
Peace and piece 😉
Justin
Ross…Element 2 is most interesting to me. You system provides number one although we need to continually learn and grow and Speed Seduction gives us all of the tools for element 3. I personally need help with number 2 simply beasue there are so many variables and some days obstacles to successfully pulling off element 2. Thanks.
#2 is definitely the one as it would help not just in interacting with women but for life in general…after getting this down the words should naturally flow 😉
I think in order it should be 2, 3 and 1
Having the inner game is important. I believe that without having the right mindset, all the other things will not follow.
To add to my comment above, I feel that when I’m in the ‘zone’, in the right mood, in a good vibe, I’m able to approach girls a lot easier. Everything flows much more naturally and smoothly. It not only gives you the confidence to make the approach, it also dramatically improves the way you act in general and the responses you get.
I’m going with the majority on this one. Element 2 seems the most important to me. In my experience I’ve found that when I’m putting out the right energy and have myself in the proper state, women come to me with little or no effort on my part. Present yourself as a confident and attractive person and the rest just falls into place.
I Agree, Element 2 first.
Thanks Ross
element 3 than 1 npt interested in 2 inner game!
Hey paul are you flogging off some one(don’t tell me your teamed up with mystery?) else’s stuff again or in this your own?
jd
@JD Of course my own.
Ross’ teachings began with #3; the SS language has been covered since the inception of SS over 15 years ago.
The newest are #1 and #2, which haven’t been covered to the extent of #3.
#2 is Intergame. #1 is SS 3.0; the machine language of women’s minds.
My preference is #1 slightly ahead of #2, and #3 far behind.
Hi Ross,
You blew me away in the NYC Seminar with your model of a woman’s world.
I really don’t see how you can leave out any one of the three elements. Plus 1 and 2 are so intertwined because it’s my internal world that gets rocked when my woman is unpredictable…I keep expecting her to be consistent and it’s my own projections that are getting in my way or truly percieving HER and responding to her, rather than the old crap…
definitely 1 & 2 are totally intertwined. and only when those two are handled can I use the other skills which almost become the natural outcome of handling 1 & 2.
all the best,
Mark