“But How Do You Get All These Girls, He Asked”

Ross,

My first question comment is: Is this “multi faceted” man, attitude/ belief addressed directly in that way in any of the existing technology out there? Also, when we use the patterns/ attitudes/ beliefs in our sarging, isnt it true that we hit most if not all of these emotional “needs” of the woman?

THanks for being the man

Greg

Hey! This is great. I find myself to be the guy who will fall into one of these categories with women, but I cannot be all of these things at once. Mostly I am the guy who is there to make people laugh, but I would also like to be the guy who takes the girl home at the end of the night! There are guys that I know that do fall into this envelope of qualities all at once for each and every girl they meet and it makes it hard for me to keep up, when all I can be is the funny guy.

Great story/metaphor teaching the four vibes! So when do you use the other three vibes in walk-ups?

I think this blog really illustrates the power of belief and, especially, limiting beliefs. I’ll be 34 in a few months and in the past year have pulled a few 18 and 19 year olds. Now, the problem with some older guys, in my humble opinion, is that they don’t even believe it is possible and, therefore, make no attempt. As a result, when they see me seducing women of that age, or Ross, for example, they are surprised by the results. Many guys, when learning Ross’ material, feel the patterns are akward and will not work. They are right, because that is what they believe. However, when they reach the experimental stage and believe the patterns could possibly work, then progress is being made. You have to believe something is possible in order for it to be.
This blog also touches on the fact that what women says she is looking for, or what is her type, is often B.S. I was dating a 19 year old who told me she never thought she would be with a guy my age (I guess 33 is old…LOL). But when a guy can connect with a girl on a deep level, a level that exists outside of her conscious awareness, which is where her idea of what she is looking for is, then a relationship is easy to acheive. The key is to get to that level without resistence. Thank you Ross for this blog video.

I think that all of the four doorways you stated are good to use. The thing is sometimes when you go out to sarge or get girls you can find yourself competing with other factors such as technology. It seems to me every time I use the ss technology and im in a situation where the woman gives her complete attention good things happen, but when there are outside factors such as cell phones, internet, or ipods or other technological factors it may be had to use any of the doorways. Some geographical areas maybe different also for example a couple days ago I tried to “sarge” this girl at wal-mart and I used humor to get her open and next thing you know her boyfriend comes around the corner before I can use any of the other ss things. This happened a few times. It seems like sometimes its either technology or the girls on a short leash that wont allow time enough to get to all the emotions you need. I still think its good stuff though, if you have or can make the time to use it…

Using the four energies in an initial approach as Ross suggests here only becomes possible once you’re able to easily switch back and forth between them. You have to be able to go from commanding to funny/playful and back, and then to sincere/understanding. So, controlling your state becomes key here.

The NLP gurus all act like controlling your state is the easiest thing in the world. “Just change the submodalities” or “just spin the feeling the other way”, they say. I must say I find this quite challenging myself. I’m sorry but on some days it happens I just can’t see the funny side of things and if I try it feels sort of contrived.

I agree that it can happen with ss or whatever you use. My point was not that you wouldnt be competing with someone. My point was that if the boyfriend is physically there in the store then you might not have enough time to execute and get her where she needs to be emotionally to get with you. What I was trying to say was if you can get a woman to actually have a conversation with you ss works great, but sometimes it can be hard to get them to focus and listen to what you have to say. Like you said that goes for any girl getting technology, I just say SS because thats the one I prefer to use.

Women are just like your cat. They seek attention, but they crave a different type of attention. An attention that isn’t trying or about “methods” but just “is”. SS is really about freedom from old reacting and old programs, plus the freedom to act in a new way. Then women have security from boring reactions coupled with the drama of not knowing what will happen next. They get this from the Keanu Reeves superstar or the Richard Gere-Pretty Woman- millionaire, but these are just people who have their lives in order, which is what Speed Seduction is really about. Speaking well, moving well, entertaining well, teaching well… Someone who makes reality not fakes reality. It means work and practice. If Ross was crying about his lot in life he’d be like that guy saying “How is that done?” Instead you’ve chosen to say “How could I do it?” So we have all this wealth of material and all the imitators (not so many innovators). Only if we look for interesting women will we have the incentive to do all this – and that’s a key part which Ross teaches which seems to be so often missed, when guys set all their life on getting Betty with the Big Boobs. 🙂

hey ross do you just use mainly ss 3.0? Do you still do walk ups or keep using the net? or meet through your interest yoga etc?

