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  • […] dig into this. So you’re at a social with a cash bar (and you can run a tab).  You’re … Continue reading → [Source: Ross Jeffries […]

  • danny October 16, 2011, 2:23 pm

    Alright, already, you caught me with my pants down paying for the drinks again. I Always buy … I mean I always used to always buy. Thanks for the backbone support, Ross.

  • Georgio October 16, 2011, 2:27 pm

    Buying drinks for strangers makes you a chump. I think your friend did just fine. If she makes a big deal about it, she’s out. She probably had a borefriend, it was ladies night, and she wants some afc to buy her drinks, say, “thanks”, and good night, and good bye.
    Don’t do it.

  • Rheo October 16, 2011, 10:13 pm

    I think he definitely did the right thing. In fact I think any woman who DEMANDS that yo pay her drink the very first time, you might want to really think about her with a grain of salt. For me personally I follow this rule: If i invite a girl out to do something, I offer to pay for it BUT I also SILENTLY observe if she is willing to at least offer to pay. That tells me that she has good attitude and not an exploitative mindset and if she doesnt offer to pay (this hasn’t happened to me yet but if it does) I still pay but I don’t call her back after that. Simple!

    • Ross Jeffries October 17, 2011, 9:55 am

      @Rheo Yes! Sometimes shutting up and letting people show you, through their actions, what they value and how they are in the world, is a great and wise exercise.

  • Rheo October 16, 2011, 10:17 pm

    Also if she called me back for hanging out with her, I may consider but I will never consider her a serious prospect to have a relationship with!

  • Ross Jeffries October 17, 2011, 10:08 am

    @Mr. A

    Yep. You showed you had balls, stood up to her and conveyed you won’t play her game.

  • A M October 19, 2011, 7:15 am

    The HB goes to the parking lot with him…
    The pua should kiss her without hesitation. And if she refuses say something C&F like “I want to pay you for the night, (smile)” and be rad, showing comfort with her emotions.
    The student’s answer conveys dominance but also presupposes that she is a bitch (bad, negging when she feels shame is wrong).

  • yens October 19, 2011, 1:44 pm

    I am no pua but i would jokingly ask her explicitly y do u have to wait for ur friend to come and pay for the drinks? Then if she asks me to pay for her i ask what do i get in return for saving her from the potentially embarassing situation dat her friend doesn’t show up… den if she asks what do i want, i fake thinking then i say i cant think of anything i could possibly want from her and she would have to be creative and think of stuffs i could want from her. Whatever she brings even if it is as outrageous as she offering to blow me in d car i fake as if after careful consideration, she will be the one cheating me…. and as we joke more, i find ways to throw in more nlp, descriptive language and actually get her to imagine stuff all the while she is secretly hoping that she can get me to pay for her drinks….until her friend comes to pay or she pays herself. i can throw in the sex is natural pattern then say something about how sex and love should be something that is given freely and not something anyone has to pay for directly or indirectly… and i have never paid for sex in my whole entire life. After you have built up enough rapport with a girl she will probably at least give u her phone number.

  • Byron October 26, 2011, 12:38 pm

    Hey Ross,

    Becoming a fan.
    I have been dating a lady that keeps things even in terms of paying for drinks, food, tickets, etc. Have not sealed the deal yet, very close (done everything but, hey does that count’ LOL). I do not mind since I have not spent allot of money on her.
    But here is my situation now.
    We both are animal lovers. She is asking me to adopt this cat (I have one cat, she has three). But, I sort of get the feeling that this is some sort of test. Hey, the cat is cute, but I don’t want her to get the idea that I would be doing it because she wants me to !!
    So, what to do??

    • Ross Jeffries October 27, 2011, 10:41 am

      @Byron NEVER take an animal you can’t or won’t genuinely love and care for. ever. I love cats. Having a cat is an honor, a joy and an artform.

  • Grey November 6, 2011, 3:22 pm

    G’day Ross,

    Reminds me of a time when I had her legs in the air ready to rock the boat and the woman said:

    If you f@@k me will you f@@t other woman.

    Went south after than.

    See Ya

    Grey

    • Ross Jeffries November 7, 2011, 1:48 pm

      @Grey
      Wow….just wow. I would have said, “why would you even want me to be thinking of other women at a time like this?”

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