Dear Seeker of Success,
One of the patterns I teach is the “Boyfriend Destroyer” which you’d use when you approach a woman and she tells you she has a boyfriend.
This pattern has some naysayers. Here are a couple of them:
“Doesn’t that make you a small man, having to go after someone else’s woman?”
“Why would you want to spend time on a woman who’s going to lie to you within 3 minutes of meeting you? Why would you want to be with a woman who cheats?”
“Why would you waste your time on a woman who is taken or says she is? What about these tens of thousands of women you say I can get?”
Well, today I call bullshit on the naysaying with a few facts about “boyfriend destroying.”
It’s just a sad fact that many women who SAY they have a boyfriend either are lying outright, responding out of auto-pilot, or they are stuck in real-hate-shun-ships by default.
Blame The Romance Racketeers
For This State Of Affairs –
They Screwed Up The Game For You
To Get More Of Your Money.
The reality is, most very attractive women ARE probably going to be with someone.
Most women regardless of their place on the HB scale are “seeing someone”.
But does that mean it’s “exclusive?”
Let’s be honest with each other:
If You Wait Until You Find Women
Who Have Absolutely No Men On
Their Radar Screen At All, You May
Be Waiting A Long Time.
Think about this:
You can use fire to heat your camp at night…
…or you can use it to burn down a building.
You can use a knife to stab an innocent person in the heart…
…or you can use it to cut someone’s bonds and set them free.
I believe that not caving in to a woman’s first “knee-jerk” response is a good thing.
I’m creating a space for her to have a new choice, to respond with more freedom and act differently.
By Doing This, I Serve HER.
Listen: if she really, REALLY loves the guy, she will let you know and you aren’t going to get anywhere anyway.
Rest assured – that’s a fact, Jack.
So you “Exit, Stage Left” – but she’ll probably think you’re a pleasant guy for both your boldness and your respectful approach.
Maybe she’ll introduce you to her actually-single friends.
But what you WILL get EVERY time is the practice that sharpens the skills that will get you your next ten successes with women.
Is THAT such a bad thing?
Peace,
RJ
P.S. If you want to learn how to meet women easily, anytime, anywhere, and totally have them eating out of the palm of your hand, despite her “I have a boyfriend” opening statement, just click here.
You’ll be doing you, and her, a key service.
Damn you, Ross. You stole all my objections. 🙂
Saw you coming 🙂
I have come across a couple of American women, one living Germany the other Australia and they both mentioned what they like (at least inn Germany) is the lack of rules that they have overseas when it comes to dating. So in a way the sick restrictions we have in the us benefit not only the romance racketeers, but you as well. I think all you need over there is to just be interesting…I think ss is great, but it only shows another shortcoming in this country
I can’t disagree.
Hey Ross,
Isn’t all this meeting and seducing women basically a number’s game at the end of the day?
Like as in literally statistically like when a guy is 27yo and probably peak looks he can maybe actually get a date with 15% or 15 out of 100 chicks he approaches as an example of it all being a numbers game. I’m also a fan of Chris Good Looking Loser PUA and at his peak looks at 27yo that was what he said it was about 17 out of 100 chicks he approached he could get on a date. I think he does a good job on looks and style and you are like a Bandler Ericksonian sort of dating psychologist for game and I find a lot of truth in what both of you say about game, just different techniques and styles of doing things is all.
I would be curious to know what your ratio at the apex of your game was if you approached 100 women how many out of 100 could you actually get on a date/meet up again/insta date/etc. ?
Were you ever as high a ratio as 20 out of 100?
I think 15 (or more) out of 100 is really exceptional.
PS-I also saw you on Jeremy Miner’s Podcast about sales and laughed when you alluded to going sargeing with him in Tempe for ASU Coed babes and how he tried to smooth it over for the chicks who watch his show (I like Jeremy Miner and think he does great stuff but he shouldn’t have ever apologized on his show for his desires as a man but that’s just my dos centavos). Man also I wouldn’t be down on yourself saying you’re ugly cause at least you’ve got that Mediterranean kind of look so, if you colored your hair all Black again (you looked like an intellectual avant garde SoCal rock musician [The Golden State has produced a lot of great sonic art historically man] when your hair was it’s natural color in the 2000’s) and did some skincare shit dude you would still look reasonably decent. Not trying to sound like a Makeover Reality Show just keeping it real man. I’m swarthy Mediterranean ancestry too and don’t worry about my looks much either. Pretty much all of us look good is how I feel about that. And the more I think about it, I think that whole idolizing of blonde people is more romance racketeer Hollywood kind of shit too, there’s plenty of Italian, Greek, and Israeli people who look just as great if not better than the Blonde snow bunny people that were so idolized in the 20th Century (I think this 21st Century will probably be more Latinas and Asians long term as the main sex symbol aesthetic). I think you’re right too about the whole vibe and energy of chicks as well-I like a woman with a good vibe/energy/etc. regardless of hair color the more Sargeing that I do and I learned that from listening you as well. Cheers.
Thank you for this very thoughtful comment.
To your point, the goal, just as in sales, is to get those numbers up and stack your deck.