I do believe a lot of guys don’t believe. Just through shear weigh of numbers you will get better results.

cheers

Jack

Mostl hot women have a guy who is in fact a bf or are giving the appearance thereof. Some women have an entourage also of guys.

I think that in 2 minutes you’ve managed to sum up a large part of what makes your system so incredibly powerful. Other systems focus on just one aspect of what being attractive means to women, appealing to one single level of thought or strategy for choice, ESPECIALLY the cultural level. Those OTHER SYSTEMS FAIL with deeper, more stimulating women.

What you’ve managed to do is demonstrate the power of speed seduction, through a concise understanding of the requisite variety that women want, in order to satisfy their deepest levels of need. Thats why ONLY SPEED SEDUCTION ALLOWS you to connect in a TRULY meaningful way, to more than just “club chicks”. It allows you to connect with women who are deep, fun, and stimulating, with real personality, and to have the success you’ve been dreaming of with real QUALITY WOMEN.

This understanding, this versatile flexibility, and emphasis on becoming the kind of person who can remain in control while satisfying all of those deeper needs, getting to the root of her mind, of who she is, and really becoming what she desires, is the core of the flexibility and power of speed seduction.

Even the way you tell the story depicts something about how speed seduction is taught, on a myriad of levels to really communicate with the way people learn.

If anyone can watch this, and not ABSOLUTELY agree that Ross is a person who is able to GET women, on a fundamental level, speed seduction is the PINNACLE of seduction technology, they dont deserve the incredible benefits it will bring to them. SPEED SEDUCTION FOREVER!

Ross.

This is absolute gold. You hit it on the head perfectly- when it comes to seduction, the master seducer knows how to switch gears, and appeals to a variety of emotions. This is so key.

I’ve realized that not every doorway will work perfectly for every girl, at least at first. Sometimes being too dominant and comanding without the girl knowing that you understand her can stop you from getting what you want. Similarly, if you’re only too funny and playful, you’re only going to be that fun and playful guy, and you might not get that emotional depth that comes from revealing yourself to her. The principles you described in this blog post are so enlightening Ross- this why you are the master.

I’d like to speak to a personal situation where I discovered this principle for myself. I was seeing a girl and kept getting resistance by her because she just broke up with her boyfriend. But when I stopped worrying about the outcome, ie my own pleasure, and just opened up to her, ie not being as dominant + playful/ flirtatious, I tapped into the understanding and revealing doorways, and got what I wanted.

In a similar situation, I saw this beautiful girl after one of my classes, and normally in a club I’d go all playful and flirty, but this time I didn’t. I had a gut feeling that that wouldn’t work this girl, at least not yet. I had to build comfort and connection first, like Ross Jeffries’ recipe in the SS workbook. I still emulated a fun and playful vibe at the beginning- with smiles and jokes and like, and then I hit her with the connection pattern… and it was all over- she was mine.

A last example I have is this Brazilian model I got with last Christmas using SS. Again, my normal come on strong club vibe would not have worked on her at first. I built up understanding and connection, to show her that it wasn’t just her OMG looks that I was after, and then later I turned on the playful and the dominance.

That being said, the playful/fun and dominant vibes have done me very well in the club setting. This post just goes to show that a master seducer will know how to switch gears, how to fine tune his sarges to make the most of his efforts.

Beautiful post Ross. Just Beautiful. This is a key idea for SSers to understand.

Ross

This is absolute gold. You hit it on the head perfectly- when it comes to seduction, the master seducer knows how to switch gears, and appeals to a variety of emotions. This is so key.

