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    gbitman August 5, 2009, 1:44 pm

    i am coming 🙂 what about you ?

    ross ata maelch a kousiot ba holam

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    Max schofield August 5, 2009, 2:07 pm

    I'll be there, ud hav to pay me not to!!!

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    IAmMithra August 5, 2009, 2:23 pm

    1. I was rather impressed on how simple it was to “fix” Garrett, simply by changing his pattern of gesticulation. Pretty remarkable, really.

    2. I like the idea of mirroring self-anchors. I've, of course, done mirroring for sometime, but I'll beginning integrating self-anchors now. It makes sense. A pattern I like to use is:

    “So, what are you REALLY all about?” (Non-chalantly spoken)

    “Well, what do you mean?”

    “Well, you know, what are you REALLY ALL ABOUT? When you're not working to get by dealing with things you have to do, what are you really all about? What do you most like to do? What is most meaningful in life FOR YOU?”

    Then they usually pause and say, “Well, I don't know.”

    “Well, think about it.”

    At this moment is when I need to mirror their self-anchor, which I haven't been doing.

    Then they come up with something, often boring, but I distill the essence of it and repeat it back to them. It's a good way to create rapport.

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    Curtis August 6, 2009, 5:56 am

    Thanks for the reminder to use questions. Sometimes I forget that there's so much more to patterns than me doing the talking, so I get intimidated and don't actually go out there and sarge. Knowing I can get curious and ask questions to get HER talking, makes it more fun. Thanks, Ross!

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