Gain Inner Focus And Calm To Improve Your Sarge (Part 1)

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Following up on my recent posts in which I explain that your success using language patterns depends in significant part on what’s going on inside you…

If you are a person with a great deal of negativity/anger/sadness that you have been taking into your interactions with women and/or people UP TILL NOW, I suggest the following – but bear in mind it takes focus and effort.

NOTE: IT IS NOT FOR EVERYONE OR NEEDED BY EVERYONE.

A modified form of this will help everyone, but this practice below me is for those who are pretty deeply troubled.

1. Adopt a daily regimen to calm yourself. BBM (Beginner’s Breath Meditation) works.
2. Develop a focus practice where you gently bring your attention back to your chosen object of focus. Do this daily. I gave instructions on this before.
3. Take a short break, go back to meditation. This time, just allow whatever thoughts/flows of feeling to come up, come up. I can promise you that, during step 2, lots of this will come up. So set the intent that this time, you will allow what came up during step 2, to come up and be the CENTER of your focus.

There’s more, as you’ll see, but for now, work on these three.

Some Important Things To Be Aware Of…

Don’t buy into the self-talk or the images. Just focus on the raw flow of feelings in the body.

What will likely happen is that lots of memories related to the overall feeling will come up.

That’s great. If you have a flood of them, just let them come. Don’t buy into them. Refocus on the body feelings. Surrender to it, without trying to stop it.

You’ll notice that the feelings ebb and flow. They get stronger, they get weaker. Pretty soon, after practicing this, you begin to see it as just energy.

If you feel that you are unraveling, GREAT! Welcome the process. It can actually be a good, purifying thing. DON’T RESIST. Don’t go acting it out on other people either, just experience it alone, by yourself.

See how well you can surrender to the raw experience, WITHOUT BUYING INTO THE IMAGES OR SELF TALK, and without trying to change or correct it.

Note: this is NOT about external expression. I’m not asking you to scream, cry, beat a pillow. That is usually a distraction from the full experience of the feeling flows.

Meet me back here tomorrow when I reveal Part 2 (UPDATE: Now posted, click here).

Peace and piece,

RJ

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