I’ve realized that not every doorway will work perfectly for every girl, at least at first. Sometimes being too dominant and comanding without the girl knowing that you understand her can stop you from getting what you want. Similarly, if you’re only too funny and playful, you’re only going to be that fun and playful guy, and you might not get that emotional depth that comes from revealing yourself to her. The principles you described in this blog post are so enlightening Ross- this why you are the master.

I’d like to speak to a personal situation where I discovered this principle for myself. I was seeing a girl and kept getting resistance by her because she just broke up with her boyfriend. But when I stopped worrying about the outcome, ie my own pleasure, and just opened up to her, ie not being as dominant + playful/ flirtatious, I tapped into the understanding and revealing doorways, and got what I wanted.

In a similar situation, I saw this beautiful girl after one of my classes, and normally in a club I’d go all playful and flirty, but this time I didn’t. I had a gut feeling that that wouldn’t work this girl, at least not yet. I had to build comfort and connection first, like Ross Jeffries’ recipe in the SS workbook. I still emulated a fun and playful vibe at the beginning- with smiles and jokes and like, and then I hit her with the connection pattern… and it was all over- she was mine.

A last example I have is this Brazilian model I got with last Christmas using SS. Again, my normal come on strong club vibe would not have worked on her at first. I built up understanding and connection, to show her that it wasn’t just her OMG looks that I was after, and then later I turned on the playful and the dominance.

That being said, the playful/fun and dominant vibes have done me very well in the club setting. This post just goes to show that a master seducer will know how to switch gears, how to fine tune his sarges to make the most of his efforts.

Beautiful post Ross. Just Beautiful. This is a key idea for SSers to understand.

I think he ask a wrong question. It is usualy a mistake becouse from his point he didnt know even what question to ask. As I will be have a talk with Ross I wouldnt know what to ask even if I will talk a week unless Ross will see from an external point of view my problems or stuck moments and tell my what will work for me. So the problem is not how to talk (from a point of view of somebody who never PUA) but rather how many approaches did you do? Also the question reveals, how Rasputin says, limiting beliefs.

“couple days ago I tried to “sarge” this girl at wal-mart and I used humor to get her open and next thing you know her boyfriend comes around the corner before I can use any of the other ss things. This happened a few times’

yeah the technology is great, but the “interference factors” from other guys interfering has wrecked more than a few sarges. Ive had bouncers, other guys interupt at clubs or guys at a gym cut in like clockwork as soon as I get a trance effect, it really sucks

I wish ross would develop some sort of nlp “handshake” that would allow me to zap these clowns into oblivion…hey there’s an idea, the ellman handshake induction..put ’em to SLEEP

Even though I really like the Inner Game stuff and consider it to be very important (and fun!), I also love the patterns and languaging. That’s what’s so great about the BHSC, all the instruction on language. Don’t you think it’s getting overlooked a bit nowadays? I mean, you do teach it. And I don’t have the 3.0 course, so I don’t know about it’s content. But I get the impression that there is a bigger emphasis on beliefs, perceptions, etc. than there is on language. Do you still teach languaging as in-depth as you did so wonderfully on the BHSC? If not, a new, updated course teaching the SS languaging part fully would be awesome! I love that stuff and I think I’m not the only one who likes it.

These doorways, or vibes, that you can and should use to get women attracted are some of the examples for what to fracionate and to recursively go in and out with a woman in a sarge. This alternation of states, emotions, vibes, intensity are the way woman experiment the full range of interactions with her world, and knowing how to jump into all of them back and forth is the key to give them a full experience of attraction. This is also a key to understanding that controlling your state is absolutely essential to keep the sarge going, and going to where you want it to go.

