Still Stuck In Your Own Head (And On The Couch Alone)?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

More than once I’ve heard from students who have been learning the skills, gaining knowledge of the techniques, but yet, they’re still not moving forward with women like they want to be.

They get pumped up about going out and Sarging, yet somehow nightfall comes and each flip of the TV remote brings up another hourlong excuse to say “Let me just catch this one last episode, and then it’s up and at ’em!”

Before you know it, you may be “up and at ’em” but everyone else has gone home.

“Shucks…maybe next weekend.”

If your a$$ feels like a giant magnetic field inexorably held onto your couch while you find every non-excuse possible to avoid going out and getting some a$$, read this:

1) First, bear in mind that learning skills can be a matter of breaking the task down into smaller pieces.

So why not just break the task down into seeing if you can approach ten women and the only goal is to make them laugh? You don’t even have to introduce yourself. Just make them laugh and walk away.

Try this, “Excuse me… but I was just wondering what you are doing to keep the guys away… cuz it’s not working on me. My name is Charles.”

Then walk away. That simple.

2) When you talk to yourself about it, acknowledge and them take ownership.

Like this, “I feel stuck and I claim my ownership and management of this stuckness to the point where I find my ways to get moving and enjoy getting moving.”

3) Give yourself a larger penalty for not acting than acting.

Think of an organization you hate. Like Greenpeace or PETA or the NRA or the Republican or Democratic Party.  Whatever DOESN’T float your boat.  I personally hate televangelists, so I’d make out a $1,000 check to Geronimo Goo-Gargle Ministries. Give the check, dated 10 days from today to a trusted friend. Tell him if you can’t return to him within 10 days, and honestly tell him that you’ve spoken to 10 women, he’s to mail it to the cause you hate.

This way your mind will say, “Ok, there is no totally 100% pain free solution, but the pain I’ll get from not acting is far worse than acting, so I’ll act!”

This takes advantage of the fact that our mind uses comparison. Compared to a guaranteed way to be 100% comfortable and 100% certain you’ll succeed easily with every approach, the pain of approaching women might seem like a lot (until you claim your ownership and management). But compared to sending $1000 to an asshole like Rev. Goo-Gargle, the pain is NOTHING.

A better way to watch TV on Saturday night…AFTER sharing
“Adventures On The Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle” of course!

These are just some ways to get yourself moving.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Oh yes, here is one more. Try going out of town to another city where no one knows you and do your practicing there for a weekend.  Let me know how this helps.

P.P.S. If you are still stuck, check out my Nail Your Inner Game system, designed for situations exactly like this.

I care what happens. Once you get moving, you’ll breakthrough fast.