Why She Can’t (Or Won’t?) Let Her Ex Go And Hold Onto You

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you ever met a stunning hottie who was everything you ever wanted in a woman? You meet her, you pick her up, you have great times with her. Things are going great, and you’re thinking “she just might be THE ONE!”

But then, she throws it down: she just recently broke up with her ex and she’s “not sure” about getting involved again “so soon.” BAM! NOW what?

Listen to this note from my student, who sums up the issue perfectly with his story:

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Hi Ross, I’ve been Sarging this hot babe for over a week now. The first week was awesome. But then, I she told me she is only 3 weeks out of a long term relationship and now is having issues with her old “borefriend” and says she needs some time away from me to ‘find herself’ Here is an excerpt from an email I got today:

“He is still such a great friend and person that I want him to stay in my life. I am sorry if that upsets you, I really am, but there is so much that is hard for me to explain. I had the idea that I was not going to get into a relationship for a couple of reasons. 1. I had just come out of a serious relationship and I needed some time to adjust. 2. Love got the best of me last year and I did not do as well in school as I should have, so I was not going to make that mistake again. 3. I have been “with someone” for almost 4 years straight now with no breaks in between and I wanted to enjoy being on my own for a while before I started getting all wrapped up in a new relationship.

So things were going smoothly…then when you and I started talking… I knew that I couldn’t just let it go. I feel so much care and love and passion from you in so many remarkable ways. you are the dream come true.”

I really like this girl and want to continue with her, but this is a stumbling block I was totally unprepared for. I’m SURE your students have encountered a situation like this. What type of approach should I take to this? What has worked in the past to get her to forget this other guy?

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She says she is not getting into a relationship for a “couple reasons.” Regardless of all the logical (to her) reasons in her e-mail, there are a few things that could be happening here.

1. This experience with you has opened up the floodgates of passion, erotic energy and emotion within her, and she is not sure how to handle it
2. She has a “checklist” of what her “perfect guy” is, and when she compared you to the checklist, she’s not sure if the answer to every point is “HELL YES“
3. How do you know for sure she actually broke up with this guy? Could be she’s still with him, not ready to end her “real-hate-shun-ship by default” with him, and was “testing the waters” with you

It’s not your job to “figure her out.” It’s your job to decide whether she is worth the Sarging effort necessary to take what she is giving you and feed it back to her (using techniques including the “boyfriend destroyer”) in a way that gets her dripping wet with desire for you.

While you’re making that decision, also ask yourself this all-important question:

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???

Think it over. Meanwhile…

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the Speed Seduction® Rapid and Total Success With Women system, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop competing with the out-of-the-picture (maybe?) “ex-borefriend” for the goodies!