Imagine a river: suppose that the behaviour you want the woman to take, like she being in your bed su**ing your ba**s, is a point on the other side of that river where you want to get. It´s worthless only to focus at this behaviour, or at this point on the other side, and never taking a step into the river of sarging, and to do that you´d better leran how to swim, or get a boat. In any case after you get into the river, you must guard attention in what your doing, so you don´t drown yourself, but also keep an eye to the point you want to get (calibrate her responses), so you don´t end up in somewhere else… Sometimes you´ll have to swim against the riverflow faster, or stronger, but sometimes the flow of the river can take you just closer to your goal… Maybe you can find some stones, in which you can step your way right to the other side and you must keep watching for them (things like her personal trance words etc…) Anyway, i think this metaphor helped me to understand one of the principles that Ross always teaches which is not to OVERfocus in the behaviours you want a woman to take, but instead, pay attention to the processes that she uses and that you can also use to get to the behaviours naturally.

The ability to transition between different states and vibes is paramount. However, one should practice and rehearse these states constantly so that they will be readily available when you need them.

This is done by developing a ritual for yourself; whereby you rehearse the behaviors and beliefs that accompany each vibe. By making a daily practice out of this, your unconscious mind will begin to incorporate these vibes into your behavior, automatically. Further, one should construct symbols for each vibe: This will deeply empower your ritual.

Next, use discretion to determine your behavior for each situation. Your flexibility will give you the ability to deal with whatever challenge arises, as well as the ability to deal with the entire gamut of female responses.

What’s the best way to convey each of the four vibes as naturally as possible ? I think we all portray the four vibes, but it’s just a matter of being able to do it at will. The four vibes remind me of me having emotional variety. The beginner’s breath will help with all of this. The video was also very good and interesting Thanks Ross !!!!

equilibrium is the base form all succes, you have to care but not that much that is the actitude, when she does not know what to expect you got her thinking bout you, unfortunatly i learned it the bad way, my ex girlfriend at firts was very happy because y ake her laugh, i was tough and other great actitudes, but as years go on i started to be very pleasent to her thinking that was the way to treat women when you are totally in love, big mistake i became so predictible, so serious about everything, so extremely nice that she just got bored… now i am trying to reprogam my mind and i am very happy because that nightmare is over, jajaja back on the fields

I think your methods are fine, but I really don’t belive they work with high self-esteemed girls/women. And about the boyfriend problem everyone is so concerned about, just want to let them know that I would also kick that guy’s a** who wants to “hypnotise” my girl into sex.

Listening to what you are saying,I thought,I should be like a excellent dinner,never the same but alway excellent to keep her coming back for more…what ever it is ,it’s going to be GOOD to her….Thanks

Not gonna lie but this is easily one of the best videos you ever made because it just sums up the keys to success in such a small amount of words. I’m not sucking up at all, I have probably seen all of your free content. I have studied many different systems and the good ones including yours just come down to having these personalities and fractionating between them at the right pace and order. I have been trying to learn all this stuff but am just lost in a sea of confusion. I can feel relaxed while sarging and walk with good body language but when it comes to opening my mouth, I just suffer. I can go out alone fine but I cannot even approach a girl. I also still get tongue tied when talking to any girl that is in any way good looking. I don’t know what it is but I just loose my mind and I don’t know what causes it.

I learned a while ago that sitting on my computer and learning may not the way to do it since I have already consumed so much information on the subject of women and pickup. I have tried some of your meditation audio stuff that you have as free content and it works for maybe a minute and then the “magic” just slips away. I just do not know how to gain the confidence I need to once again get out of the house and be proud of myself that I went to the mall or wherever else I can go. Win or lose I gotta find happiness in any outcome. Considering my senior prom is less than two months away, I may have to act faster than I imagine, much faster considering I’ve never even done something as simple as held a girl’s hand before.

Hey Ross good stuff, T am to cocky funny, and that obviously isn’t working, or i wouldn’t be watching this video. I guess i need to branch out and have more variety. I have finally found the answer.

It’s just like candy: box of chocolates with many different flavors and fillings inside is much more attractive to a woman than a box filled with all the same type of chocolate piece.

Congruency.

Mixed with experience and knowledge.

