Dear Seeker of Success,
Recently, a student raised an intriguing point.
He shared his experience with a woman who was putting up resistance saying “I’ve been hurt. I’m very scared that I’ll be with someone and be hurt again.”
In other words, saying she’s afraid to explore with him (or perhaps any man) because of how the last guy treated her.
In other words, declaring that future men will pay the price for what past men did to her.
The problem: many guys, when told by a woman how she’s afraid of getting hurt, will be so eager to prove that he’s safe that he’ll bore the crap out of both him and her.
Next thing you know, he gets friend-zoned while she hooks up with another “jerk” who… you guessed it… will hurt her again.
Just like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How To Blast Past Her
Of Doom And Hurt…
And Open Her Up To You
One of my rules is don’t take a woman’s first response as being written in stone.
Everyone is a little scared on some level. So what?
Here’s what I tell women.
Get out your pen and paper, bookmark this one.
I understand. I’ve been hurt too. That’s part of the enjoyment of being in a relationship or opening to another person. When it goes away, it’s going to hurt. That’s human nature. That’s life. There’s no pain-free life. You either have the pain of opening up and maybe getting hurt, or you have the pain of shutting down and being alone. There’s no pain-free choice.
The only question is this. If you want to go to the wall and keep me or other men out, that will work. I guarantee you, Debbie, that that will work 100% of the time. It absolutely will work. Only you can decide how you really want to open up to someone.
What you may not realize is you’re also walling yourself in, and you’re walling in your real desires and all the things that would make you happen.
More importantly than anything else, you’re letting the people who hurt you the most become the architects of your life because they’re the ones who supply the energy to build that wall. I wouldn’t want that. I would never let the person who hurt me the most decide that I’m not going to be able to meet some really wonderful people ever again.
It’s up to you what you do. I can’t promise you that I’m safe because anyone who is powerful and attractive has a little element of danger. What I can promise is that I always do my very best not to hurt anybody. The only thing I can say is that I’ll meet you as an adult, ready for what happens. If that doesn’t work for you, let’s not bother meeting.
That’s what I would say.
Then listen to her.
Here’s How I Blasted Past
Her Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
The Moment She Dropped
The First Hint
One time, I had this woman coming over.
I could tell she was a little bit reluctant.
I said, “It sounds to me like you don’t feel comfortable coming to my house to first meet me. I’ll tell you what. Why don’t you come to my condo building? You don’t have to come inside. We’ll just walk to the beach from my house. How’s that?”
She said, “That’s great. I’ll meet you there.”
What It All Means For You
Just because women start being a little nervous doesn’t mean you have to stop there.
One of the rules of leadership is recognizing where the person is at, but you don’t let that call the shots.
You don’t let them continue to decide where it’s going to go after that.
Rather, you HELP them decide to only do what the two of you strongly feel you want to do together.
P.S. Within a few short days of going through Rapid And Total Success With Women, it’s very likely that you will be calling the shots, choosing the women you truly want, desire and, even, yes, RESPECT… and enjoying the love, attention, sexual gratification and moist feminine goodness you deserve!