Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,
Yesterday, I shared with you Part 1 of my student’s Sarge report. We left off with him and his hot, enticing new acquaintance at the bookstore, with him laying the groundwork for irresistible arousal.
So let’s jump to the third meeting….
Part 2: She Taps The Brakes
At their third meeting, riding upon the strong connection already established in the last two meetings, he kissed her and they started making out. Then – here it comes – her last minute resistance. My student guessed (correctly) that sex wasn’t on the dessert menu that night. Maybe this was due to her personal values, her fear of seeming too “easy” or in it for “just one thing.” Who knows?
Rather than being daunted, he gave her another chance. He took her out and used the anchoring he did in their previous meetings to rekindle her sense of security and romanticism that she had lacked for a long time. This time, everything went perfect and even the last minute resistance was easily skipped this time.
When she said, “I don’t want to give you the wrong impression, but it’s not going to happen,” my student calmly replied, “Did I ask for that?” This made her seem like she was the only one thinking about sex, so she relaxed. Everything went great from there.
Well… this is good stuff!
So guys, what can we learn from this?
For me, three things stand out:
- A woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” You have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing.
- Notice how my student confidently deflected her concerns and put her at ease. For another example of this, check out this story of how I got laid by putting on TWO pairs of pants.
- Negation is a powerful thing. You should check out this article, too.
Get your ass back here tomorrow when we go “long term” in our view on all this…
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Whatever you can get a woman to imagine, is perceived by her as being her own thought and therefore is not resisted. Therefore, first capture and guide a woman’s imagination and you can then get her to do almost anything you want… and she’ll think it’s her own idea! CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE
Ross, Interesting stuff indeed. The part describing the prospect’s “given” vs the “real” reason for a refusal brought back memories of the sales training programs that I helped develop for a major insurance company back in the 1980’s. In fact many of the hints and tips that you give would be directly applicable in the arena of professional sales. As soon as my finances permit, I intend to avail myself of your programs. They really intrigue me. Tell me Ross, have any of your students gotten back to you to mention that what your program teaches has made a difference in areas of their lives outside of dating? Of course the added confidence of being able to approach really attractive women would give a big boost to a man’s ego. They say that bees and dogs can smell fear. I’m convinced that women can too. For a man, developing the ability to “short circuit” or otherwise bypass this mechanism could pay dividends in selling, job interviewing or that first time you are expected to meet your girl’s parents (the thought makes me cringe!). Anyway just thought I’d drop you this line and get your take. –Paul
Good response…but Instead of “Did I ask for that?” I would’ve said “I don’t recall offering it.”
Just my two cents, but we really don’t “get” sex from women, we create and share sex with women. If a guy thinks women are the purveyors (and thereby controllers) of sex, he’ll always be acting from a disadvantage–and doing a disservice to women, thinking they’re sex objects.
Once a guy shifts from the ‘demand’ side to the ‘supply’ side of the equation, the sky’s the limit…
Best, KK