Pick me- I need the 15…

I agree with your comments of being playful/teasing followed by some senuality. I think giving her a cocktail of emotions will prevent flaking, and is better long term, but nothing beats senuality provided you have read her correctly. Obviousily some senuality’s are better than others ! And I think I saw your pussy walking across the table in that video, when you called it a dog ? So my advice to you Ross is to stop playing with the pussy and you need to have it on a leash ! And finally, I appoligise if my comments may have offended some members of the audience today, thankyou and good luck.

First, I will admit that I’m quite new to all of this and confused, unsure, etc. during this process. I’m just glad I dug deep into the sheiss of the PUA community to find the gold of Speed Seduction, Psychic Influence, etc.

With that being said, I feel that this post by Ross Jeffries is all about PODS. And PODS is just my acronym for playful, open, dominant, and sincere… four words doing a fairly good job of describing the four emotional states that any man should cycle through properly in order to give a woman the emotional variety that she so deeply and unconsciously craves. But this seems to be a problem for so many AFCs including myself.

It is quite likely that for the majority of our life we became familiar and comfortable with one of these states… maybe two if we were really lucky. Whichever of these emotional vibratory states we became used to over the years in essence became our skin. Day or night that is who we were or maybe still are. It’s like covering your entire body with a tattoo only to realize that that is not who we really are meant to be but who society and unknowing choices led us to be.

One thus arrives at a point where we can take the easy path and continue with what we have and maybe get lucky one in a while or accept scraps thrown are way like hungry, starving muts.

This is where macho attitude of making fun of girls and their closets and hundred pairs of shoes overlooks so much information that we are being offered and can learn from. When a girl puts on an outfits, she is either dressing in accordance with how she feels or how she wants to feel.

And from that, us men can learn. We need our own closet in the mind where we store are PODS. We must come to understand pod being like an outfit which we can put on and take of at whim. We can alter each basic pod to meet our needs of the moment and become familiar with each just as a girl knows every thread of her favorite outfits.

If we are to act in the moment and fractionate a girl with these different pods, we must be in control of each and understand the proper place and time for each while adding our own personal variations to each to represent our individuality and uniqueness.

Side note: We cannot be a slave to any emotional vibration but be the master who uses what he has at his disposal for his best interests. A good master takes care of his servants and will get more out of them in such a way. No one wants to sabotage himself with a mutiny on his hands. Plus, if your sink your own ship, pods won’t mean jack because you will no longer be able to keep your head above water in the ocean of exploration, which is where life is bested lived for yourself and for any fair maiden s who you might allow on board your ship for whatever and for however long.

This is great, as always Ross is light years ahead of the rest of the guys, I wonder why they even bother.

Is it not that being the multi faceted man you also become the multi faceted human being? Developing yourself as the man who can get women in many ways is developing yourself as the man who can get a life. So it’s a double edged sword (of the feather variety 🙂 where you tickle her fancy and you get what you fancy, and that is, the women, being the man, who gets the life.

Ah such joy!

I think that its really good that even if you are 50 and older you can still have hot girls in your bedroom. That makes this part of human life really satisfying by giving you choice (and not by having to stick to that one crazy chick that consumes your time just because you dont know how to meet other women). And by looking from my perspective (23 years old) it is even more inspiring and motivating to know that when I master Seduction skills I will not only have lots of girls right now but trhough whole my life :).

Respect :).

Hi Ross,
I am 67 year old short semi-bald guy, who for the last 10 years had multitude of longish relationships with only 30 years old pretty girls. I seem to have found the key to a woman, not the least with some help from you and others who I might say lesser PUA’s. What you say in the clip above is absolute truth and I apply it to the letter. However, now I am stuck emotionally to a 29 tear old my ideal girl (no sex yet). I never fall in love -I can switch of my feelings when I want (vulcan). But I seem not to be able to forget this girl and since she is very far away and poor in English it is difficult. I get some indications about her feelings but not absolutely sure and in order not to scare her away I stay cool and aloof and not reveal my true intentions and feelings. I am even thinking about having a serious relation with her. At this rate I shall stay as a good friend. I don’t know what to do. HELP!!!

