Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,
This weekend, I did a private, one-on-one , executive weekend consult with a client. One of his challenges was being too serious with women, and too timid in his approach.
I had a female friend volunteer to help out and we taught him some incredibly easy ways to demonstrate dominance, exude sexuality(without being creepy) and my top 3 favorite ways to create sexual opportunity(my new term that replaces “closing”. I hate the term “closing)
I’ll talk more about those in a later post. But for now I want to show you how I dealt with his being timid and far too serious in his initial encounters.
We went to the local mall, and after a bit of walking around, I decided to head back to my car.
That’s when it happened.
We stepped out of the elevator just as two women walked into the garage, also headed to their car.
Outrageous, Commanding, Intriguing And Fun!
One was young(@ 20 I’d say) and the other was in her late 30’s. The 20 year old was very hot, the other woman, so so.
I sprung into instant action.
“Excuse me, supermodels” I said in a “Gay” kind of voice as we walked by them.
They laughed. This was fun for them too, already.
I stopped and said, “You two don’t have really cute brothers, do you?”
They laughed more. Both said, “no”.
They were clearly enjoying this.
I turned to the cute one. ‘Look at you,” I said. “Do you even eat? You are so skinny”. At this point I reach out and patted her abs with my hand.
She laughed again.
“C’mere” I said. “Give me a hug you little stick girl”.
I grabbed her and pulled her into a very close body to body hug. As I held her close and rubbed the small of her back I said, “You know…this is strange but(Then i shifted to normal voice) I”M NO LONGER GAY!”
We all laughed. I let her go and said “Ok..I know that was over the top, but when I saw you I thought to myself, “She probably gets approached 100 times a month…you better come up with something different and see if she has a sense of humor YOU COULD REALLY LIKE”.
They both laughed again.
A car was coming, so I just reached out and pulled her out of the way, very commanding, yet gentle.
Without any explaining I went on, “So..are you a roller…a folder..or a tosser?”
She said, “Huh? What?”
I said, “We’re going on vacation…money is no object..somwhere where YOU FEEL YOU WANT TO ESCAPE…INDULGE..STRIP AWAY TOTALLY from stress and just GIVE IN TO THIS ADVENTURE…(pretty blatant, but she was eating it up and I glanced at her friend who was loving it to!)
I gestured to the ground and mimed opening a suitcase. She looked right where I looked and was clearly imagining it as I described it. “We’ve got the suitcase open….we are ready to leave together(get that suggestion? Leave on the vacation or leave on the spot where we are talking now?)..do you roll the clothes..do you fold them..or do you toss them?”
She laughed and said, “I’m a tosser!”
I faked being upset and took a few steps back, “Damn,….scientific research says folders and tossers never get along and I’m a folder! DAMN!”
She cracked up.
And this point, since I’m in love with my amazing Danish girlfriend, there was no need to pursue further and my student had gotten the point and the power of it.
“Oh well,” I said, “maybe there is a folder waiting for me..bye!”
Now, this whole approach was fun as hell. But loaded with power as well. In fact, THE FUN ***IS*** THE POWER AND THE POWER IS ***FUN****!
I’ve got lots more to tell about this executive consult, including posting some of the recorded files. Stay tuned.
RJ
P.S. One way I could have concluded this, had I been into it, was to have turned back to her, take her arm gently and and said, “But…you know…I think..there’s one way…we probably could…REALLY CONNECT” then pull her into me for a deep kiss.
(Only do this if you see they are really into the interaction!)
Then I might have said, ‘If you realize..this is something..special and unique….I think we need to talk again…..”
Then see what she responded with. If it’s, “Here’s my number” I’d take her number and call her. But it could well be, “Let’s meet up tonight..at 7..here’s my number and my address…’
Or even “Let’s get out of here..my friend can drive herself home!”
Bottom line: push your limits of what you think is possible. You’ll have more fun and do more f**king!
Dating is called (MUNDANE, TRITE, STUPID ADVICE DELETED)
I’m not telling you (BULLSHIT TROLLING CRAP REDACTED)
I tried to troll my PUA crap site on Ross’ blog and he kicked me in the Jimmy. Ouch!
I am not up to acting like a “bleedin’ turdburglar”, but in public places (as opposed to bars) I am at a loss of how to approach two or three women and then narrow it down to the one I am attracted to. My first thought is “three women to juggle, what to do”.
Could I go in playful like and say “Oh my god, it’s the Ford Modeling agency on parade?” or something? Once I get the group on my side, its just a matter of doing a cold read etc..
As usual, great post. Plus having fun makes it all so light hearted that if she catches you out or rejects you, you could just laugh it off as just having fun, and if she doesn’t join in it also implies that she isn’t a fun person.
By the way i love this embedded command…
“She probably gets approached 100 times a month…you better come up with something different and see if she has a sense of humor YOU COULD REALLY LIKE”.
It’s the first time i have seen it in a sentence like this, which allows me to brainstorm on some great ways I could implement it aswell ;P
@Nicholas Yes, that’s an embedded suggestion. Clever, isn’t it?
If you were to use one pattern on the girl of your dreams, which would it be?
