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    Diño June 29, 2010, 11:14 am

    Not only beeing caught into the dating frame, but also people wait in order to try avoiding disappointment… Someone once said that you can´t “try” to do anything and be succesfull, because “trying” brings on itself an inherent chance of failure… that´s also true in this case, because waiting too much will disappoint you one way or the other. That´s why the learning and experimenting frame is so useful since you cannot not learn from your mistakes, since you start doing it. I wish this poor child of God, whose behaviour is repeatedly taken by so many other people all around the globe, could see things through this lens of learning, so even this mistake of waiting too much for the wrong thing could assist him to grow better and better in the near future.

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    Texan June 29, 2010, 3:19 pm

    No, you wont!!!! priceless!

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    Mat Wilson June 29, 2010, 7:37 pm

    Ross, great utilization of inline anchor links from e-mail to article. I hate having to scroll shit I’ve already read.

    Looks like we’ll be hearing “Ross’ (real-life) Dumpster Morale #2”.. I’ve heard the first one from you sooooo many times! 😉

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    Mat Wilson June 29, 2010, 7:38 pm

    Oh, and why didn’t YOU tell the guy the first story and then WHO YOU WERE!?? You could have potentially gained a new client. He’s not necessarily a destined chump.

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    Mat Wilson June 29, 2010, 7:39 pm

    I mean, I don’t think I would give another guy advice, but clearly this is how you make a living 😉

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    Peter June 30, 2010, 6:35 am

    Yeah, it was probably a fake number anyway.

    His desperation to retrieve the number from the trash shows he is not accostomed to meeting beautiful women and any woman would pick up on that.

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    deroj June 30, 2010, 8:30 am


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    Steff June 30, 2010, 12:27 pm

    Ross, well put. But the pics of hot chics you post with your articles are really manipulative 🙂

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    Brad June 30, 2010, 11:07 pm

    Guys also get phone-numbers as a way to procrastinate and get distance via calling her up later, rather than asking her then and there. For all we know, this hot chick’s number could have been FAKE anyway, since EVERY schmuck asks for a phone-number because he’s too nervous and intimidated to ask her out then and there; and as we all know, women can smell fear like a deer, and it’ll drive her away even faster.

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    N.S July 1, 2010, 9:32 am

    Hey, just wana say you doing a great thing man, but i seem to have a problem. You see, i can talk to girls, but now problem is when i wnt to close, i just get there cell numbers, then after that, a date never materialise. Also wana add, how do you still get the girl to remain captivated over the phone so as that she just realises she has to see you first chance she gets. Twice that has happend to me and i do’t wna constantly phone and ask when she is free… But i have to sayyou have made me finaly be able to flirt with the ladies, but now i just gotta know, how to close and with at least a goo make out if not a date.

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    Aaron July 2, 2010, 1:04 pm

    this is so, so timely and right on Ross. Just the other day, to prove your point, I ran into a girl i had sarged earlier and she actually invited me to “hang out” with her, so i knew it was on, but because I was kinda busy i had to make the meetup for the next day. when the next day came, she flaked! i could not believe it because she had been so eager just a day before. i needed to strike while the iron was hot that same day.

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    hearts January 15, 2012, 3:44 pm

    Hi ross,

    i definately understand exactly what you are saying about these socially prgrammed rules of the dating game.

    I am just wondering, if im sarging a girl, and its going really well, whats the best way to phrase i want to shedual a foolow up meeting with you?
    And should i still get her number after?

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      Bushy Legs December 12, 2012, 12:36 am

      This isn’t my question to answer but if it can help give it a go.

      1st. Don’t ask. Create an opportunity for her to get to meet you again. Like it’s in her best interest if she can catch you.

      Say something like. “You know, it’s a shame we might never get to meet again. …… but if you find you really want to and see how much more fun we can have together. . What steps could we take to..find that happening. ..” then if she gives you her number it’s her investment. But remember that number is only to arrange meetings. …not to become a sex pest.

      Hope this helps….just test it.

      Bush x

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    Zarathud December 12, 2012, 5:31 am

    A+ on that one. Did my IG on a recent interaction that happened over a period of time and came to the same conclusion. Missed making moves in the moment long before I realized it was over when she didn’t respond to a date request.

    There are several things I would add for other guys or encourage you to expand on if you’re so inclined. I was caught up in social boundaries, but I realized more as a matter of control than of respecting our mutual desires. That and also controlling, afraid of her emotions in the moment, when those are exactly what would move her in the direction I want.

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      Ross Jeffries December 14, 2012, 9:03 am


      I think women often freeze up when they feel very aroused, NOT because they fear being seen as a “slut”, but rather they realize that, at least for a moment, they are going to lose their sense of control and become someone different than what they were just moments ago. Great sex requires a loss of control and that can be scary.


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    DannyL December 12, 2012, 10:30 am

    Nice wrinkle on a great story

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    Dave L December 17, 2012, 9:11 pm

    Please, I don’t want a poke in the eye.

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