Being multifaceted is important in more areas of life than dating.

Arnold Shwartzneggar is a good example of this, he was a bodybuilder, a successful businessman, an actor and now he is california’s governor.

it is a good idea to focus on one thing but that does not mean that you have to do it for the rest of your life.

Ross’s advice can be good not just for pick up but also for life.

Hey Ross
Good to talk to you the other day and this post is great because it emphasizes a very important part of NLP and of Speed Seduction.
“Whoever has flexibility in the situation CONTROLS the situation”.

As Bruce Lee said – We need to be like water. be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend.

A great Speed Seducer can adapt to any situation.

Take care my friend

Dave (MIB)

Ross, I had today coincidentally a discussion with a female friend of mine about what women find attractive and she said that a lot of women go for guys that don’t have the looks because they are the ones who actually a family can be established with.Now her criteria for a relationship, as she openly admits are also someone to trust, love and be exclusive for, so what I found delightful was that there have been men in her life that did not meet any of the aforementioned criteria, but for whom she had an intense physiological response – either because of a guy’s personality or style, as she is a style/clothes freak. What all of this means to me is that if I notice and recognize what it is about me that turns a woman on, then I have in my hand a fuel combination to ignite her internal engine.

PS To me seduction is about understanding the cultural and behavioral setting a person exists in and using that knowledge to convey one’s personality and desires.

Damn, I wish I could get to a seminar. Ross, I have one issue. Just one and it’s the biggest problem I can imagine. I know all your stuff. I bought the BHSC in 2000. I’ve been following you on the list for most of the past 10 years. I read, listen, learn and I think I understand it pretty well. Everything is in my head somewhere. The tools, the attitudes, the beliefs, perceptions, my own ideas based on your stuff and a lot more. I just can’t use it. I have no idea why or how, but somehow it doesn’t come out. That’s my obstacle which has been getting in my way all these years. What can I do?

intresing as i believe bein able to shift into diferent personas and project a certain attitude or behaviour to a woman at any givven time depending on whats shee needs at that time is most definatley very powerfull and will definately work as it makes total sence. i think if we as men need to do this to get a woman then arent we really manipulating her an the situation, therfore is it realy genunie, or do we convince ourselvs thats what she wants because she responds to it and it makes her feel good. does it make it right is my question.

I remember in one of your programs you were discussing the subject of vibe, and how it is something, that once you learn, no one can take from you, you cannot be AMOGGED out of it, you cannot be out gamed of it, as it is something you just have. And having the ability to bounce seamlessly among the four vibes, Command, Playfulness, Authority, and Vulnerability, and a fifth if you count Lust, creates an energy that is very attractive. Couple that with awareness of the communication of the energy that women are sending you and the ability to utilize the various ways of using process language, and make all this a part of who and what you are daily and Speed Seduction ceases to be something you do, but a Speed Seducer is someone you are.
double t

Man! I wish you would come Downunder, get in the faces of our Aussie males and say exactly that. I heard one of your students say that Aussie males are all natural Alphas. Be that as it may, Aussie males have suffered from the constant tyranny of Post Modern deconstruction of the male. We have suffered from a great tragedy when it comes to girls. A cab driver who was giving me a lift home burst into tears the other day because one, his wife of 20 years won’t back him anymore, and two, a younger more attractive woman is showing an interest in him. Men were lied to Ross. And it starts the day we get into public school. Society hammers us into the shape of raw supplication, and then women complain because we’re boring. And keep saying there are no good men. Well we are good. And totally willing to live life balls-to-the-wall once we’re given the right information. Your information.

Geoffrey Gibbons
Clinical Hypnotherapist

To Hans:

Pickup is really a numbers game. Pick your school (in this case, I guess your school is Speed Seduction) and go out and approach women simply for reference points. It’s the general consensus in the community that it takes about 2,000 approaches before you get good at pickup. So the first 2,000 or so women don’t even matter; just have fun with the process. The more you approach and get rejected, the more you de-sensitize yourself to rejection.