Great sarge, Ross in love ? i tried something like this never fails
Hello RJ,
Let me just say thank you from the bottom of my heart for introducing Speed Seduction to my life. You have no idea how you changed my life. It started inside my head, then it goes out to my social engineering habits.
Hence, i live my life with the motto: No bullying, buying, begging, and booze.
Cheers!
@Bravo II How about you give me some details? Tell me your story..I want to know!
RJ
@Ross Yes.
The way how you embedded it while you was explaining yourself for why you approached her was slick. It almost looks like you are commanding yourself: There is absolutely no way she could catch onto that one ;P
Speed Seduction defiantly works, but the issue is when you live on a ship on deployment and your just learning the stuff and practicing on women who all communicate with each other in a berthing, unfortunately it comes down to do or die..if you do well, you have someone to eat chow with everyday, if you dont…you look like a nut-job, especially when your first learning
@Domenick
That restriction is going to be there no matter what system you use. It’s not limited to mine. So why dwell on it?
RJ
well since im still learning, and i have to see these people….everyday i onnly have limited number of people., i dont want to look like an idiot who likes to talk about roller coasters to the only 30 girls on the ship, HOWEVER….the challenge is what makes it fun, because it does work and especially when i pull in port around the world, and i get to have with women who dont even speak english…thats the part that shocks alot of people…i plan on starting the coaching program, i return from this deployment next month and cant wait to SARGE women who speak english and dont have to see in a working environment….but the RESPONSES I GET ARE AMAZING and i never eat chow alone now =)
Nice post RJ. Great meeting you at whole foods the other day, thanks for letting me cut. I’m digging these videos and posts, the psychological aspect what you teach really resonates with me. You were right when you said all roads lead back to you… you’re the original zen master.
@Dave if you run into me again, we’ll sarge a bit. I’m in love with my GF, but I can hook the fish as long as I let them go again.
Awesome, I’ll be on the look out for you. I have a question….
I was out with this girl last night and she was talking about Harry Potter and how she loves those books. (She was over 18, I promise.) As she was rambling on I could tell those books brought her a lot of joy over the years. (I was picturing her snuggled up in her bed in a cute nighty, reading her Harry Potter.) My question is this: how do I connect MYSELF with all those positive feelings she has about something mundane, like Harry Potter books? (It feels like I should be able to take an innocent somewhat mundane conversation about her favorite movie or book and spin it in my favor. Right RJ?)
@dave310 What I would do is:-
Ask her “what do you love most about the harry potter book”, then LISTEN as she describes the experience and TAKE-NOTE OF KEYWORDS she uses in her experience description for example she could say ” I love the way they describe the MAGIC world, it just fills me with a SENSE of AWE and EXCITEMENT…” Then you could respond by MIRRORING her tone (the rate at which she spoke), MIRROR SOME KEYWORDS she used for EMBEDDING COMMANDS/SUGGESTIONS in your response to make her feel the way she liked to feel and PERSONALIZE and ANCHOR the feelings subconciously by subtly self pointing and/or touching her a part of her body.
I would be like “oh really, I read somewhere that when someone (self-point subtly) makes you FEEL SO GOOD , and like MAGIC you are filled with a SENSE OF AWE and you GET THAT RUSH OF EXCITEMENT… now that is when you can really LET GO AND ALLOW THIS PERSON TO COME DEEP INSIDE YOU (Subtly Point to her crotch) because you KNOW THAT THIS PERSON IS SPECIAL (Self point subtly again e.g. Tap you chin) and worth fighting for by sharing many intimate moments with them (Touch her skin)
it takes some practice and creativity to respond like this on the spot, but perfection comes with live practice and just close enough works well as far as you follow the principles highlighted. You could also save the seductive response for a later time when he has it is well formed in your head or writing but it works better as a response on the spot in my opinion.
Power to the people… Ross jefferies is a Legend
@dave310 What I would do is:-
Ask her “what do you love most about the harry potter book”, then LISTEN as she describes the experience and TAKE-NOTE OF KEYWORDS she uses in her experience description for example she could say ” I love the way they describe the MAGIC world, it just fills me with a SENSE of AWE and EXCITEMENT…” Then you could respond by MIRRORING her tone (the rate at which she spoke), MIRROR SOME KEYWORDS she used for EMBEDDING COMMANDS/SUGGESTIONS in your response to make her feel the way she liked to feel and PERSONALIZE and ANCHOR the feelings subconciously by subtly self pointing and/or touching her a part of her body.
I would be like “oh really, I read somewhere that when someone (self-point subtly) makes you FEEL SO GOOD , and like MAGIC you are filled with a SENSE OF AWE and you GET THAT RUSH OF EXCITEMENT… now that is when you can really LET GO AND ALLOW THIS PERSON TO COME DEEP INSIDE YOU (Subtly Point to her crotch) because you KNOW THAT THIS PERSON IS SPECIAL (Self point subtly again e.g. Tap you chin) and worth fighting for by sharing many intimate moments with them (Touch her skin)
it takes some practice and creativity to respond like this on the spot, but perfection comes with live practice and there is no need to be perfect, just close enough works well as far as you follow the principles highlighted.
You could also save the seductive response for a later time when he has it is well formed in your head or writing but it works better as a response on the spot in my opinion.
Power to the people… Ross jefferies is a Legend