Just go out and think of it as these women helping you towards a new goal. It really took me eleven months before I even got my first phone number.

I meant in the year 2000.

Yo ross, I think you’re right for the most part, but fractionating the different vibes/attitudes works fantastic I think not because it’s so much suprising or unpredictable, although that is good stuff, but because eventually you’re going to hit the right button, you’re going to say something that will make her go, WOW this guy really is fantastic. But again it could be wrong because you might hit the worse button ever :.

Ross
I’m middle 50s and one of the pleasant surprises of middle age is being hit on by women in their 20s and 30s. Everyone’s first response is daddy fixation or money, so normally I don’t even bother to respond. On the off chance someone will “get it” I’ll toss it out there.
I use some of your material and it seems to create the states you speak of, naturally in natural flow of conversation.
Out of curiosity I kept asking questions and “LISTENING” until I got the answer from several women. Their answer was (and I quote) ” I’m not that”. Some had spent 4years partying with frat boys , some had spent time hanging in sports bars Etc Etc.
It is that simple…… use your (Ross’s) stuff with flexibility and be congruent, which will make you unique. They’ll approach you for their own reasons.

Oh, I think that I understand. It is like being a cameleon and having control of the sorroundings. You become what the others person wants you to be at that instant. You are a power machine my friend. It is just amazing.

These women were in periods of personal transition in their lives. Example: one young lady had been doing the college fraternity party scene, had graduated and was consciously looking for something else.She picked up on the vibe you talk about and was intrigued. Her response to her previous life was “I’m not that.”
Looking back it seems there can be a flow to conversation and if you learn to listen listen, they tell you what they want and the state changes,vibe changes and language patterns naturally create a trance. Make sense?

C. It’s possible this woman has been uniquely vulnerable to you(or given that appearance) or has somehow allowed you to be more vulnerable, more sharing of your pain, sorrows, dreams, etc. This is a powerful bonding mechanism. Just be aware of that desire to have that in your life. Sit with it. Watch it. Then recognize you can screen for this and find it in women who are available to you.

This is all my intuitive and educated “guess” but please answer back here on the blog and tell me if I am right. You see that the structure of HOW process works-seeing activity rather than “thingifying” our world-is deeply liberating. And FUN TO TEACH!

Anyone want to hear more about this?

I’d like to hear more about this. Seems like im in this C. option, is that so bad?

Hello Ross,

Late entry, nonetheless its my point of view.

I was once lost so much into a girl who emmited a combination of vibes towards me in a very short time. It was second nature for her to act that way. She went from being a little giggly girl singing from being overwhelmingly sexual into being a confident grown woman!

So, it is the case that we function in a womans cycles of emotions when we emmit a combination of vibes that are so natural for them. What more special can you possibly be if you can reach into a womans emotional way of life when we demonstrate our masculine dominance and still display an anventurous child-like attitude All the more emotionally powerfull and sexually overwhelming by demonstrating vulnerability by being open and being funny at the same time!!

Its so easy even a caveman can do it!!!

But it does take practice, practice, practice!!!!!

Sarge on!!!

Texan

You’re right on Jeff. I think that when you are coming from deep laughs, you say something extremely sexually inuendous and then you work on bringing it back to a peaceful place, then go at it again, causing tension.

But I love being a girls counselor, then adding sexuality to the remedy, because most girls (or anyone for that matter) can be very unsure of themselves.

Then, when I’m cocky, I susally do it in an “over the top” way.

But, then I’m all hands, and if she says something, I might put the blame back on her.

You’re riz-ite Jeffries. You’re right again.

I have this podcast about Pickup… #6 in itunes “sexuality” catagory, I give you props all the time on my podcast and I would love to have you on there for 15 minutes.

I think you would approve of my taste in fashion. I think the greatest era in fashion is a) Gianni Versace Silk Shirts b) Coogi Sweaters/polo’s in their prime